Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 11:27     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
and chat*
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 11:27     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
I was the very first PP who said I'd want to find out Friday. I'd personally, being who I am, want to find out via text or email with an accompanying offer to sit down at chat about it (on the clock) the following Monday. But maybe that's just me - I hate face to face emotionally charged conversations passionately and always appreciate the time to process and prepare myself. Thankfully, so does my MB
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 10:51     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
Anonymous wrote:You should have told her as soon as you were sure that's what you were going to do. It's considerate to give her as much time as possible to look for a new job.


Do you understand that OP is NOT yet sure because she hasn't yet signed the daycare papers? And that the nanny will be getting a MONTH to look for a new job?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 10:29     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
MB here and I agree that you owe her the courtesy of telling her in person. I also would say that doing that on a Friday is better than at the beginning of the week, so you're in a bit of an unusual position if you really think there is any chance of not signing the contract for any reason.

BUt unless there is really jeopardy with the daycare spot I would do it thursday. Your notice period is great and moving your child into daycare is certainly an understandable choice so you have nothing you need to be ashamed of. Give her the courtesy of an in person conversation.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 10:11     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
You should have told her as soon as you were sure that's what you were going to do. It's considerate to give her as much time as possible to look for a new job.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 09:34     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
Anonymous wrote:OP again. I hear everyone about having the courtesy to let her go in person, but we have not secured the daycare spot yet. we sign on a friday. so, is it better to let her go by phone on friday on a 3-day weekend, or tell her on a monday when she returns?


I get what you're saying, but I think you need to bite it and tell her on Thursday. If you're not willing to do that, then Friday by phone and an apology for doing so over the phone. I would lose some respect for someone who did that to me over the phone, and from that point on I know we're only looking out for ourselves.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 09:14     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
Anonymous wrote:OP again. I hear everyone about having the courtesy to let her go in person, but we have not secured the daycare spot yet. we sign on a friday. so, is it better to let her go by phone on friday on a 3-day weekend, or tell her on a monday when she returns?


Ah, I see. What are the chances that it won't work out? Or are you basically just signing the papers Friday morning?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 09:00     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
OP again. I hear everyone about having the courtesy to let her go in person, but we have not secured the daycare spot yet. we sign on a friday. so, is it better to let her go by phone on friday on a 3-day weekend, or tell her on a monday when she returns?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 08:40     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
If you aren't respectful enough to do this in person you shouldn't be anybody's employer
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 08:23     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
Anonymous wrote:I would be annoyed that you didn't have the balls to do it to my face. How would you feel if she quit in the manner you are planning? You should do it in person on Thursday, and if you are simply letting her go through no fault of her own, have a letter of reference in hand, and let her know that you will help find a new position in any way that you can. If you're firing for cause (not simply changing needs) you should both document the cause, and tell her what it is, so that this can be a growing experience for her, not the continuance of a cycle. You are her boss. You owe it to her to do this correctly, and not avoid it because you're uncomfortable.


This. Just do it. If you do it right, you'll feel much much better about the situation. And OP, you're offering a month notice. That is huge. If she doesn't find another job, with your reference, within that time period, that's on her. You're doing the right thing.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 08:18     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
I would be annoyed that you didn't have the balls to do it to my face. How would you feel if she quit in the manner you are planning? You should do it in person on Thursday, and if you are simply letting her go through no fault of her own, have a letter of reference in hand, and let her know that you will help find a new position in any way that you can. If you're firing for cause (not simply changing needs) you should both document the cause, and tell her what it is, so that this can be a growing experience for her, not the continuance of a cycle. You are her boss. You owe it to her to do this correctly, and not avoid it because you're uncomfortable.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 01:28     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
I'd be upset if my bosses decided to let me go and didn't have the guts to tell me in person, OP. Can you tell her Thursday as she leaves?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 01:09     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
Do it Friday morning, tell her you'll give her a good reference.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2014 00:19     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
I'd prefer to find out Friday. Would need some time to grieve privately over a long weekend.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2014 23:57     Subject: Ready to give nanny 1 month notice
We need to put DD in preschool for developmental reasons. We got notice today of an immediate opening but want to give our nanny 1 month notice. We've been conflicted about doing this and will feel bad to let her go but it's just not working anymore. Just venting. She has next Friday off, we are signing a contract that day, and I'm thinking awkwardly I'd rather phone her that day and let her know than do it in person on a Monday. I'm guessing she'd rather have solitude and the weekend to think or not think.

Thoughts? Jabs?