Wow - I'm really sorry you have to deal with this horrible MB!

No, I wouldn't mention the details of why you are leaving your current job - just say it isn't the right fit for you and mention how much you love the kids and will miss them.

Good luck with your interviews!

I think you're making a good decision by leaving but I wouldn't mention this to any potential families. There is no reason they need to know there was bad blood between you and the MB and if I were an MB interviewing you, that would be a major red flag for me

I have had exact similar situations happen so am having trouble understanding why her story is so unbelievable. Literally am going through the same things right now. I can't give advice though because I do am letting my boss walk all over me for fear of not having a job. I wish you the best and hope you find a great new job, it is never a good idea to bad mouth former employers though if that helps.

The closest I would come to honesty is to say that the family's needs seem to include more family-related housekeeping than you are comfortable with and that your big take-away from this job has been an understanding that you should have addressed these issues earlier on.

Honestly I'd mention the lunch thing to db and he might be able to provide some insight or clarity as to why she's so crazy.

OP here. Thank you for the insight. Trust me, I wish this was just a crazy story, but its unfortunately the reality of my situation.

MB here. Do not share these specifics. Say that the job is no longer a good fit for you, say that you are interested in a more set/established schedule, say that the family's needs changed etc... Do not badmouth your current employer's in any way.

If I were interviewing you and you told me these details I'd worry that perhaps there is another side of the story and you're somehow contributing to the situation, or I'd worry that you'd be coming in w/ baggage I'd rather not inherit, or I'd worry that maybe you never spoke w/ your current employers and they have no idea there's a problem and the same thing could happen with us, etc...

Maybe I'd feel such an amazing match with you that my gut instinct would overrule any potential concerns but it is much safer to simply be professional and very limited in what you share about your reasons for leaving. There is nothing to be lost by taking the high road and potential significant harm done by sharing too much.

Wow, what an unbelievable story. Really. and if i dont believe it, your potential future employers wont believe it either.

Yes, you should leave.

Whether or not you should share your "story" depends on what you want in the future. Your next family doesn't care about your past, they care about what your references say about you. If you don't care about a reference from this family, go to town with your injustices. Just know that they won't be as powerful or influential as your reference from them.

Parents are mostly interested in the experience of other parents, not a nanny's complaints.

Wow! Wonder why MB is acting so crazy, seems like an underlying issue to me. Good luck on your interview

I have been with my NF for the past two years. Lately, my MB has been showing no respect or appreciation (although DB is great). I feel like I am in a nightmare job right now and I shouldn't feel like I am walking on eggshells while my MB works from home.

I do everything for my NF. I have always been very flexible (working late and coming in early on very little notice), I don't complain and do whatever I can to help them out.

My MB is turning into the nightmare employer and the job creep is starting to get ridiculous. Every morning, her dishes are left from the night before. The house is trashed when I come in on Monday, I get yelled at for not keeping her house clean (my contract states that I have to only take care of the children's messes). The worst is that when DB is in the house, everything is fine, but once he leaves, everything turns into a nightmare.

She is now very difficult to talk to as well, so I can't bring anything up with her without being yelled at for something. I'm extremely stressed out at work.

Today was the icing on the cake. I bring my breakfast (as I start at 6am) and lunch to work everyday. Usually my MB has no problem with me using her kitchen. I clean everything that I use and leave no mess. Today, I wasn't allowed to use her kitchen to make my breakfast (weird, but I was able to grab something while dropping the kids off at school), but when I came back, I found my lunch gone. It was in the garbage. She ignored me when I tried to bring it up.

I am very serious. I am ready to give notice. No one should have to work like this.

On a good note though, I have a face to face interview with another family this weekend. The phone interview went great.

I am going to be honest with them when they ask me why I am leaving my current position. I already know that I won't get a good reference from my current MB, but DB might react differently.

So, my question is this: should I be upfront with the people I am interviewing with about my current situation?

Thanks.