Anonymous wrote:I would give her a bit of time. It can take awhile to do all the research to find out what her responsibilities would be, even if you have explained the situation, it is reasonable for her to do her own research. By posting on boards asking about it, it seems to me she is comparing notes and could come to the conclusion you are right.

It is possible the changes may move it out of their price range, but I wouldn't be so quick to assume they are letting you go. It has only been 2 days.

I'd wait on contacting her again and give it a week at least so she can figure out her position. Then, if she hasn't said anything, ask where they are at so you can figure out what you need to do.

I wouldn't advise "giving her time", when someone's pay is on the line. They obviously don't value her, and any modifications they make, will be because they are forced to. OP, leave as soon as you can. I wouldn't trust this family past the tip of my nose. Once you agree to work against your own interests, you cannot expect parents to think about what's best for you.

I would give her a bit of time. It can take awhile to do all the research to find out what her responsibilities would be, even if you have explained the situation, it is reasonable for her to do her own research. By posting on boards asking about it, it seems to me she is comparing notes and could come to the conclusion you are right.

It is possible the changes may move it out of their price range, but I wouldn't be so quick to assume they are letting you go. It has only been 2 days.

I'd wait on contacting her again and give it a week at least so she can figure out her position. Then, if she hasn't said anything, ask where they are at so you can figure out what you need to do.

Let her know you fine not paying taxes. Then start looking for a new job after that leave the troll high and dry. Some MBs are a pain in the a** and can care less about doing the right thing.

OP start looking for another job. Either you will be unhappy/resentful or they will be unhappy/resentful.

Hi - Canadian MB here, sorry I was not able to reply on your previous thread ... I had said before that they were either jerks or naive. Maybe it is a bit of both. It sounds like they've had a pretty sweet deal with you and were looking to get an even better one by reducing your salary and treating you as a contractor. They obviously didn't understand the way the nanny-employer relationship is meant to work in terms of taxes etc. and thought that you would just accept whatever they proposed. Obviously they have a budget that they want to stick to so they might not be able to afford to employ you if they need to pay you a fair wage on the books, and daycare is a cheaper alternative. If you want to be proactive, you can ask if she received your email and would she like to discuss the situation and see if there is any way to come to a mutually agreeable and fair arrangement. Maybe it is time to take the situation less personally and be as professional yet polite as possible. If you have to leave them, at least you will go into your next position with a better understanding of your rights etc.

I would start looking - this sounds like its going to be bad for you either with respect to pay structure or being fired altogether.

You have to realize that you can't be their nanny forever. It is a short term position.

Many families change childcare options. You are asking for more than what they had planned and are comfortable paying so they are looking into other options. There isn't anything wrong with this and its more financially responsible for their family. There also is nothing wrong with daycare. It isn't an inferior form of childcare and kids are fine making changes like this.

If she is looking for day care, time to look for another job.

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Firstly, maybe she's just exploring her options. Hopefully everyone on the board where she posted the messages will tell her she's nuts and totally unfair to you. Secondly, I hate when people claim their nanny or housekeeper is like a member of their family. No they're not. You don't pay members of your family to watch your children.

Addressing your bolded comment. It can happen.

MB here. Firstly, maybe she's just exploring her options. Hopefully everyone on the board where she posted the messages will tell her she's nuts and totally unfair to you. Secondly, I hate when people claim their nanny or housekeeper is like a member of their family. No they're not. You don't pay members of your family to watch your children.

You only matter and are wonderful when it benefits them, always remember that. I'd start looking for another job asap. They will fire you as soon as they can find a cheap alternative.

Some parents really just don't give a shit. So sad.

She's looking to replace you. She has ZERO regard for her own child, and even less for you. What a bitch she is. I'm so sorry.

I emailed her Sunday AM

Here is my original Post
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/288706.page
I think because of my title people arent responding. Im looking for some advice about where to go from here.

So i emailed MB this morning saying that I read up on paying taxes and how much i needed to start putting aside for tax purposes and everything I read was that a nanny is considered an employee not a contracted worker. I also stated concerns about the slight pay cut and that if I was to take a paycut and be needing to put $$ aside for taxes I wouldnt be able to have summer vacations and christmas break upaid. (as it would lose $$) I hope they dont see me as being gready.

I sent this email this morning and I still havent heard anything back. However I have seen in a facebook group we are both in that she posted a questions to other moms about how they pay nanny taxes. And I got a text message from a friend who is in a different facebook group with her that she posted the same question but also posted if anyone had space available for daycare.

Honestly my heart is broken. I have given so much of my life, commitment, money (paying for ice cream, dollar store colouring, play place, birthday & christmas gifts) time (HOURS and HOURS probably in the hundreds of un scheduled last minute overtime.- and as in last minute i mean 4:59 when im off at 5 to stay an extra 2 hours)
I feel like I have been so loyal and i have heard time and time again that they are happy with my performance and the kids adore me and talk about me all weekend,

Ive heard tones of times that Im part of the family... But then you realize you really are just a nanny to them.

I hope i hear back from them before my next shift... And i really hope it isnt to tell me they are choosing daycare or I will be crushed

Im not sure if I should contact her and ask if she recieved my email. (which i know she has) but Im nervous to go in this week and have them say we wont be needing you anymore. Anyone BTDT?