We do/ have done (1) a more meaningful parting gift, like a photo album we have assembled from the year, special photo in a personal frame, etc.; (2) another gift like jewelry or gift-card; (3) for APs going back to their country, the "box" (described on aupairmom.com) - i.e. we pay to ship home their stuff that won't fit into their suitcases; (4) a dinner out to a restaurant of their choosing with just us parents (no kids); and/or (5) a party in our home for a few select friends (we'll provide the refreshments, get out of their way for the evening etc.).