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Anonymous wrote:If you need the reference I would not do that.

Agreed. That will kill any good reference you have. That said, have you brought up these unpaid days to your bosses. Do you have a signed contract? Sorry but I wouldn't let them walk all over me

What makes you think a family without the scruples to respect the agreement will give a good reference for anyone leaving on any terms, professional or otherwise, unless they themselves were ending the relationship? I would bet they get super defensive and angry, even if OP gives them a months notice, and her reference will be down the tube anyway. Do what you have to do OP. These people will not be a reference for you anyway, and it would seem that you have your new position already.

Anonymous wrote:If you need the reference I would not do that.

Agreed. That will kill any good reference you have. That said, have you brought up these unpaid days to your bosses. Do you have a signed contract? Sorry but I wouldn't let them walk all over me

If you need the reference I would not do that.

Anonymous wrote:In real jobs its considered bad professional etiquette but I would worry about it for a nanny position.

Making gross changes to an agreement without a discussion is also bad professional form. OP, is this a reference you want to preserve? That would be my deciding factor. If I wasn't there long enough to have established a reference, or don't think they'd be a good one, I'd say eff it and move on, but if you've been there for a good amount of time, and you think you can salvage the reference, I'd do my best to leave on good terms knowing the whole time that I'm the bigger better person.

In real jobs its considered bad professional etiquette but I would worry about it for a nanny position.

Is it wrong to include time off (unpaid) as part of my two weeks notice? I'm pretty fed up...I'm working for a family who initially said I would have vacation, holiday, sick pay. In six months I've gotten paid for zero holidays (no pay Memorial day, Thanksgiving, Christmas eve, Christmas, new years, even one non holiday day when they just had other plans and didn't need me). I've needed a couple sick days which went unpaid, and besides this they regularly come home at least 15 mins late., and do not pay overtime, just regular rate even over 40 hours. I have requested a few days off in February, but would like a couple more since I have family visiting. Since I'm not getting paid anyway I'm wondering if it's ok to give my notice to include one working week followed by the week I would be off. They could use this time to do nanny trials, I figured, since they already would be taking the few days off to cover for me. Any thoughts? Even tho I'm leaving I don't want to upset them, I'll need them as a reference.