Anonymous wrote:Is he going to want to wash your dirty laundry?

Nanny here and if my bosses were in this situation, I would totally do their laundry. I deal with poop, pee, and sometimes vomit every day with my charge and would hardly find washing someone's laundry to be gross. But my employers are also clean people.

OP, I think what you are offering sounds great! Paying his rent is a nice incentive because that would be my only major hesitation if my employers approached me with this offer. The only thing to consider is what you want his hours to be/will he be getting any breaks? Is he going to be a 24/7 nanny now? Or just paid when he's on duty but is he allowed to go out afterwards? Let's say on a Friday night from 8pm-1am or is he expected to be on call in case you guys need help. Just something to consider and work out in advance. If you need him to be 24/7, I'd look into hiring a babysitter from time to time to give him a bit of a break. I'd be pretty burnt out with that schedule after a month or two!

Is he going to want to wash your dirty laundry?

OP here: yes, he's single and has no pets/kids. If he had family I would never have thought it to be a reasonable request - we'd have called in grandparents from out of town.

Is he single? If so I think it sounds like a good offer to make him.

If he has a wife or kids then I don't think it is fair to put him in that position where he has to choose between his family and his job.

Anonymous wrote:Don't pay his rent. Set out a specific amount of overtime pay for and hours for this period. Obviously, he will use the money to pay his rent.

Why would her nanny move in with them, and still pay rent at his place? You're so stupid. If OP wants this to happen, she needs to give him a good reason. Paying for an apartment you aren't using is not good incentive.

Anonymous wrote:Don't pay his rent. Set out a specific amount of overtime pay for and hours for this period. Obviously, he will use the money to pay his rent.

You don't sound too smart. It's called an incentive. No one wants to live in your house, but maybe you do and are the exception.

Don't pay his rent. Set out a specific amount of overtime pay for and hours for this period. Obviously, he will use the money to pay his rent.

Ugh, OP - I'm so sorry. What a tough situation. I think your offer sounds reasonable, certainly worth at least asking your nanny. Perhaps if he isn't able to do it he'd know someone. There is probably also help available from agencies for this kind of thing, or maybe even another nanny in your neighborhood who might be looking for extra work. (It sounds like a fair amount of what you need could be great evening/weekend pick up work for the right person.)

Also, listservs can be great resources for local kids who would walk the dog or bathe the kids (perfect mommie's helper kind of time).

Good luck. I hope you all heal quickly!

If my employers were in this situation, I'd absolutely be willing to 'move in' temporarily.

It would be very beneficial if you could try and schedule down time where your nanny gets to leave the house entirely. Even if it's only for a couple of hours to go to his place, get fresh clothes, etc.

Does he have any pets? Take that into consideration.

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Anonymous wrote:You would need to pay him OT. Having his rent paid for if he can't live at home isn't really an incentive for him to move in with you.

We would of course pay him appropriately for all hours worked. I assumed that was a given, sorry.

Your original post said that you would pay his rent, and his regular salary. Thank you for clarifying.

Anonymous wrote:You would need to pay him OT. Having his rent paid for if he can't live at home isn't really an incentive for him to move in with you.

We would of course pay him appropriately for all hours worked. I assumed that was a given, sorry.

You would need to pay him OT. Having his rent paid for if he can't live at home isn't really an incentive for him to move in with you.

I don't think that asking is unreasonable, because you clearly need the help. That being said, paying his rent while he lives with you is great and would make it possible for him to accept, but that is not enough in and of itself to compensate for the inevitable increase in hours not to mention duties that are not normally his.

You need to be prepared to offer something beyond his regular salary. You need to pay for any and all extra hours he works, and a raise/bonus would be in order for doing your laundry/cooking dinner/walking the dog. If you're the poster that I suspect you are, you're already difficult enough to deal with, please compensate your "manny" fairly for this.

If you have a close relationship, I am sure he would be fine with the arrangement. A few things to consider, aside from compensation...
-make sure his space is really his space
-he will still need to live his own life, complete with going out/sleeping in when he can/taking on the phone/being alone/etc...respect this and set clear boundaries (ie. don't impose sanctions or your opinion on his personal time)
-be careful of job creep; outline specifically the new tasks he will be expected to take on and the increase in hours, don't just expect that because he is there more he will automatically be available to help more (outside of the stipulated increases, of course)
-maybe consider giving him some extra PTO to be used after the fact, he will really need it

Good luck!

We have a 2 yr old and 10 month old. I am recovering from a surgery done last week that means I can't lift either child, hold anything over 5 lbs, or raise one arm higher than shoulder-height (range of motion is severely compromised). Two days ago, DH broke his ankle and found out he needs surgery to have it repaired.

I am thinking about if we should ask our nanny to move in during this recovery time. We could pay his rent in addition to continuing to pay his regular salary. I think in addition to his usual duties, it would help to add the following:

1. making and cleaning up from dinner (I can help with cleanup).
2. walking the dog in the evening
3. bathe both babies
4. adult laundry

Both girls (knock wood) sleep all night. Am I forgetting anything? We have a guest suite he could use, and it would basically just be while we're recovering which should not be more than six weeks. Does this sound like a reasonable offer?