You are gross. That is the role of a boss, no? You make your problems known to your boss when you ask off for a sick day, leave early to pick up your kid, or have issues with co-workers.
Life happens- I think you are a poor person.
Just gross.

You will not have a good job future with this attitude. Your personal expenses are your responsibility. You should never ask your employer for a loan for your divorce, student loans, or whatever. Its extremely unprofessional. The fact that you think your employer is a second parent to you or possible bank shows your immaturity.

In my office we do not advance pay, or allow employees to go into the negative with leave (of any kind). We have guidelines expressly stating that this is not allowed.

It is unprofessional.

Does that mean you can't ask, or that it's a federal offense if you are in an unusual circumstance? No. A great deal depends on your relationship w/ your employers, your tenure, your performance, their attitudes towards separating personal/professional versus treating you like a family members, etc...

The safest, highest ground is not to ask. But if you're truly in difficult circumstances and it will be the only time, etc... then maybe it's ok. But you do run a risk of changing how you're perceived.

I'm an MB, with a fantastic nanny who we value and trust. However we are far too privy to her personal issues and I very much wish she would keep more of those issues to herself. It is uncomfortable and awkward and makes us very aware of her limitations in areas outside her work responsibilities. And that's none of our business, but her constant over-sharing makes it our business and has significantly affected our perception of her. So just exercise caution.

Good luck w/ the divorce, etc... It doesn't sound easy.

Idk where you all get the idea that you can't ask for an advance in formal work settings. You can. Check your employee handbook. I'd bet there are procedures outlining how its done.

I think it's unprofessional. If you were working an office job you wouldn't ask accounting for your pay a week early, because that wouldn't be an option. You are looking at them as friends or a bank rather than an employer. I would sooner ask a family member to loan the money. If you ask for the pay advance, know that it will leave a sour taste in their mouths, even if they agree. You really don't want to destroy their view of you.

Yes, VERY different. VERY. You are gross.

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MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.

You are gross. That is the role of a boss, no? You make your problems known to your boss when you ask off for a sick day, leave early to pick up your kid, or have issues with co-workers.
Life happens- I think you are a poor person.
Just gross.

No, it is not the role of the boss to know your personal problems outside of your job. In fact, it is very unprofessional to make your personal problems your boss's issue.

So by your logic it should go both ways then, right? So next time you need your nanny to pick up things from the store because you were to busy the night before, or to stay late because you had an issue at work, or to help out when a parent is sick, they should just say "Um, those are your personal problems, deal with it on your own"? I'd love to see that happen.

Things like that wouldn't happen because we have a contract that addresses these issues. Any time we ask for anything outside of our contract DH and I always remind our nanny it's okay if she can't do it, and it honestly is. Usually we're giving her rights of first refusal - asking if she wants to house-sit/pet-sit for example. It's easy work for some extra money, and we're happy to give it to her, but if she's busy or uninterested we just go down the list to other people.

Saying you'd like to leave your office early because your kid is sick at school but it's understood you'll finish your work that evening, is VERY different from asking to be paid before you've done the work.

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MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.

You are gross. That is the role of a boss, no? You make your problems known to your boss when you ask off for a sick day, leave early to pick up your kid, or have issues with co-workers.
Life happens- I think you are a poor person.
Just gross.

No, it is not the role of the boss to know your personal problems outside of your job. In fact, it is very unprofessional to make your personal problems your boss's issue.

So by your logic it should go both ways then, right? So next time you need your nanny to pick up things from the store because you were to busy the night before, or to stay late because you had an issue at work, or to help out when a parent is sick, they should just say "Um, those are your personal problems, deal with it on your own"? I'd love to see that happen.

MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.

You are gross. That is the role of a boss, no? You make your problems known to your boss when you ask off for a sick day, leave early to pick up your kid, or have issues with co-workers.
Life happens- I think you are a poor person.
Just gross.

No, it is not the role of the boss to know your personal problems outside of your job. In fact, it is very unprofessional to make your personal problems your boss's issue.

OP- Only you know the family you work with. I would make every effort to change my payment date, be late, or pay my insurance on time and be late with something else first (and have) but if none of those are really options, then I would ask. If the people you work for would look down upon you or refuse...well, you know your next move.

Anonymous wrote:MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.

You are gross. That is the role of a boss, no? You make your problems known to your boss when you ask off for a sick day, leave early to pick up your kid, or have issues with co-workers.
Life happens- I think you are a poor person.
Just gross.

MB here. If you want your pay day to change from Friday to Monday (meaning on Monday you'd get paid for the prior week) that would be fine. But if you're asking for an advance (to get paid for time you haven't yet worked) I would say no and also think poorly of you.

Never make your personal problems your boss's problems.

can you work with the insurance company or cancel the policy and start a different one? that said it doesn't hurt to ask. worst that can happen is they say no.

I've done it many years ago.
I had to replace my transmission and clutch and didn't have that much money.
My boss gave me "a loan," deducting certain amount of money out of my paycheck for a few weeks until it was paid off.
They were glad to help and I was beyond grateful.

When I worked for another family a few years later, I asked to be paid earlier one week (I don't remember what happened) and again, my boss had no problem with it.
I had been with them just a little over two years then.

My advice to you - if you do decide to ask - make sure you tell them that it's a one time thing and it's not going to happen again in the future.

I would be a bit turned off by it. I would change your insurance plan off of your ex and start your own payment. If you need your car for work, I would be ok with it as a one time deal but I would be concerned one time would be a dozen.

I have been working as a nanny at current job since May. I am going though a divorce and got an notice my soon to be ex hasn't paid car insurance in two months so we owed three months work which has thrown off my budget a ton . I was wondering if any one has or would ask to be paid on Monday instead of Friday one time ? I haven't called out or ever been late so i don't think they would be worried about that. Just don't want a lot of late fees on bills etc I'm usually very financial reasonable but moving and lawyers hasn't helped things.