Anonymous
Post 11/30/2013 12:04     Subject: Nanny Question

I would look for a new nanny.

To arrive at work fifteen minutes late just because you are already home is very unprofessional in my opinion.

She doesn't have a good work ethic and her true colors have already emerged.
overseasmom
Post 11/22/2013 20:07     Subject: Re:Nanny Question

OP here. Thanks for the advice, I think I just wanted to hear the answer from impartial sources. She went privately to my husband today asking for money as well, and lied saying I had agreed to give her salary to her early. That just made the decision easier.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2013 18:40     Subject: Nanny Question

I think firing her is a little extreme. You should have a sit down meeting with her to address the issues. Writing down what you want to say might help you not get flustered if you have a hard time with confrontation. And gage how she handles it. If she gets angry or denies it or turns it around on you then yes you should fire her right then and there. But if she is apologetic, wants to make a change you should give her another chance but let her know things need to change or she has to go.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2013 15:11     Subject: Nanny Question

Yes. On to your next nanny....
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2013 15:09     Subject: Nanny Question

You fire her immediately.
Anonymous
Post 11/22/2013 15:02     Subject: Nanny Question

You know the answer. Find a new nanny. And stop letting them walk all over you (regularly 15 minutes late? Asking for paycheck a earlier and earlier? Inexcusable!)
overseasmom
Post 11/22/2013 14:41     Subject: Nanny Question

I am a first time poster and had a nanny question. We are currently overseas and employ a nanny for our two children. Although she seems great with the kids (our two year old loves her, and she seems knowledgeable with the baby), I've had several issues with her.
She routinely arrives 15 minutes late with no explanation as to why she's late. I'm home on maternity leave, so its not like I'm running off to work, but it is still annoying. She has also been asking for her bi-monthly salary earlier and earlier (its now a week off schedule). Today I said I couldn't accommodate her since it was too late in the day to get the money, and she became quiet and grumpy. She has started talking on the phone more and more while handing the baby. Yesterday she was on the phone for 45 minutes while the baby was awake. I finally took him and told her I would handle her while she was talking. I know I should address these issues directly with her instead of being passive aggressive or angry, but I get nervous since she is taking care of my kids and I don't want her to resent them because she is angry with me. She has complained to me in the past about how terrible her past employers have been, and I'm starting to think she is the problem, not them.
I think it comes down to her attitude. I've never had issues with past nannies and have always had a good relationships with them so I'm not sure how to navigate this situation. I feel the nicer I try to be, the more she tries to take advantage. We're paying her about 40% more than the average rate here, with fewer hours as well. Do you think I should work on these issues with her, or try to find a new nanny? Thanks!