Anonymous
Post 10/03/2013 17:57     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
Op here: EXACTLY... I feel like my time is never as valuable as a parent ..
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2013 17:40     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
Yesterday after work ( long day with 2 year old twins) I was running into the grocery store to pick up one thing for dinner. I ran into a mom I casually babysit for ( also attends my church) in the parking lot... She was driving, I was walking into the store. It was POURING rain! I waved hi. She rolled the window down and asked if I could go I to the store and grab her a few things instead of her having to bring her 3 kids into the store. I understand but this added 15 mins to my shopping trip. One of the items she asked for didn't look good so I bought an alternative. She didn't want it so she asked if I could stay with the kids in the car while she ran in. This was supposed to be a 5 min stop for me. Ended up being 30.....
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 20:33     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
No, I never have had people take advantage of me like that.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 15:53     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
Nope.

People respect me.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 15:42     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
*online auction, not scrutiny
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 15:41     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
A friend 1250 miles away was diagnosed with cancer and expected me to just quit my $75k per year nanny job and go work for her for free! We were best friends 15 years ago and have not been nearly as close over the years, and now I'm a jerk because I don't want to move into her house and nanny for free??? She told mutual friends she was really disappointed in me. Are you kidding me??? I sent her $ and bought crap I didn't need for her online scrutiny and fundraisers to help her. But she's still not happy!
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 14:46     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
Anonymous wrote:The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!


Jeez!! Its ridiculous that they even suggested you quit your current job.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 14:36     Subject: Re:Do people assume because your a nanny..
Ha!! This definitely reminds me of a friend who would invite me to her house to "hang out" then hit me with a story of how she needs to go grocery shopping blah blah blah and leave me with her kids for hours. I eventually started avoiding her calls, responding the next day. Lol. Horrible friend I am. I also made comments about how I needed my adult time and was tired of baby talk. I had to get blunt by telling her I want nothing to do with children on the weekend!! I haven't gotten an invite to 'hang out' from her!
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 14:24     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
Anonymous wrote:The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!


WTH?? That is so obnoxious!!! I've had similar situations, as far as people thinking that I am just DYING to "hang out" with their little ones when we're at a function or out-of-town weekend or something. Yeah, no thanks!
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 14:17     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
The most recent issue I ran into was with a few older women at my church. One of our members was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 2 weeks ago. She is a SAHM with 4 children ages 5, 4, 2, and 3 months.

I was bombarded with phone calls and FB messages telling me I needed to nanny for this poor woman. My response was that I have a very FULL time job with a family I adore. They take great care of me. I was told by two women, face to face, that I needed to quit my "babysitting" and nanny for this lady. I politely declined stating my facts about my Nanny job.

They looked at me like I had just ran over their puppy on purpose.

Then they assumed that since I was this, "self proclaimed nanny", that I should know a nanny who is willing to give up their job to help someone. Uuuuugggghhhh.

I actually do not know any other nannies. We aren't big on play dates. I'm pretty sure they thought I was lying.

Finally this past Sunday I had to get a bit nasty in my tone and more forceful with my words. Needless to say I was defriended by 3 women on FB and 2 called my mother.....MY MOTHER!!!

Who tattle tales on a 28 year old woman who supports herself well and lives on her own?


Sorry, that was long LOL!
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 13:49     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
Don't tell them when you're on vacation, don't take their kids etc. problem solved. This never happens to me.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 13:31     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
Yes! When on VACATION my family and friends stick me with their kids. I think I resent the kids now because of this. I don't like my friends and family's kids. They are so ill behaved. One day, I'm going to stick them with a bill for my professional services.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 11:19     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
Yes.
They also assume I am available at any time to take care of their children! They assume I am unemployed
They also assume I don't know anything about kids!
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 08:20     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
No. You need to establish some healthy boundaries here. When they ask you to work for them, you tell them your fees. Done.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2013 08:09     Subject: Do people assume because your a nanny..
That you WANT to do free babysitting for family/friends? That you want to help out with people's children (when you aren't getting paid).

Because this seems to be a frequent struggle for me.