Anonymous wrote:Don't let this get you down OP.

In the long run, you did them a HUGE favor by turning the job down.
Imagine if you were one of those nannies who accepted the job, knowing full well you weren't going to be 100% happy w/it, but you took it because you were desperate and needed the money, etc. Then after their child bonded w/you, you bailed on them.

You did the mature thing here OP and I am sure the family realizes this too.

Kudos to you for doing what many nannies do not do.

Stick to your guns.
Your dream job is just around the corner.

People take jobs all the time that they aren't thrilled with. A job is a job, and if you are struggling financially you don't have the luxury of being picky. That doesn't make someone a bad nanny any more than turning down an offer makes OP a bad nanny. Its a job, and you do what you have to do. Enough with the nanny guilt. We're mere employees when it suits you, and we owe you loyalty for life and doing what's best for us will shatter your world when it suits you. Enough. Good luck in your job search OP, and remember that its just a job. Don't feel bad for taking care of you.

Don't feel bad at all. I turned down a nanny share offer 3 years ago, because I knew that one of the parents was someone I did not wish to work for. I gave it a lot of thought, and left him a phone message/sent and email. I also sent the other family a card, thanking them for their time. I have zero regrets.

Don't let this get you down OP.

In the long run, you did them a HUGE favor by turning the job down.
Imagine if you were one of those nannies who accepted the job, knowing full well you weren't going to be 100% happy w/it, but you took it because you were desperate and needed the money, etc. Then after their child bonded w/you, you bailed on them.

You did the mature thing here OP and I am sure the family realizes this too.

Kudos to you for doing what many nannies do not do.

Stick to your guns.
Your dream job is just around the corner.

Thank you all!

People turn down employment (or turn down potential employees) everyday. It's a part of life. No need to feel badly about it.

You did the right thing, OP. Of course money is important, but it's never the only thing for a smart nanny. Good luck to you, OP. The right family is bound to find you. Just keep putting yourself out there.

Your feelings speak well of you OP - I can imagine why the family was sad at your choice. But you have to do what's best for you - and you wouldn't be doing the family any favors if you took the job knowing you weren't happy with it.

Hope you (and they) find the right fit.

It just wasn't the right fit. I didn't feel a connection with the family. Hours weren't enough. Wanted to pay off the books only. Commute further than I wanted.

I just feel bad. They seemed really interested in me and were offering to pay me what I asked even though other candidates requested lower rates. I hate to disappoint anyone.

I don't think I've ever turned down a job offer before. All my other offers were for jobs I really wanted and families I really connected with. I do need a job pretty badly but am holding out for the right family.

Anyone else ever feel this way??