Anonymous wrote:

I find 17:45 so funny. Have to love how nannies here say "give me as much time as possible but if I find a new job before the leave date, I'm going to take it". If it was a nanny family that did that, the nannies on here would be up in arms.


So true. The contempt that nannies here have for MBs is appalling.


I'm not sure that you know what that word means, because while it may exist on this board, it wasn't displayed on this thread.

You should really check your own comprehension before insulting others. I didn't say on this thread. I said here, as in here, on the nanny forum.

Yes I read what you said, but it is you with the comprehension issues. There was no contempt displayed on this thread, merely responses you disagreed with, so either you don't understand the meaning of the word, or you have issues staying on topic and formulating a relevant response. Also, I didn't insult you. Again you are confused. I pointed out your mistake.

OP here. Thank you so much for your responses. Giving her a recommendation is a given...she is wonderful. I will plan on giving her notice well in advance, even if that means she leaves us before the Fall. Thanks again!

I find 17:45 so funny. Have to love how nannies here say "give me as much time as possible but if I find a new job before the leave date, I'm going to take it". If it was a nanny family that did that, the nannies on here would be up in arms.


So true. The contempt that nannies here have for MBs is appalling.


I'm not sure that you know what that word means, because while it may exist on this board, it wasn't displayed on this thread.

You should really check your own comprehension before insulting others. I didn't say on this thread. I said here, as in here, on the nanny forum.

Anonymous wrote:

I find 17:45 so funny. Have to love how nannies here say "give me as much time as possible but if I find a new job before the leave date, I'm going to take it". If it was a nanny family that did that, the nannies on here would be up in arms.

So true. The contempt that nannies here have for MBs is appalling.

I'm not sure that you know what that word means, because while it may exist on this board, it wasn't displayed on this thread.

Honestly I would give her 3 months or more. She needs time to save money and prepare her plans. Is she in school or anything that would affect how she plans her fall? I think if she has a good relationship with you, and integrity she won't leave in an abrupt way but will prepar herself and enjoy he remaining time working with your son. If she does enjoy it. Does she like working for you? Could as ever work and do side jobs as laundry or errands for you by chance?

I find 17:45 so funny. Have to love how nannies here say "give me as much time as possible but if I find a new job before the leave date, I'm going to take it". If it was a nanny family that did that, the nannies on here would be up in arms.

So true. The contempt that nannies here have for MBs is appalling.

Anonymous wrote:I find 17:45 so funny. Have to love how nannies here say "give me as much time as possible but if I find a new job before the leave date, I'm going to take it". If it was a nanny family that did that, the nannies on here would be up in arms.

Nanny here, and I completely agree. Their responses are hypocritical. My advice, OP, would be to give as much notice as you can afford to give if she were to quit on the spot. Realistically that probably won't happen, but you never know how quickly she will get snatched up. If you absolutely can't afford to lose her before your last day, err on the side of severance rather than notice. Give her enough time to process the news and to say good bye. My advice to nannies would be the same, give as much notice as you can afford to be out of work, or if thats none or not much, do as much of the leg work as you can in finding your replacement and training them (in the past I have written a reference letter for families, an attractive job ad, a detailed write up of the routine and the kids, as well as a list of where everything new nanny would need to find is located) so that your nanny family has less to worry about. I think 4 weeks is a good amount of notice to shoot for, 2 weeks in less desirable situations.

I find 17:45 so funny. Have to love how nannies here say "give me as much time as possible but if I find a new job before the leave date, I'm going to take it". If it was a nanny family that did that, the nannies on here would be up in arms.

I agree with the above poster who asked how much time you would like to be given if a nanny was leaving you. Having a sterling letter of recommendation in your hand when you tell her that you wouldn't be needing her (after a certain date) will make it so much easier for her to take.

Every nanny knows that jobs are temporary - children grow up.

How much advance notice would you have liked if she was leaving first?

I most appreciate the families who give me lots of lead time. It makes me feel like they value and care about me as a human and not as a commodity. Thereality is there are far more nannies than jobs and while she might really want to stay with you until September, there's a chance the perfect job might come along in June. I guess that's the risk you take in letting her know sooner vs later, but on the other hand she deserves the chance to maintain stable employment even if it means you are scrambling for a month..

I would give her at least 4 weeks notice so she can start looking for a new job. An excellent letter of reference would be greatly appreciated as well, if you feel that's appropriate.

We are placing our toddler son in a 5-day morning Montessori program starting in September. We currently have a nanny for three mornings a week, about 15 hours. The rest of her hours (afternoons) she works for another family.

She's been with us for over a year and she's wonderful. My question is how far in advance should I let her know about the Fall?
Thanks.