Anonymous
09/05/2013 09:02
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
Anonymous wrote:MB here, if you had said she was really great with the kids, I'd strongly recommend that you talk to her. I understand it is difficult to suddenly find yourself having to 'manage' someone, especially someone in your home, and that you don't want to have a confrontation. If you do want to try giving her a chance, put your expectations in writing, e.g. a checklist or schedule for the day. You can handle it diplomatically by saying that you are afraid perhaps you weren't clear on your expectations, and if she has any issues with what you've detailed, she should let you know. Say that you want open communication and to make sure that everyone is happy with how things are going.
However, if she is just 'ok' with your kids then go with your gut instinct. For $20 an hour I'd expect a high degree of professionalism, a strong rapport with the kids, ability to take initiative, etc. She sounds like she's coasting and it will probably not get much better even if you do talk to her.
What's your point? (OP said the sitter was "ok" with the children.)
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:55
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
MB here, if you had said she was really great with the kids, I'd strongly recommend that you talk to her. I understand it is difficult to suddenly find yourself having to 'manage' someone, especially someone in your home, and that you don't want to have a confrontation. If you do want to try giving her a chance, put your expectations in writing, e.g. a checklist or schedule for the day. You can handle it diplomatically by saying that you are afraid perhaps you weren't clear on your expectations, and if she has any issues with what you've detailed, she should let you know. Say that you want open communication and to make sure that everyone is happy with how things are going.
However, if she is just 'ok' with your kids then go with your gut instinct. For $20 an hour I'd expect a high degree of professionalism, a strong rapport with the kids, ability to take initiative, etc. She sounds like she's coasting and it will probably not get much better even if you do talk to her.
However, if she is just 'ok' with your kids then go with your gut instinct. For $20 an hour I'd expect a high degree of professionalism, a strong rapport with the kids, ability to take initiative, etc. She sounds like she's coasting and it will probably not get much better even if you do talk to her.
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:55
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
A "nanny" doesn't need to be told to clean up after herself and the children.
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:53
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
Did you all actually discuss what her housekeeping responsibilities would be or are were you hoping she reads minds? I often tell families that I'm okay with some housekeeping duties at an interview, but if those duties are never negotiated why would I do them? I'm also comfortable watching up to 5 children at once, but if we negotiated a rate for 2, I'm not going to volunteer to watch your neighbor's kids for free!
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:53
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
OP, did you specifically tell her what you wanted her to do? I agree that it's expected that she would know that basic cleaning up after the kids would be a required part of the job, and it doesn't bode well that she doesn't get that. But have you specifically told her what your expectations are?
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:18
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
Anonymous wrote:We have two backups that could work. Do we let her go on Friday? Should we wait until Monday?
Friday, when you get home from work. Again, giving her 2 weeks pay is more than some would do, so no need for any guilt whatsoever.
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:15
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
We have two backups that could work. Do we let her go on Friday? Should we wait until Monday?
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:12
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
Do you know someone else who can help you?
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:10
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
Anonymous wrote:8:03 here. If you're gut is telling you to fire her, you have to do it. Period. Give her the two weeks pay, and be done with it. That's more than fair. Tell us when you're done.
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Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:09
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
She is in her mid 30s, she was recommended to us by a friend of a friend and had good references. I thought I was so lucky to find her, but we are just very underwhelmed by her performance. She was with the other family for a year or so.
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:09
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
8:03 here. If you're gut is telling you to fire her, you have to do it. Period. Give her the two weeks pay, and be done with it. That's more than fair. Tell us when you're done.
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:03
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
Anonymous wrote:We just have a verbal agreement. Could I let her go and pay her two weeks pay? Should I tell her why I'm letting her go? I'm so nervous about it I can't sleep at night. I feel bad about letting her go because she is a nice girl, she just isn't holding up her end of the deal.
I'll try to help you. How old is she? What is her previous experience? How did you find her?
Anonymous
09/05/2013 08:00
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
We just have a verbal agreement. Could I let her go and pay her two weeks pay? Should I tell her why I'm letting her go? I'm so nervous about it I can't sleep at night. I feel bad about letting her go because she is a nice girl, she just isn't holding up her end of the deal.
Anonymous
09/05/2013 07:56
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
Sorry, but you didn't hire a "nanny".
Did you have any kind of agreement with her?
Did you have any kind of agreement with her?
Anonymous
09/05/2013 07:52
Subject: Firing a nanny..how?
We hired a nanny and shes okay with the kids, but she doesn't clean up after them at all. She lets our daughter play with every single toy and leave them all out and our son always has food on himself and when I come home from work the house is a mess. When we hired her she said she was okay with housework, but she does nothing. During their naptime (they sleep for 2 - 3 hours) she just sits on her ipad. Yesterday I came home and there were dishes that needed to be put away and when she arrives and theywere sleeping she just sits on her ipad, she never offers to help. We are paying her 20/hour and I feel that she should be doing more than just sitting around, but I don't know how to bring this up. I've tried hinting before, but she doesn't get it. She is great with the kids, but I need someone who is the whole package and I just want to fire her. I feel bad, because she is a nice person, but its not working out. Advice?