Anonymous wrote:I hear ya OP.

Parents say they work at home and need someone to watch their child. Yet nine times out of ten they are watching the nanny and micromanaging her instead of concentrating on their so called "work." I never understand this.

What really gets me is the self entitled mothers who don't have jobs, but still need that extra set of hands so they can go to the gym, then do lunch and get their nails done.

I so agree! It's crazy how you say they need someone to watch their kids when in reality they're listening to what's going on.. I saw a parent even say that in one of the other forums and complain about how the au pair didn't talk much to the child. Do your fu*king work. And if you don't have a job, you don't need a full-time nanny. But as someone stated above, I didn't know people who works from home had to have another primary provider taking care of the child during "work hours" so it actually makes sense now. But of I had the luxury to work from home, I'd damn sure not hire anyone full-time

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Anonymous wrote:I work at home. In order for my company to allow this, I have to show proof of some sort of child care. Thus, a nanny. So much easier than running around pumping in a closet and going on mass transit with an insulated bag full of bodily fluids.

How is it working out? Tips?

I think it works out great. I think the nanny thinks so too, but who knows how she really feels? We specified we needed someone who was a team player, had no ego, didn't think s/he was too good to do specific things, etc. It helps that I work out of a room that the kids don't go past while playing, so there's no issue of them seeing me and being reminded I'm there.

She has "no ego"? What do you mean?

My work won't allow me to work from home if I'm the primary caretaker of my child during work hours....hence it would make sense to hire a nanny

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Anonymous wrote:I work at home. In order for my company to allow this, I have to show proof of some sort of child care. Thus, a nanny. So much easier than running around pumping in a closet and going on mass transit with an insulated bag full of bodily fluids.

How is it working out? Tips?

I think it works out great. I think the nanny thinks so too, but who knows how she really feels? We specified we needed someone who was a team player, had no ego, didn't think s/he was too good to do specific things, etc. It helps that I work out of a room that the kids don't go past while playing, so there's no issue of them seeing me and being reminded I'm there.

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Anonymous wrote:I truly don't understand this either. If you have children and the luxury of not needing to work, why do you need another adult around all day?

Maybe you aren't fulfilled by FT child-care and find you are a better parent when you have the help? Not everyone who has kids needs to be supermom or superdad; if they're ensuring their kids are healthy, safe, loved, and well-cared for (in this case by hiring a wonderful nanny), why hate? Plenty of people only see their kids in the evenings or on weekends and have thriving, meaningful relationships with them. Lay off.

Most do not. Stop the defensiveness. You have to know a people to have a solid relationship with them.

I hate to break it to you but the majority of parents in this country work, which means they see their kids in evenings and on weekends. Yet we are seeing stronger parent-child relationships than any previous generation. If you eat dinner as a family, read to your kids at bedtime, and enjoy family activities on the weekend what is to stop you from "knowing" your kids?

Anonymous wrote:I work at home. In order for my company to allow this, I have to show proof of some sort of child care. Thus, a nanny. So much easier than running around pumping in a closet and going on mass transit with an insulated bag full of bodily fluids.

How is it working out? Tips?

I work at home. In order for my company to allow this, I have to show proof of some sort of child care. Thus, a nanny. So much easier than running around pumping in a closet and going on mass transit with an insulated bag full of bodily fluids.

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Anonymous wrote:I truly don't understand this either. If you have children and the luxury of not needing to work, why do you need another adult around all day?

Maybe you aren't fulfilled by FT child-care and find you are a better parent when you have the help? Not everyone who has kids needs to be supermom or superdad; if they're ensuring their kids are healthy, safe, loved, and well-cared for (in this case by hiring a wonderful nanny), why hate? Plenty of people only see their kids in the evenings or on weekends and have thriving, meaningful relationships with them. Lay off.

Most do not. Stop the defensiveness. You have to know a people to have a solid relationship with them.

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Anonymous wrote:I truly don't understand this either. If you have children and the luxury of not needing to work, why do you need another adult around all day?

Maybe you aren't fulfilled by FT child-care and find you are a better parent when you have the help? Not everyone who has kids needs to be supermom or superdad; if they're ensuring their kids are healthy, safe, loved, and well-cared for (in this case by hiring a wonderful nanny), why hate? Plenty of people only see their kids in the evenings or on weekends and have thriving, meaningful relationships with them. Lay off.

Most do not. Stop the defensiveness. You have to know a people to have a solid relationship with them.

I hear ya OP.

Parents say they work at home and need someone to watch their child. Yet nine times out of ten they are watching the nanny and micromanaging her instead of concentrating on their so called "work." I never understand this.

What really gets me is the self entitled mothers who don't have jobs, but still need that extra set of hands so they can go to the gym, then do lunch and get their nails done.

I know a woman who is disabled (MS) and cannot work. She's a very hands on mom but needs help. She gets tired and physically cannot pick her child up or make lunch. Sometimes she needs to nap during the day.

Anonymous wrote:I truly don't understand this either. If you have children and the luxury of not needing to work, why do you need another adult around all day?

Maybe you aren't fulfilled by FT child-care and find you are a better parent when you have the help? Not everyone who has kids needs to be supermom or superdad; if they're ensuring their kids are healthy, safe, loved, and well-cared for (in this case by hiring a wonderful nanny), why hate? Plenty of people only see their kids in the evenings or on weekends and have thriving, meaningful relationships with them. Lay off.

I truly don't understand this either. If you have children and the luxury of not needing to work, why do you need another adult around all day?

I'm the one who posted about the mom on maternity leave. Although this particular child has a hard time leaving his mother, other children don't mind as much and the mom can pop in and out without issues.

Why pay a nanny if your child is going to be with you all day? Popping in and out of your child's space isn't fair to your child. Why do that to your child?