When the kids make a pig pen on the weekends with their parents, I leave it for them to clean up on Monday after school. How hard is that??

OP make a responsibility chart with the kids. Get crafty with it and get some stickers. Identify things that they need to clean (put my clothes in the hamper, picked up my toys before bed, etc) and they get a sticker either from their parents at night or from you in the morning. Offer them a special outing or fun activity if they get stickers for all 5 days.

Anonymous wrote:I used to work with 3 little boys. Every night and on weekends the kids would TRASH their rooms, playroom and living room. I was a live in with not the most private living quarters; so I heard the boys. I never heard the parents ask them to clean up once. So every morning and especially every Monday morning, I was so miffed to see what a huge mess I needed to clean up.

I did bring this up with the parents. But MB said, " in the evenings and on weekends they have no time to ensure the kids would clean up". Basically the mess made on my off time, is my problem while on duty.

So I quit!

OP again, this is sounding similar to my situation. Maybe I have your old job hahaha

I used to work with 3 little boys. Every night and on weekends the kids would TRASH their rooms, playroom and living room. I was a live in with not the most private living quarters; so I heard the boys. I never heard the parents ask them to clean up once. So every morning and especially every Monday morning, I was so miffed to see what a huge mess I needed to clean up.

I did bring this up with the parents. But MB said, " in the evenings and on weekends they have no time to ensure the kids would clean up". Basically the mess made on my off time, is my problem while on duty.

So I quit!

OP, I'm an MB. My kids are only toddlers, so I haven't yet deal with the ages you're managing but even my two year olds help clean everything up before they go to bed.

I would absolutely support you in trying to get these kids (and their parents) to show some more responsibility. But the way you've described it does make it sound like the parents are a problem.

Maybe you could sit down with the parents and tell them that you're really working with the kids on establishing a pattern of cleaning up, taking responsibility for their personal space, etc... and you'd like to ask for their help (if they're supportive of what you're doing) with carrying through one or two basic rules in the evenings or weekends. Then pick a couple of rules (5 minutes of cleanup before bed, or before dessert or whatever) that aren't too threatening and are (seemingly) aimed at teaching the kids good skills.

If the parents think they're supporting a request from you to help teach their kids, maybe they'll be more receptive and supportive than if they feel like they're being questioned in some way.

Sounds kind of tough honestly but good luck!

The truth is you can't make the parents do their job. So leave the mess alone, and let them do whatever they want with it.

OP here, I don't pick up after the kids or parents. The kids clean up after themselves on my time and then I make them clean up a huge mess made on the parents time. I find it frustrating to have to deal with it though, because I don't let the mess get out of hand because it becomes overwhelming for the children to tackle. I was actually looking for helpful advice if anyone has ever dealt with it in a professional manner before, not a childish one like only telling the kids to clean up the mess they made on my time.

I hate to say this, but you sound more like a cleaning lady, not a nanny. You might want to leave them and get a nanny job.

You work for lazy slobs. Only clean up messes made on your watch.

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Anonymous wrote:Age of the kids?

5-10. At the age that they can clean up after themselves completely, and they do when I am with them. I don't know how to make a plan when they are with the parents though.

It's nice that you think you're their parent, but you're not. You're only enabling them all to behave like children. Just ignore their shit piles tomorrow and allow them to take some responsibility for their own behavior.

It's called tough love, OP.
The parents need it to sometimes.

Get real. They want her to pick up after them.

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Anonymous wrote:Age of the kids?

5-10. At the age that they can clean up after themselves completely, and they do when I am with them. I don't know how to make a plan when they are with the parents though.

It's nice that you think you're their parent, but you're not. You're only enabling them all to behave like children. Just ignore their shit piles tomorrow and allow them to take some responsibility for their own behavior.

It's called tough love, OP.
The parents need it to sometimes.

Anonymous wrote:Age of the kids?

5-10. At the age that they can clean up after themselves completely, and they do when I am with them. I don't know how to make a plan when they are with the parents though.

You need to stop treating them all like babies. Just leave their messes.

Age of the kids?

MBs and nannies I could REALLY[b use your helpful advice on the huge mess left after parents are with their kids. The parents tell me that they want the kids to clean up after themselves and be responsible for their own things. Without fail every night and weekend a huge mess is created or I am bailing the kids out with lost/forgotten items because they don't put stuff where it belongs with the parents. When I am with them we focus on cleaning up before moving on or taking a small amount of time tackling a room that got out of hand, and it is always so easy. I am tired of handling making the kids clean up a mess that was created when I am gone. It is taking away from my other responsibilities as well.

MBs, would you be offended if your nanny brought this up, what would be a nice way? Or should I just ignore it (and probably move on)?

Nannies, any advice what has worked for you?

Thanks!