I was just about to suggest a toddler bed instead of a crib. It seems like she doesn't like it but is comfortable going to sleep in a normal bed. Maybe she feels too confined in a crib? She should be able to get up at the end of her nap on her own and come out of the room when she is ready. I don't know many people these days that keep their child in a crib past 1.5 years old. The 3 yr old I currently work with never had one at all, but she is now going to have to deal with switching from sleeping with mom to her own toddler bed instead.

I'd put the crib mattress on the floor too. It may be time to switch to a toddler or twin bed.

Anonymous wrote:Op here: when I posted this she had been screaming 20 minutes, I allowed it 15 more minutes before I went in and quietly placed her on the guest bed and layed with her for a minute - she's now fast asleep. Do you think next time I should just let her cry a bit longer? I know CIO works but I need to know at wht time limit does it become more neglectful then helpful? I just want to do the right thing for her

CIO only works if you let her cry until she falls asleep (I have waited for over an hour), but whatever you do, you need to be consistent. As of right now, she is learning that if she screams loud enough, she will not have to sleep in her crib. Talk with the parents and see how they want to approach it. They may not be concerned about where she is sleeping as long as it happens, or they may really want her to be in her crib.

What are the parents doing on the weekends?

Can you put her crib mattress on the floor for nap times?

I would discuss it with the parents. Not like wow you're letting her in your bed and screwing up her naps. But just in a way that is in tge best interest of the child and her need for naps.

They may be looking for answers too and together you all can work towards a goal

Op here: when I posted this she had been screaming 20 minutes, I allowed it 15 more minutes before I went in and quietly placed her on the guest bed and layed with her for a minute - she's now fast asleep. Do you think next time I should just let her cry a bit longer? I know CIO works but I need to know at wht time limit does it become more neglectful then helpful? I just want to do the right thing for her

Create a comforting nap time routine, Set a time limit and just keep her in her crib. She will be really upset for a few days/a week but eventually, she will get the picture. Can her brother nap in a pack and play in a part of the house where the noise won't reach him until she outgrows this phase?

Hang in there and keep putting her in her crib for nap. Not easy, but that's all you need to do. Do not discuss it with the parents.

My charge is a VERY active 2 year old (I also nanny the 11month old brother) recently mb and DB have been allowing my charge to come into their bed at night when she's fussy... This was fine at first but now she is absolutely loosing it when I place her in her crib for nap...

I don't want to tell them how to parent but this is becoming such an issue it's keeping her baby brothe Awake as well, and I know kids do 'outgrow' naps... But she JUST turned two and is vibly tired..

Any advice on how to talk to mb and DB and how to handle my charge?