Anonymous wrote:The contract means concerns about the baby, not concerns about the mom being a high-strung controller.

No, concerns about anything related to OP's job. Her and her employers are supposed to be a team, working together. That seems to not be the case so OP wants to bring it up in a polite, professional way however, with only a few weeks/months left I'd say let it go and never look back like the previous commenter said.

Personally, I would move on (as they, and you, are planning on), but there's no reason not keep feeding them very positive information about their son. You can always say, "I know you have concerns, and the real expert on these things is your pediatrician, but I think he's very bright". Even if they contradict you, they'll still remember the boy getting complemented. And who doesn't like a complement?

Op here, the issue is not that they are concerned about their son's development (though the pediatrician has told them he is fine) I am frustrated by the fact that they refuse to
believe in his capabilities. (ie, ability to understand what is being said, repeating words and sounds, following simple requests). They consider all these actions to be coincidences and have no confidence in their own child.

I decided to ride it out, as my time with them is nearly done.

Anonymous wrote:You're only there a few months. If developmental concerns come up just say " You may want to talk with your pediatrician. I've seen children develop XYZ at different ages and be fine but your pediatrician is trained to detect delays."

The reality is that as a nanny you are no more an expert than the mom. You may have seen more kids but a collection of anecdotes is still just a collection of anecdotes. Pediatricians don't have the same expertise as a developmental pediatrician but they still have formal training and are update on latest research and guidelines.

+1

The mom needs a therapist to work on her issues. Wish them luck and move on.

Just finish the remaining days and move on. Some parents are just difficult to understand.

you leaving, deal with it and move on. parents dont really want your opinion...

You're only there a few months. If developmental concerns come up just say " You may want to talk with your pediatrician. I've seen children develop XYZ at different ages and be fine but your pediatrician is trained to detect delays."

The reality is that as a nanny you are no more an expert than the mom. You may have seen more kids but a collection of anecdotes is still just a collection of anecdotes. Pediatricians don't have the same expertise as a developmental pediatrician but they still have formal training and are update on latest research and guidelines.

This is excuse,I think their just want to put the kidoo into daycare.

You're leaving in the fall so just finish your time with them and move on.

The contract means concerns about the baby, not concerns about the mom being a high-strung controller.

Suck it up, move on and never look back.

I've worked for this family for almost a year and will be leaving them come fall when their son (13 months) starts daycare. I absolutely love the child, but the parents, mostly the mother are driving me crazy. They have always been anxious and nervous, but it has gotten worse as time has gone on instead of better. They think he is not developing appropriately for his age. I've worked with enough children to know that he is, and all children develop at their own pace. I've tried to be reassuring but continually get shot down. When I tell them "the baby repeated a word today" they say "I'm sure it was a coincidence" it's almost as if they want something to be wrong with him. While the dad frequently thanks me and tells me what a good job I am doing, I feel like I get nothing but criticism from her. In the past they have brought up that they realize I have more experience than them and have said they want my opinions on developmental things however it seems far from that in actuality. I doubt they will last in daycare, due to her needing to control every second of everyday. Our contract states that I should speak to them about any concerns, but I'm wondering if I should simply suck it up for a few more weeks and not say anything.