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Anonymous wrote:MB in a nanny share here. Go with Option A. Very important to be completely on the same page with the other family, and if you get along great and have great communication, you will find and agree on a great nanny for the kids. Will also be easier on the nanny to have both employers on the same page and communicating well all around.

Also, you will not have trouble finding a nanny to rotate provided houses are reasonable near each other, both near activities, and well equipped. We switched off monthly, and have never had any trouble.

How do you keep two houses well equipped at the same time? Two sets of everything at each house? Sounds like a nightmare.

NP. they rotate monthly, not weekly. Doesn't seem that bad.

How would you know?

How would I know what? That it doesn't seem that bad? Because I've worked in a share for more than two years now, and we used to rotate houses.

We'd have to ask the nanny to really know the impact of the upheaval on the children.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB in a nanny share here. Go with Option A. Very important to be completely on the same page with the other family, and if you get along great and have great communication, you will find and agree on a great nanny for the kids. Will also be easier on the nanny to have both employers on the same page and communicating well all around.

Also, you will not have trouble finding a nanny to rotate provided houses are reasonable near each other, both near activities, and well equipped. We switched off monthly, and have never had any trouble.

How do you keep two houses well equipped at the same time? Two sets of everything at each house? Sounds like a nightmare.

NP. they rotate monthly, not weekly. Doesn't seem that bad.

How would you know?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB in a nanny share here. Go with Option A. Very important to be completely on the same page with the other family, and if you get along great and have great communication, you will find and agree on a great nanny for the kids. Will also be easier on the nanny to have both employers on the same page and communicating well all around.

Also, you will not have trouble finding a nanny to rotate provided houses are reasonable near each other, both near activities, and well equipped. We switched off monthly, and have never had any trouble.

How do you keep two houses well equipped at the same time? Two sets of everything at each house? Sounds like a nightmare.

NP. they rotate monthly, not weekly. Doesn't seem that bad.

Do whatever your gut is telling you, OP, and please let us know how it's going after the first two months.

MB in a nanny share here. Go with Option A. Very important to be completely on the same page with the other family, and if you get along great and have great communication, you will find and agree on a great nanny for the kids. Will also be easier on the nanny to have both employers on the same page and communicating well all around.

Also, you will not have trouble finding a nanny to rotate provided houses are reasonable near each other, both near activities, and well equipped. We switched off monthly, and have never had any trouble.

+100

1.) You have no idea if this nanny is amazing. You can't love a nanny after one phone call.
2.) You don't want the drama of the parents not agreeing on things. This will annoy a good nanny. A bad nanny will manipulate it to her advantage. You don't want either situation.
3.) There will be a lot of things down the road that you and your share partner will need to work out. Its easier in the beginning and gets trickier as the kids get older.

Anonymous wrote:MB in a nanny share here. Go with Option A. Very important to be completely on the same page with the other family, and if you get along great and have great communication, you will find and agree on a great nanny for the kids. Will also be easier on the nanny to have both employers on the same page and communicating well all around.

Also, you will not have trouble finding a nanny to rotate provided houses are reasonable near each other, both near activities, and well equipped. We switched off monthly, and have never had any trouble.

How do you keep two houses well equipped at the same time? Two sets of everything at each house? Sounds like a nightmare.

MB in a nanny share here. Go with Option A. Very important to be completely on the same page with the other family, and if you get along great and have great communication, you will find and agree on a great nanny for the kids. Will also be easier on the nanny to have both employers on the same page and communicating well all around.

Also, you will not have trouble finding a nanny to rotate provided houses are reasonable near each other, both near activities, and well equipped. We switched off monthly, and have never had any trouble.

You'll be interacting with the nanny more so I'd go with a nanny you love. In a nanny and I work pt for a few families and frequently do shares with various families in different mixes. The parents almost never communicate with each other except for the two that were already friends (one referred me to the other.) Also I think that if you have to hire a new nanny with a couple you barely know it could pose a bigger challenge than you think. You have to get four people, two of whom you barely know, to agree to the hire.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - in both situations, the share will rotate so its a wash on that point.

You'll have a hard time finding a nanny who'll be happy doing a constant rotation. Obviously, one home or the other will be better for the children and for her. Every rotation will mean upheaval for all.

I wouldn't assume that the nanny was wonderful after one conversation.

OP here - in both situations, the share will rotate so its a wash on that point.

What a dilemma. I don't know that it'll be so easy to find a nanny that you both love equally, or that you'll both agree on the same nanny.

It seems to me the nanny is the more important person rather than the other parents, seeing that the nanny will be the one providing the childcare.

Which home do you envision using (as that does make a difference)?

Option A no brainer. You and the other mom will find a nanny that you like just as much as the one you spent a whole hour getting to know. The nanny you spoke to may be great but there are other great nannies out there too. Some nannies are also very good at putting on a good impression but they turn out to be just OK or even iffy. The nanny you think you liked after one conversation may not be vey good after all. There really is no incentive for the mom that you talked to you to present herself differently or say she wants one thing when she does a different thing.

Which is more important - getting along great with the other mom in the nanny share or getting along great with the nanny? We have two potential families for our nanny share. In Situation A, I get along super well with the mom, we're on the same page, I feel comfortable speaking my mind, concerns, etc and the kids get along well (having met once). We would have to find a nanny with this arrangement. In Situation B, which on paper seems to be better, I did not feel very comfortable with the mom (I did with the dad though) - she seemed a little stand-offish and apathetic. The kids didn't interact too much because there were a million kids running around so its hard to tell if they would get along as well. However, I love the nanny in this situation (I had talked on the phone with her for nearly an hour and she seems wonderful).

Which is best? Which may create problems down the road? My gut tells me that Situation A is probably best because we can always find a nanny that we love. TIA for your thoughts!!