Anonymous
Post 03/10/2014 17:20     Subject: Vacation
Yes, one week her choosing, one week yours. She has nerve to say that to you. Definitely stand firm.. She is taking your kindness for weakness.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 19:58     Subject: Vacation
It is common to do 1 week of the nanny's choosing and 1 week of the family's choosing, however it's also common to do 2 weeks of the nanny's choosing.

All of that is irrelevant though since your contract outlines the first option.

Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 18:39     Subject: Vacation
I give 12 days PTO, all her choosing, but it has to cover sick time as well. That was my compromise. It's slightly less number of days than if we did separate vacay and sick time, but she still gets off paid if we go out of town.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 15:25     Subject: Vacation
No good deed goes unpunished...sorry you are dealing with this. As other posters have said I think you should stick to the contract, just tell her that was a one time exception you made for her to be nice. Just curious, do you get along with her well otherwise? I could not imagine ever telling my boss I wanted something and that they had set a precedent.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 14:38     Subject: Vacation
My nanny gets two weeks of her own choosing, but that's only because I didn't know any better and didn't think it through.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 14:37     Subject: Vacation
Anonymous wrote:OP here. That is what is in our contract. But last year was our first year with our nanny and because she had vacation planned before we hired her we let her take the two weeks as she had planned them. However, she wants to take the two weeks again this year and we said "ok, but one of them is unpaid because of what our contract says -- we choose one of them" and she says "but you let me last year so there is precedent".

We're not budging, but wanted to make sure we were in line with at least some of the current benefits out there.


I responded earlier, but in your case, I think you should stand firm. She agreed to the contract, and you were gracious enough to honor her vacation last year. I'm not sure I would even have gone so far as to give the second week unpaid, unless she had already planned and paid for a trip. Sorry she is trying to take advantage of your kindness. Nannies get screwed so often, it really pisses me off when other nannies burn decent and generous employers.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 14:02     Subject: Vacation
OP here. That is what is in our contract. But last year was our first year with our nanny and because she had vacation planned before we hired her we let her take the two weeks as she had planned them. However, she wants to take the two weeks again this year and we said "ok, but one of them is unpaid because of what our contract says -- we choose one of them" and she says "but you let me last year so there is precedent".

We're not budging, but wanted to make sure we were in line with at least some of the current benefits out there.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 11:57     Subject: Vacation
I also have two weeks of my choosing. I work shares though, and am not interested in coordinating my vacation with two different families. In a normal nanny situation, 1 week of her choosing, and 1 of yours is the norm, but you need to be clear up front what you mean, and it helps to specify when that week will be. During winter? Summer? Sprinkled throughout the year? The latter is not attractive.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 11:53     Subject: Vacation
I started my current position with 2 weeks of my choosing. Just be sure to specify prior to contract and starting.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 10:42     Subject: Vacation
Yes.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2014 10:36     Subject: Vacation
If a nanny is getting 2 weeks vacation, is 1 week at her choosing/1 week at family's choosing the norm?