Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous



What are you, going to melt if you don't respond to her texts? You are already doing close to nothing at your job, don't be lazy!

I really hope you aren't an MB, because I am and this is the stupidest and most embarrassing post I've seen here.

OP, there is no reason at all for your MB to text you when you're not at work and you should feel free to ignore all her texts. If you do this, one of two things will happen. She'll get it and leave you alone, or she won't and ask you why you didn't answer. If I were you, and because I'm not a fan of conflict, I'd say something along the lines of....after hours, I turn off my phone so I can enjoy my night. You can also just straight up tell her that when you're off the clock, you don't answer work texts.

Either way, put a stop to it. This isn't right.

If you are so embarrassed to ask the nanny to text you pics and updates, why aren't you embarrassed to ask her watch your kid? Just pay her money, ask no questions, give no work to do, and feel smart, looser.

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for all your reply. This is OP and I am definitely not MB. I cannot sleep thinking about going to work tomorrow or just quitting it. I don't feel comfortable working for this family anymore.

Seriously? That seems pretty extreme given what you described (which could all be just first time parent nerves and might be easily managed). This doesn't sound like a professional nanny w/ a decade of experience.

Maybe gently remind her that you have ten years of experience, and what her baby is going through is totally normal. Promise to text her if something is wrong, and hopefully she will chill out on her own once she sees baby is okay with you, etc. if she can't calm down I would leave after a few weeks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous



What are you, going to melt if you don't respond to her texts? You are already doing close to nothing at your job, don't be lazy!

I really hope you aren't an MB, because I am and this is the stupidest and most embarrassing post I've seen here.

OP, there is no reason at all for your MB to text you when you're not at work and you should feel free to ignore all her texts. If you do this, one of two things will happen. She'll get it and leave you alone, or she won't and ask you why you didn't answer. If I were you, and because I'm not a fan of conflict, I'd say something along the lines of....after hours, I turn off my phone so I can enjoy my night. You can also just straight up tell her that when you're off the clock, you don't answer work texts.

Either way, put a stop to it. This isn't right.

I agree tht constant texting is annoying, but an employer shouldn't have the right to text a household employee outside of work hours at all? I don't see why not. If my mb texts me, I'm not annoyed, and I have no problem texting her. Just sounds odd.

This is one of those things that is circumstantial. Yes, if MB texted me at night to let me know about a schedule change in the morning or if a kid was sick, something along those lines, that would be ok. Texting every hour with updates about a baby not napping, not appropriate. This is also, what, the second day of OP's job, definitely not a good sign. Op, I wouldn't quit yet. Make it clear that the texts are not welcome or appropriate and try to forge a relationship from there. MB may really just not know any better at this point.

Its probably normal teething and hard as a first time parent if you have a normally easy going infant. I would keep a log of what you did every hour or so and send a picture or two about 1/2 way through. It is scary leaving your child with someone new you do not know well. Cut her some slack. You may be her one day.

Thank you for all your reply. This is OP and I am definitely not MB. I cannot sleep thinking about going to work tomorrow or just quitting it. I don't feel comfortable working for this family anymore.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous



What are you, going to melt if you don't respond to her texts? You are already doing close to nothing at your job, don't be lazy!

I really hope you aren't an MB, because I am and this is the stupidest and most embarrassing post I've seen here.

OP, there is no reason at all for your MB to text you when you're not at work and you should feel free to ignore all her texts. If you do this, one of two things will happen. She'll get it and leave you alone, or she won't and ask you why you didn't answer. If I were you, and because I'm not a fan of conflict, I'd say something along the lines of....after hours, I turn off my phone so I can enjoy my night. You can also just straight up tell her that when you're off the clock, you don't answer work texts.

Either way, put a stop to it. This isn't right.

I agree tht constant texting is annoying, but an employer shouldn't have the right to text a household employee outside of work hours at all? I don't see why not. If my mb texts me, I'm not annoyed, and I have no problem texting her. Just sounds odd.

Anonymous



What are you, going to melt if you don't respond to her texts? You are already doing close to nothing at your job, don't be lazy!

I really hope you aren't an MB, because I am and this is the stupidest and most embarrassing post I've seen here.

OP, there is no reason at all for your MB to text you when you're not at work and you should feel free to ignore all her texts. If you do this, one of two things will happen. She'll get it and leave you alone, or she won't and ask you why you didn't answer. If I were you, and because I'm not a fan of conflict, I'd say something along the lines of....after hours, I turn off my phone so I can enjoy my night. You can also just straight up tell her that when you're off the clock, you don't answer work texts.

Either way, put a stop to it. This isn't right.

Anonymous wrote:What are you, going to melt if you don't respond to her texts? You are already doing close to nothing at your job, don't be lazy!

Are you serious?? I'm guessing you're an mb. If i'm wrong i really don't care anyway. Her boss told her to exclusively take care of the baby. I'm sure her responsibilities will increase as the baby grows. Oh man it sounds like you have a new mum. It should get better over time. Keep texts short and not respond to texts after work. A log book may be best for now. Write everything no matter how ridiculous it seems. Good luck,

What are you, going to melt if you don't respond to her texts? You are already doing close to nothing at your job, don't be lazy!

Agree to send a noncommittal but sympathetic response to the first text and then don't respond. It isn't rude (for all she knows you turned your phone off to see a movie or have dinner with your partner) and helps you set boundaries.

If it gets to the point where she's texting late into the evening or very early in the morning, then you may need to say something (if the phone is waking you up) but otherwise just quietly set your own limits without putting her on the spot about it. Should sort itself out.

Sounds like a bad case of first time/new mom.

Give her a little time to settle in. Also, maybe you could ignore/not respond to every text and then in the morning just say "Oh, I just saw all your texts. I was out last night, or exercising, or at a movie, or hanging out w/ friends (or whatever) so wasn't checking my phone..." Over time you can probably train her out of the habit.

OP here, thanks!

I have had mom's do this too. (One mom texted me at 10pm, while she was out of town, because her husband wasn't answering the phone and would I mind going over to check on them!!)
-The first day stuff I would just chalk up to nerves and her just really wanting to feel comfortable.
-As for after hours texting, send a brief "aww poor guy/girl, good luck" text and then be done with it. She will keep going and your boundaries (or lack thereof) will be established. Cut it off!

Just ended my previous full time job(34 hours/week) last week and just started my new part time job(5 hours/day) yesterday. The new parents were so nice to the point that they do not require me to do ANY household chores, not even the baby's laundry. The baby is adorable! Quiet, going with the flow, sleeps a lot. THE MOM wants us to communicate via TEXT. So I agreed! I thought it would just be minimal texting per day; but yesterday morning(my first day), to my surprise,(still walking towards their apartment) MOM started texting me already like "Blah...blah..blahh...(usual stuff for d' baby). She then texted from time to time (literally!) and wanting me to send pictures of what we (baby & I) are doing at that exact moment. Though I find it a little way over the top, I just texted back and sent pics & videos. Mom was so sweet and told me "YOU ARE THE BEST!." Today, when I came in, she said baby was teething so she instructed me to give tylenol then she left for work. It was a usual day! I followed the same routine just like yesterday (Wake up, play 45 min., feed breakfast, put on his first early nap). Today, he didn't eat much & gave him tylenol. He was totally fine with me. No crying, fussing, etc. So MOM came from work. Still she was the same sweet person! I gave her the reports for d' day & left. When I got home. Not even finish undressing my own shirt, she texted me like "Oh no! What time did he wake up? coz he won't let me rock him! This is unusual, maybe spearation anxiety! blah...blahh"Then I replied in a nice way explaining again how fine our day went. Then MOM won't stop texting like "It's been 45 min. now! " then later again "1 hour of crying, I feel bad!" I left their house at 12 ans it's not quarter to 4 and still texting me. I mean, I really don't know what to think. Is it okay for parents to text their employees even after work? Is it proper? coz I've been a nanny for over 10 years & never did I experience this kind of situation. Please help... Should I stay with this family or not? I just find it a little weird.