Anonymous
03/19/2014 15:57
Subject: MB bribes kids with candy and leaves me hanging!
That sounds like it is terrible for the kids, but it doesn't sound like it's going to work for you in the long run.
Anonymous
03/17/2014 11:51
Subject: MB bribes kids with candy and leaves me hanging!
Nope, it's not salvageable. STart looking immediately for another job. You aren't allowed to discipline by taking things away, given 2 warnings, etc. (I'm assuming you aren't asking to spank). But because you aren't allowed to let the kids have junk, you also can't discipline by dangling candy for good behavior or taking away candy for bad, which is all the parent does.
So you are stuck. Look for another job, immediately. Quit now! It's not going to get any better.... and given that after 3 months the children are still difficult to manage (I'd expect this at the beginning as they tested you) it's really not going to change.
Run, don't walk, away!
So you are stuck. Look for another job, immediately. Quit now! It's not going to get any better.... and given that after 3 months the children are still difficult to manage (I'd expect this at the beginning as they tested you) it's really not going to change.
Run, don't walk, away!
Anonymous
03/14/2014 14:38
Subject: MB bribes kids with candy and leaves me hanging!
Do you feel comfortable speaking with MB? Let her know that you are having trouble getting the kids to listen to you, and it's important that they understand that when you are there, you are in charge. Ask her to explain to the kids that "different grown ups have different rules"
Anonymous
03/14/2014 13:30
Subject: MB bribes kids with candy and leaves me hanging!
The rule about food upon start has been healthy snacks only, no candy or junk food. Same rule about tv, it doesn't exist while I'm on the clock. I'm used to both of these.
I thought it was odd that the pantry is mostly filled with junk and it is very hard to pick through to find the healthy options. I've been here 3 months and the two kids are terrors when it comes to discipline and meal time. I am not allowed to discipline them, at all. MB doesn't believe in it and when she has them, I've discovered she uses candy and tv time to bribe for good behavior.
I have a feeling my MB is trying to ensure the kids don't end up liking me over her, or maybe she feels guilty about going to work. Either way, this arrangement isn't working because I have no freedom to discipline the way I normally would, and can't even resort to using her methods of bribery, which is not healthy in my mind, but would at least keep consistency in the home.
Have you dealt with a similar situation? Is there any hope of salvaging this job?
I thought it was odd that the pantry is mostly filled with junk and it is very hard to pick through to find the healthy options. I've been here 3 months and the two kids are terrors when it comes to discipline and meal time. I am not allowed to discipline them, at all. MB doesn't believe in it and when she has them, I've discovered she uses candy and tv time to bribe for good behavior.
I have a feeling my MB is trying to ensure the kids don't end up liking me over her, or maybe she feels guilty about going to work. Either way, this arrangement isn't working because I have no freedom to discipline the way I normally would, and can't even resort to using her methods of bribery, which is not healthy in my mind, but would at least keep consistency in the home.
Have you dealt with a similar situation? Is there any hope of salvaging this job?