Hi OP, I was in the same scenario: I went from part-time to a new full-time job and our nanny couldn't increase her hours. We did ask her if she wanted those hours first. She suggested we hire another part-time nanny in the neighborhood to cover the additional hours, which has worked out well. Talk to your nanny first if you really like her!

I am a nanny who has worked part time with two families and I would highly recommend offering her the full time position. 1. Your priority is to your family, not a strangers. 2. Your nanny's priority is to herself and her obligations, not to either family. If you are happy with your nanny, let her decide. Plus, you really don't know if the other family has any major changes happening in the near future. Nannies aren't property, and this posts suggusts that the other family has some ownership of the nanny. She is capable of making her own decisions and should be allowed to weigh her options. Same goes for the anti-poachers put there. If you see a great nanny and are in need, poach away! What is wrong with options?

Anonymous wrote:You will be changing the balance with the other family regardless. She may not be able to find another part- time job that only needs those same hours, so she may need to quit them either way. Furthermore, she may prefer one full-time job to two part-time ones, so this may be a change she would choose--if she has to find a new job, why not a full-time job?

In any case, it is not within your ability to manage her relationship with them. Tell her the facts: you will need a full-time caregiver for X hours at Y rate starting on Z date. You would love for that person to be her, but if not, you will have to let her go. I agree that having one new nanny and having consistency day-to-day will be better forthe kids than having the old nanny and a new person share the job.

I'm the pp who initially suggested asking your current nanny to go full time and this was exactly my train of thought. Things may need to change with the other family any ways as your nanny searches for a new job. At least if its you you can try and offer them a lot of notice and flexibility through the transition.

How many kids do you have all together, is a nanny share for those hours feasible? Perhaps even just in the short term while they try and find someone new, if it will assuage your guilt a bit.

You will be changing the balance with the other family regardless. She may not be able to find another part- time job that only needs those same hours, so she may need to quit them either way. Furthermore, she may prefer one full-time job to two part-time ones, so this may be a change she would choose--if she has to find a new job, why not a full-time job?

In any case, it is not within your ability to manage her relationship with them. Tell her the facts: you will need a full-time caregiver for X hours at Y rate starting on Z date. You would love for that person to be her, but if not, you will have to let her go. I agree that having one new nanny and having consistency day-to-day will be better forthe kids than having the old nanny and a new person share the job.

I think you should ask her first. She may be thrilled at the chance to be with you full time

Yeah, it would be.

You should think of the other family that she works for.

OP here. Yes believe me, I have considered asking her to work full time for us but isn't that a total asshole thing to do? To the other family I mean??

Agree with PP

Have you considered asking if your current nanny would be willing to go full time with just you? Perhaps taking on full time hours with just one family would be easier for her than two PT jobs.

If that doesn't work for her, then I would probably replace her (giving plenty of notice and a nice goodbye). I'm a nanny, but I don't subscribe to the idea that children (or nannies for that matter) are so adverse to change that they can't handle a new caregiver.

If you do get a new nanny, I would not do your proposed summer schedule. Bringing on someone new for additional PT hours only to lose that person and your current nanny at the end of the summer would probably be more hassle than it's worth for all involved. I'd only consider it if that new person was willing to go FT at the end of the summer.

OP, it's always wise to have a Plan B in place "just in case." Who knows?? You might just get the job!!

In the event that you do, you most definitely should not fire your original nanny. Sure it will be more challenging to balance two nannies, but it would be more stressful for your children to let your current nanny go AND have you gone more with your new job at the same time. I think it's worth it to keep your current nanny and hire another part-time one as well. I also think it would be unfair to fire the current one if your kids really like her too.

Good luck.

I am interviewing for a new job. Not likely to get it but on the chance that I do, it will be more hours than my current part time nanny can work as she works for another family the other hours she is not with me. Do I get a second part time nanny or replace my nanny? It would be a big change for my kids to have me at home less so I'd hate for them to lose their (much-loved) nanny at the same time, but logistically it seems like such a nightmare to have two nannies, both driving the kids to preschool and activities, etc. If I replaced her, I was thinking I could give her notice that I'd be replacing her in late August/early September because that seems like a good time to be hiring a nanny and I figure it is easier to get part time help over the summer (teenagers, college students. etc.). That may also help my kids transition. Or not. I don't know. I haven't even been on the interview and I am stressed and probably jinxing myself out of it anyway.