Anonymous
02/05/2014 09:07
Subject: Where is the line between filling them with pride, and turning them into a spoiled brat!?!?
Anonymous wrote:You say "yes" as much as possible. If a child wants to do something, you ask yourself, "why not?" If there is no good reason to say no, say yes.
If there is a good reason, you say no, once, and firmly stick to all rules, boundaries, and expectations. No wiggle room, no whining, the decision has been made by you, the authority.
You talk early and often about others' feelings and how we contribute to them. When you read "How are you feeling?" To a one-year-old you say, "look, you can tell Goose is sad because he's crying - I bet a hug would make him feel better!" You teach them empathy from Day 1.
When it comes to issues of respect and etiquette you hold children to firm expectations with clear and logical consequences.
I don't know if you're a mother or a nanny but this is so beautifully stated that I'm copying it somewhere to save so I can remember some of these tips w/ my own kids.
Anonymous
02/04/2014 20:58
Subject: Where is the line between filling them with pride, and turning them into a spoiled brat!?!?
Anonymous wrote:You say "yes" as much as possible. If a child wants to do something, you ask yourself, "why not?" If there is no good reason to say no, say yes.
If there is a good reason, you say no, once, and firmly stick to all rules, boundaries, and expectations. No wiggle room, no whining, the decision has been made by you, the authority.
You talk early and often about others' feelings and how we contribute to them. When you read "How are you feeling?" To a one-year-old you say, "look, you can tell Goose is sad because he's crying - I bet a hug would make him feel better!" You teach them empathy from Day 1.
When it comes to issues of respect and etiquette you hold children to firm expectations with clear and logical consequences.
I absolutely love your comment, and your advice makes a lot of sense to me. Thank you!
Anonymous
02/04/2014 20:48
Subject: Where is the line between filling them with pride, and turning them into a spoiled brat!?!?
You say "yes" as much as possible. If a child wants to do something, you ask yourself, "why not?" If there is no good reason to say no, say yes.
If there is a good reason, you say no, once, and firmly stick to all rules, boundaries, and expectations. No wiggle room, no whining, the decision has been made by you, the authority.
You talk early and often about others' feelings and how we contribute to them. When you read "How are you feeling?" To a one-year-old you say, "look, you can tell Goose is sad because he's crying - I bet a hug would make him feel better!" You teach them empathy from Day 1.
When it comes to issues of respect and etiquette you hold children to firm expectations with clear and logical consequences.
If there is a good reason, you say no, once, and firmly stick to all rules, boundaries, and expectations. No wiggle room, no whining, the decision has been made by you, the authority.
You talk early and often about others' feelings and how we contribute to them. When you read "How are you feeling?" To a one-year-old you say, "look, you can tell Goose is sad because he's crying - I bet a hug would make him feel better!" You teach them empathy from Day 1.
When it comes to issues of respect and etiquette you hold children to firm expectations with clear and logical consequences.
Anonymous
02/04/2014 20:30
Subject: Where is the line between filling them with pride, and turning them into a spoiled brat!?!?
As a temp nanny, I've seen it all. The biggest question on my mind is, how do you let a child have free will to act how they want, and give them enough love to show them they are loved, while also teaching them respect?
On one hand this seems sooooo simple, but on the other, I've taken care of so many spoiled brats!! Children do gain esteem and pride when you give them free reign, teach them to stick up for themselves, and try not to hinder their spirit. But it seems if you give them too much reign, they'll run wild with it, and like I said, act like a spoiled brat. How do you teach them they are special, but not the center of the universe??
On one hand this seems sooooo simple, but on the other, I've taken care of so many spoiled brats!! Children do gain esteem and pride when you give them free reign, teach them to stick up for themselves, and try not to hinder their spirit. But it seems if you give them too much reign, they'll run wild with it, and like I said, act like a spoiled brat. How do you teach them they are special, but not the center of the universe??