Anonymous wrote:Why the hell should she learn Spanish? What an insult! This is America! The official language is English. Those nannies are incredibly rude speaking their language knowing that OP doesn't understand. It's like whispering to each other in front of her. Very unprofessional!

Actually you're completely wrong. The United States has no offical language. Many people speak American English but as our country becomes more diverse the most common language will also be Spanish. Think about it, everything is translated into Spanish now. It would be wise for everyone to learn Spanish or a second language in general. We are one of the only first world countries where the majority of our citizens aren't bilingual. I don't think OP needs to learn Spanish just to fit in because I have a feeling that these nannies don't feel connected to her or want her friendship. Im around a lot nannies of different ethic backgrounds and none of them would exclude me from a conversation by speaking their native language. Op needs to move on to a different group of individuals who are interested in becoming friends. Maybe that means searching for nanny groups online or going to different areas of the city for children activities.

Of course they're being rude. It sucks, but it's not your job to change them. I'd just try to spend more time with caregivers who will speak in English around you.

Why the hell should she learn Spanish? What an insult! This is America! The official language is English. Those nannies are incredibly rude speaking their language knowing that OP doesn't understand. It's like whispering to each other in front of her. Very unprofessional!

I think you should start teaching yourself Spanish.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a real career/job and you wont have to deal with immagrints and illegals.

Learn to spell and you won't be accused of being an immigrant/illegal

Lets just ignore this troll. She is constantly making unfounded inflammatory anti-nanny remarks. If she is an actual nanny employer, you have to wonder why she leaves her children with someone she thinks of so poorly.

Totally rude. Entirely reasonable to break into the discussion by saying something in English.

It's rude, but what are you gonna do. I'm an MB, by the way, but I think I went through a similar thing when I became a mom. The assumption is that because you have this big thing in common ("you're a nanny? I'm a nanny too!! We should hang out!"), that you'll automatically get along. When in reality, most people you're just not going to have that much in common with. Get on some Facebook groups or something for nannies in your area and find some that you actually have things in common with other than just being nannies. I'm sorry, OP, that sounds like it would be really disheartening and lonely

Anonymous wrote:Get a real career/job and you wont have to deal with immagrints and illegals.

Learn to spell and you won't be accused of being an immigrant/illegal

American born NYC nanny here. My problem is that all the other nannies/parents I see on a weekly basis are way older than me, so we don't have much in common to talk about one way or the other outside of the typical baby/toddler/kid stuff... which isn't all that much or all that interesting after hearing it over and over again, lol.

Get a real career/job and you wont have to deal with immagrints and illegals.

It has been a pretty consistent in my nanny career to be left out of the conversation by almost all the adults at the playground. If it's not nannies speaking another language, then it's moms speaking mom talk. I don't let it bother me, I make small talk with others alone on the playground, moms and grandparents, even the occasional dad, just a chat no plans for building a friendship. I'm not working as a nanny so I can socialize at work, although, it's a real treat to have an adult conversation between 7:30-5:00 M-F. I make sure I talk to other friends when I'm not working which helps me vent frustrations.

It's rude but not unusual. The reality is (and especially in NYC) nannies are mostly immigrants so it makes sense for people of the same culture to stick together. There are American or other English speaking nannies, join a nanny group on FB or yahoo. Sometimes the nanny agency that places you will have a database of other nannies you can connect with. You might find some close by to set up play dates with, otherwise, you can form friendships and have your job in common.

Take it as an opportunity to learn Spanish! Let them know that you'd like to learn and they may help. Also there is no reason you can't engage them in English. They speak in the language they are comfortable in, just like you. Its kind of inconsiderate, but understandable.

It wouldnt be rude but its not going to change anything. Will make them talk about you more.

Find more friends that speak English.

Hello. Just a quick question, but mostly a long vent. I am feeling super left out in the nanny world these days. I'm a NYC nanny who has to deal with so many other nannies and babysitters on a weekly basis.

The feeling that I'm left out stems from that I am in situations where other nannies put me down. I don't think they meant to hurt my feelings. Last week I went to a playdate where there were 3 other nannies. I had met 2 of them before. All 3 nannies speak Spanish as their first language. I don't speak Spanish. But the 3 nannies decided to converse with each other in Spanish the whole playdate. Half way through the playdate, the 3rd nanny I hadn't met yells to me, "I thaught you were his Mom, not his nanny. You come dressed all fancy, wearing a fancy watch. They tell me that you don't have to do Houskeeping. You must be paid really well! You are too fancy to be a nanny!". The other two nannies laughed in agreement, then continued their conversation in Spanish.

Last night I was at my charges cousins house. And there was his nanny, and another friend and her nanny. I have to be around these two nannies very frequently. And they mostly speak to each other in Spanish when we get together.

Same thing happens at school pick-up waiting in the lobby of the school. All the nannies are in little clusters seemingly devided by "home country" chatting away in their native toungue.

At the playground I take my charge to meet up with a friend who has a very sweet Philipino nanny. But she is very popular and all her fellow Philipino nanny friends join in the playdate. And of course start speaking in their foreign language, leaving me out.

I love different cultures, and I wouldn't consider myself xenophobic in the least. But I feel it is rude not to include me in their conversations by speaking a language they know I don't understand. I do speak French fluently, but I haven't met another nanny in my charges circle that does.

These nannies definitely seem to treat me differently than the other nannies. I haven't come across too many other non-American born nannies. I am an outsider.

Would it be rude to ask them to speak in English when I'm around?