I would've typed up a bill!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for all the positive encouragement. You're all correct.

As an update the MB I sit for was still annoyed for me today and went over to the other mother's home. The mom was embarrassed and apologized to my MB.

MB told her she needed to apologize to me next time I sat.

Why would you ever babysit these kids again? If your MB cares even one whit about you, she would refuse to ever put you in sicj a position again.

Maybe you missed the part where I've babysat for this family for four years?

They are a wonderful family to work for, and I have ZERO complaints. I can't think of one thing.

She didn't put me in any situation. Crap happens.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for all the positive encouragement. You're all correct.

As an update the MB I sit for was still annoyed for me today and went over to the other mother's home. The mom was embarrassed and apologized to my MB.

MB told her she needed to apologize to me next time I sat.

Why would you ever babysit these kids again? If your MB cares even one whit about you, she would refuse to ever put you in sicj a position again.

I'm impressed that you stayed so calm. If that woman had yelled at me and called the cops, I would have told her off and threatened to CPS for neglect. Her child is her responsibility and if you weren't there to look after her, god knows what could have happened to the little girl.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for all the positive encouragement. You're all correct.

As an update the MB I sit for was still annoyed for me today and went over to the other mother's home. The mom was embarrassed and apologized to my MB.

MB told her she needed to apologize to me next time I sat.

If I was your MB, I would have told the neighbor that her kids were no longer allowed to play in your backyard. You can bet that they would sue/have sued your employers if anything happened. The nerve!

Actually DB is a Lawyer. Last year after a boy broke his arm while playing in their yard, DB and his neighbors drew up parent release forms. If your kid wants to come play in the four back yards, you have to sign a waiver. There are sometimes up to 15 kids out back. Everyone has a fantastic playground set.

I thought that was weird at first, but this day and age it makes sense.

I doubt the little girl and her brother will get a form. My bosses are not keen on someone not knowing where their child was for such a long period of time. Everyone of their neighbors may "watch out" for each child in the evenings, but they are not babysitting anyone's child.

Meant to say OP here, and maybe they SHOULD get a form if they happen to wander over again!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for all the positive encouragement. You're all correct.

As an update the MB I sit for was still annoyed for me today and went over to the other mother's home. The mom was embarrassed and apologized to my MB.

MB told her she needed to apologize to me next time I sat.

If I was your MB, I would have told the neighbor that her kids were no longer allowed to play in your backyard. You can bet that they would sue/have sued your employers if anything happened. The nerve!

Actually DB is a Lawyer. Last year after a boy broke his arm while playing in their yard, DB and his neighbors drew up parent release forms. If your kid wants to come play in the four back yards, you have to sign a waiver. There are sometimes up to 15 kids out back. Everyone has a fantastic playground set.

I thought that was weird at first, but this day and age it makes sense.

I doubt the little girl and her brother will get a form. My bosses are not keen on someone not knowing where their child was for such a long period of time. Everyone of their neighbors may "watch out" for each child in the evenings, but they are not babysitting anyone's child.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for all the positive encouragement. You're all correct.

As an update the MB I sit for was still annoyed for me today and went over to the other mother's home. The mom was embarrassed and apologized to my MB.

MB told her she needed to apologize to me next time I sat.

If I was your MB, I would have told the neighbor that her kids were no longer allowed to play in your backyard. You can bet that they would sue/have sued your employers if anything happened. The nerve!

+1
Send them right on home if they show up again.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for all the positive encouragement. You're all correct.

As an update the MB I sit for was still annoyed for me today and went over to the other mother's home. The mom was embarrassed and apologized to my MB.

MB told her she needed to apologize to me next time I sat.

If I was your MB, I would have told the neighbor that her kids were no longer allowed to play in your backyard. You can bet that they would sue/have sued your employers if anything happened. The nerve!

I don't understand why they were upset with you? Did they think you took her? Only thing you could have done was to call 911 once you new she was a lost child with no adult in sight. Just to cover your self incase you were to get charged or accused of kidnapping. But 911 is a tough call to make I know.

OP here, thanks for all the positive encouragement. You're all correct.

As an update the MB I sit for was still annoyed for me today and went over to the other mother's home. The mom was embarrassed and apologized to my MB.

MB told her she needed to apologize to me next time I sat.

Wow, this probably happens all the time. I refuse to be responsible for others kids whose parents I do not know. If anything, those parents should be charged with neglect. You handled it well. I would have done the same thing.

They're really pathetic excuses so I'll go ahead and get mad on your behalf. Calling the cops on you was outrageous. What they should have done is thanked you for keeping her safe and bringing her back. They endangered their own child by failing to properly supervise her. I would never have a 6 year old be responsible for a 3 year old.

I wouldn't feel bad OP. I have a 3 year old and I can't imagine not noticing that he isn't there for 2 hours!! 2 minutes maybe, but that's it. It's the parents fault completely. Yes, I feel bad for their panic, it's the worst feeling in the world to not know where your child is, but maybe it will teach them to keep a better eye on their children. I guess maybe I can see in their moment of panic that they initially blamed you but once they calmed down they should have apologized and they NEVER should have called the cops. That was so completely uncalled for. I can't imagine in what situation they thought this was your fault.
Anyway, I'm sorry you had to go through that last night.

I don't want this to be a long post, so I will try to keep it on point.

I am a nanny. I work mon-fri 65 hours a week.

I also babysit every other Saturday for a different family. I've been sitting for them for 4 years. They have 2 girls ages 4 and 6.

I sat yesterday Saturday for this regular family. I arrived and the parents told me that the girls neighborhood friends were in the back yard playing. We are talking 6 boys and 1 girl plus my 2. The neighborhood backyards do not have fences so the kids play throughout all 4 of the yards.

It was easy enough to keep an eye on mine and also help the other parents out on their decks watch the hoodlums when they came to my bosses yard.

We all had a blast.

Around 6:30pm the kids started getting called in for supper. My 2 came home along with another little girl who had been playing with them since before I arrived. Right away I knew something wasn't right. I asked her what her name was, and how old she was. She is 3. I asked if her brother just left to go home and she said her brother left a long time ago, (honestly I was just under the assumption one of the 6 boys were her older brother). I asked where she lived so we could walk her home and she told us it was far away.

Well I have red flags flying everywhere and we trek to the front of the house. Immediately I see people running around about 2 blocks up calling the little girls name. That confirmed my suspicions and we hastily walked to where the group was. I was Immediately met with insults, threats, and yelling.

The mother screamed they JUST realized 10 minutes prior to our arrival that the girl was not at their tail gate party....

I explained that I was the babysitter, and when I arrived at 4:30pm the little girl was already there playing in all of the neighbors backyards with seven other children.

Screaming at me she said they were calling the cops and they were pressing charges against me for child endangerment. Sigh. Ok, call them I said. In the mean time I'm taking my two home two blocks over for dinner.

20 minutes later there are police at the door. They were nice and Asked what happened. I told them everything and explained all the neighbor kids hang out in the four backyards. I let them know she was back there when I arrived. I assumed she was with one of the boys.

Turns out her brother was there, around 4pm. He left and didn't take her back with him. Mom mad dad saw him return to the tailgating party and assumed she did too....so from 4:30ish to 6:30ish these parents never once saw their little girl.

The officers thanked me for my time, and said they were sorry for any inconvenience.

I'm not mad at the parents for taking their fear and anger out on me. I do think they need to be more watchful.

My bosses got home and I told them what happened. They were floored. They said they had seen her outside themselves. She comes over to the yards with her brother and sometimes alone to play.

It just irks me that they had no idea their beautiful, charming, 3 year old baby was not with them for almost 2 hours, and she was 2 blocks away. It boggles my mind. I'm feeling guilty for not see red flags sooner. I honestly thought this other blonde haired kid was her brother, and I have no idea where any of those kids homes were.

I guess I don't have a question. I suppose it is a rant. I just feel sick at how worried that mother and father had to have been. I've been there before with my niece. You feel like your gut was ripped out.