Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 22:14     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."


Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?


Repercussions... Not bad ones, but less income, less stress, less running around like a crazy person trying to make enough to pay a nanny and contribute to our household, all while feeling horribly guilty that I am not taking care of my own children. My whole point was that anyone can decide to do what I am doing, and reassume the role of being the primary caregiver. It is very freeing to me.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 17:13     Subject: Re:how many nannies is too many for a child?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."


+100.

Children will have many important people in their lives they will feel close to. They are not traumatized by people moving on. They may be sad, but they are almost never traumatized by changing classrooms or daycare situations. Nannies are not parents.


Based on my children's behavior, I will have to disagree. You don't form strong bonds just to break them. A child should be more than a paycheck to someone. I am sure it is less traumatic if done in a civilized fashion, but this most recent situation was not. Oh well. We won't be hiring anyone again other than a babysitter.


You are a wise parent, 16:23.
A Nanny
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 16:57     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."


Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life.
But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.

What repercussions?
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 16:25     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
Anonymous wrote:I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."


Ultimately, we all have choices. I can choose not to have another nanny, and it will have repercussions throughout the rest of our family life. But I am tired of the officious and demeaning behavior of people whom I have allowed into the hearts of the ones I love the most.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 16:23     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
Anonymous wrote:My mother routinely fired the nannies she hired for me. I learned that's how she rolled and dealt with it. It wasn't traumatic for me. I cried like my heart was broken the first few times and then moped around for a couple of days. By the fourth or fifth one I didn't get so upset.

I probably had anywhere from 2-6 nannies a year.


I feel sorry for you.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 16:23     Subject: Re:how many nannies is too many for a child?
Anonymous wrote:
I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."


+100.

Children will have many important people in their lives they will feel close to. They are not traumatized by people moving on. They may be sad, but they are almost never traumatized by changing classrooms or daycare situations. Nannies are not parents.


Based on my children's behavior, I will have to disagree. You don't form strong bonds just to break them. A child should be more than a paycheck to someone. I am sure it is less traumatic if done in a civilized fashion, but this most recent situation was not. Oh well. We won't be hiring anyone again other than a babysitter.

Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 15:01     Subject: Re:how many nannies is too many for a child?
I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."


+100.

Children will have many important people in their lives they will feel close to. They are not traumatized by people moving on. They may be sad, but they are almost never traumatized by changing classrooms or daycare situations. Nannies are not parents.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 12:52     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
My mother routinely fired the nannies she hired for me. I learned that's how she rolled and dealt with it. It wasn't traumatic for me. I cried like my heart was broken the first few times and then moped around for a couple of days. By the fourth or fifth one I didn't get so upset.

I probably had anywhere from 2-6 nannies a year.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 10:35     Subject: Re:how many nannies is too many for a child?
Anonymous wrote:We had one nanny share before second baby was born ( that nanny didnt want to add an infant to the mix for the last five months of the share, then transition to being our fulltime nanny) and then recently our nanny of 2 yrs left. She was bored and thought she could get 60+k rather than the 39k we were paying her. That is not the most competitive salary overall but we did give a lot of perks and she was only 22, so I thought that was a fair salary given her financial situation ( she is supported by well-off husband). I thought I was a good Mb, and she never mentioned any dissatisfaction. But the fact she left speaks for itself.

Maybe it is just too traumatic for me. I am going to stop working. I hate my job anyway, but felt like I needed to contribute to our household. I would much rather be with my kids.


Oh and I should also mention it was a part time position, 30 hrs.

I feel that two nannies for my eldest child is where I have to draw the line. My youngest has known only our second nanny and is/was deeply attached to her. I feel quite betrayed by the fact she didn't tell us she was unhappy, but at the same time, the fact that she didn't say anything suggests we could not have offered her anything to improve her satisfaction. So be it.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 10:31     Subject: Re:how many nannies is too many for a child?
We had one nanny share before second baby was born ( that nanny didnt want to add an infant to the mix for the last five months of the share, then transition to being our fulltime nanny) and then recently our nanny of 2 yrs left. She was bored and thought she could get 60+k rather than the 39k we were paying her. That is not the most competitive salary overall but we did give a lot of perks and she was only 22, so I thought that was a fair salary given her financial situation ( she is supported by well-off husband). I thought I was a good Mb, and she never mentioned any dissatisfaction. But the fact she left speaks for itself.

Maybe it is just too traumatic for me. I am going to stop working. I hate my job anyway, but felt like I needed to contribute to our household. I would much rather be with my kids.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 07:53     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
I never do this but I call troll. Someone is trying to stir up drama about too many caregivers being bad for children. This post doesn't even make sense. Why wouldn't you hire a new nanny unless you don't need childcare in which case why did you have a nanny to begin with. If you are thinking about daycare instead any normal parent would have said "our nanny just left and we are thinking of switching to daycare" not "we are thinking about not hiring another one because its bad for the children." I'm sorry but no MB/DB wrote this. And by the way, it's "TOO traumatic" not "TO traumatic."
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 07:16     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
Changes in childcare can be difficult in the short term, but hardly traumatic long term. As long as you/DH are forming significant bonds with your children, that's the important thing.

Now, if you're having to hire a new 24/7 nanny every other month, that might be a different story.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 04:08     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
As a working nanny who has left a few families for certain reasons (low pay, being taken advantage of, etc.), I have to ask why did your nanny leave and as the above poster inquired..."how many nannies have left?"

FYI, I am by no means judging you okay.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2014 02:04     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
How many nannies have you had? Why have your nannies left?
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2014 23:34     Subject: how many nannies is too many for a child?
Our nanny just left us and I don't think we want to hire another one BC it will be to traumatic for our children. What are peoples opinions regarding switching care providers ?