Op is this your first nanny job?
I was sad and cried, on my last day, when my first charge moved away. That was 15 years ago and I didn't think I would ever get over it. I was also in my early 20's and think age and inexperience was the reason I felt that way. Since then I have cared for, loved, and bonded with many babies/toddlers since then.

It gets easier with experience and you will learn how to let go in a healthy way. Don't think of it as you losing a charge, think of it as you did what was needed and made a big impact on their early development, and you will always have a part of their growing up, even if you lose contact with the family nobody can take away how you helped that child grow.

If you get another nanny job remember they are not your children, your not family, but you are a huge role in their lives. You need to also should build a small wall between you so that you're not too attached which seems to be the case here. If you don't think you can separate that it's not your child then I don't think nannying is for you

So sorry OP. I understand how you feel, but this is par for the course.

Hopefully you can keep in touch with this family and with the beauty of modern technology these days, perhaps you can do Face time, Facebook, etc. to keep up.

PP here. Oh and I'm a nanny. I was very sad when I recently left my NF because their kid was going into preschool. But, as sad as I was, it is also an expected part of being a nanny. Kids grow up and you aren't needed anymore. Hopefully you have a cool family who lets you still see the kid, but that doesn't always work out and you have to accept that and move on.

My former charge (and hers) will move on. yes, they'll miss us. But it isn't going to destroy their lives just as it shouldn't destroy ours.

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Anonymous wrote:Cannot stop crying! My family moved to another state and I cannot move with them. I've had my boy since he was six months all, he is four now. They left him with me for a week but now I have to say good-bye and I am so sad that can't help crying every hour.
Everything will change for him...he is so used to me but there is nothing I can do.
What you do when your charges go to preschool and parents don't need you anymore? Don't they think we love their children as our own?
Love you baby....I will always love you!

But he is not YOUR boy, not YOUR own. Are families not supposed to move on with their lives because their unstable nanny will be sad? I understand missing charges, I miss all of mine, but this is just too much. Sorry to be the first one to end the coddle fest.

Please define your intended use of "unstable."

NP here. Honestly OP seems to have blurred the lines between employee and mom. "her" boy? the whole "don't they think we love their children as our own?" OP just sounds off and like the person who would kidnap her charge if she could. The whole post is weird. There is a healthy way of going about it (like it seems many of the posters have done) and sobbing about it all day, thinking the parents should keep her on forever because she loves the kid, is not the right/normal way of going about it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cannot stop crying! My family moved to another state and I cannot move with them. I've had my boy since he was six months all, he is four now. They left him with me for a week but now I have to say good-bye and I am so sad that can't help crying every hour.
Everything will change for him...he is so used to me but there is nothing I can do.
What you do when your charges go to preschool and parents don't need you anymore? Don't they think we love their children as our own?
Love you baby....I will always love you!

But he is not YOUR boy, not YOUR own. Are families not supposed to move on with their lives because their unstable nanny will be sad? I understand missing charges, I miss all of mine, but this is just too much. Sorry to be the first one to end the coddle fest.

Please define your intended use of "unstable."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cannot stop crying! My family moved to another state and I cannot move with them. I've had my boy since he was six months all, he is four now. They left him with me for a week but now I have to say good-bye and I am so sad that can't help crying every hour.
Everything will change for him...he is so used to me but there is nothing I can do.
What you do when your charges go to preschool and parents don't need you anymore? Don't they think we love their children as our own?
Love you baby....I will always love you!

But he is not YOUR boy, not YOUR own. Are families not supposed to move on with their lives because their unstable nanny will be sad? I understand missing charges, I miss all of mine, but this is just too much. Sorry to be the first one to end the coddle fest.

OH man i was hoping someone would post that because I didn't think I could do it in a nice way.

Anonymous wrote:Cannot stop crying! My family moved to another state and I cannot move with them. I've had my boy since he was six months all, he is four now. They left him with me for a week but now I have to say good-bye and I am so sad that can't help crying every hour.
Everything will change for him...he is so used to me but there is nothing I can do.
What you do when your charges go to preschool and parents don't need you anymore? Don't they think we love their children as our own?
Love you baby....I will always love you!

But he is not YOUR boy, not YOUR own. Are families not supposed to move on with their lives because their unstable nanny will be sad? I understand missing charges, I miss all of mine, but this is just too much. Sorry to be the first one to end the coddle fest.

I truly care for my charges but I don't get that attached. Over the years I've had 20 children that I've been a nanny for. Jobs end as children grow and I enjoy looking forward to my next nanny journey when one ends.

You will never ever forget! Don't worry!
However you will love other charges! And just because you love your new charges doesn't mean you don't still love your previous ones!!

No, we never forget the children we loved and cared for.
Never.

Anonymous wrote:Cannot stop crying! My family moved to another state and I cannot move with them. I've had my boy since he was six months all, he is four now. They left him with me for a week but now I have to say good-bye and I am so sad that can't help crying every hour.
Everything will change for him...he is so used to me but there is nothing I can do.
What you do when your charges go to preschool and parents don't need you anymore? Don't they think we love their children as our own?
Love you baby....I will always love you!

One love cure another love,when you will find another job( baby) you forget about this one. I have many years experience with that ,don't cry this is not good for you.sorry about that...

I understand. I have loved and continue to love all my charges - it's just the nature of our business - and tears are always part of leaving the child. It's natural.

Thank you. Yes we are FB friends and we ll keep in touch .
Thank you again

You will get eaten alive on this board saying you shouldn't be so attached to a job blah blah blah. Uoull probably be called a troll too!
But I am very sorry for what your going thru. I get it! I just finished with the most amazing family. When I found out they couldn't afford me I went home and weeped for a good 3 days. Mb and I cried together. Thankfully we are still in touch. Make it priority to keep in contact. Set up Skype dates and send him mail with stickers or something. He will love it!!! Ask if you could add mb as a FB friend to keep in touch!

Hugs and hang in there. It will get better soon!! ????

Cannot stop crying! My family moved to another state and I cannot move with them. I've had my boy since he was six months all, he is four now. They left him with me for a week but now I have to say good-bye and I am so sad that can't help crying every hour.
Everything will change for him...he is so used to me but there is nothing I can do.
What you do when your charges go to preschool and parents don't need you anymore? Don't they think we love their children as our own?
Love you baby....I will always love you!