Mb here. You should feel bad. She is there to work for you ad deserves your respect. If she was late, that is a problem to work out separately. But you have no right to show anger towards her.

OP here. I apologized again in person when I got home and she apologized for being late. We discussed that she needed to take whatever the necessary precautions not to oversleep and I really hope it doesn't happen again but if so we will need to re-evaluate the situation.
Also, I should clarify,I didn't actually raise my voice but I definitely spoke angrily as I told her there was no way for me to be on time now and gave her a few quick instructions as I ran out the door.

Anonymous wrote:Well, you shouldn't be yelling (as you know). You need to find a way to handle this professionally.

You can reiterate the apology for losing your cool in person (I always think a text is ok but in person is important.) But then you need to address the chronic lateness very seriously. How you reacted this morning is one issue, but an equally important issue is promptness.

You don't need to make allowances for the lateness just because you lost your temper. You do need to handle both sides of the equation with professionalism though.

Good luck.

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A reiterated, in-person apology for yelling is all that's required of you - but your nanny's issue with punctuality absolutely needs to be addressed.

Well, you shouldn't be yelling (as you know). You need to find a way to handle this professionally.

You can reiterate the apology for losing your cool in person (I always think a text is ok but in person is important.) But then you need to address the chronic lateness very seriously. How you reacted this morning is one issue, but an equally important issue is promptness.

You don't need to make allowances for the lateness just because you lost your temper. You do need to handle both sides of the equation with professionalism though.

Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:your nanny sounds like a flake. I'd be mad too. You apologized, now let it go. I'm not a yeller, but it sounds like she kind of deserved it.

It doesn't matter if she "deserved" it. You have a professional relationship and you need to be a professional. You can't just lose it at work right? She can't yell at you, even if you mess up right? Get it together.

your nanny sounds like a flake. I'd be mad too. You apologized, now let it go. I'm not a yeller, but it sounds like she kind of deserved it.

You apologized. That's enough.

But either fire her and get someone punctual or find a neighbor who is willing to be overlap when your nanny is running late (which WILL happen again).

You should do what you need to do to ensure that it doesn't happen again. Don't just apologize and do it again next week. Maybe you both need to leave earlier. Maybe she isn't the nanny for you if she has punctuality issues, and that stresses you out. Whatever it is you need to figure it out, because yelling at anyone in anger is not acceptable.

This morning was my second day at a new job and the nanny overslept and was 20 minutes late. I was really upset and stressed about being late for work and I got angry and yelled at her as I ran out the door when she finally got there. That is REALLY unlike me at all. I have literally never yelled at anyone other than my husband and my mother when I was angry. She was wrong for being late but I was wrong for yelling. I texted her and apologized for getting so angry and she apologized for being late but I still feel really badly. FWIW she has had issues with being on time in the past but since I talked to her about it she has been ontime. She is otherwise a really fantastic nanny and my children really love her. Is there anything else I could/should do to apologize for yelling.