Pp hahaha

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a DB asks you to sleep with him, would that make it not unprofessional? Just because an employee allows something doesn't mean it doesn't reflect on you to go along with it. Things can quickly go south when appropriate boundaries and decorum are not maintained. This family that okay with the boyfriend may thinks it's no big deal to walk in on you showering or doing whatever else should not be a part of being a professional. You'll quickly realize when your employer is trying to make love to you that you should never have let things turn unprofessional. Be gracious that the BF has been invited. But, don't bring him.

What on earth?!?!

Cray cray

Whaaat? That escalated quickly.


Are you the poster who said I should stay longer? I feel that is more "unprofessional" seeing as there would be three days where the family has no nanny! If my BF and I have a room, what is the problem again?

I think you can solve everything by just agreeing to make love to the DB while your BF is there. That'll cover all bases. Have fun!

If you share a room with the kids, the hours you spend getting them settled into bed and getting them up and out in the morning should obviously count as work hours. If you end up working more than your usual hours, you should get additional pay. However, the parents may prefer to give you more hours off during the day to offset this.

I would want a higher pay for sharing a room with the kids because you wouldn't get evening downtime. I wouldn't plan on staying after they leave because helping with the plane ride home is probably necessary.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a DB asks you to sleep with him, would that make it not unprofessional? Just because an employee allows something doesn't mean it doesn't reflect on you to go along with it. Things can quickly go south when appropriate boundaries and decorum are not maintained. This family that okay with the boyfriend may thinks it's no big deal to walk in on you showering or doing whatever else should not be a part of being a professional. You'll quickly realize when your employer is trying to make love to you that you should never have let things turn unprofessional. Be gracious that the BF has been invited. But, don't bring him.

What on earth?!?!

Cray cray

Whaaat? That escalated quickly.


Are you the poster who said I should stay longer? I feel that is more "unprofessional" seeing as there would be three days where the family has no nanny! If my BF and I have a room, what is the problem again?

Anonymous wrote:If a DB asks you to sleep with him, would that make it not unprofessional? Just because an employee allows something doesn't mean it doesn't reflect on you to go along with it. Things can quickly go south when appropriate boundaries and decorum are not maintained. This family that okay with the boyfriend may thinks it's no big deal to walk in on you showering or doing whatever else should not be a part of being a professional. You'll quickly realize when your employer is trying to make love to you that you should never have let things turn unprofessional. Be gracious that the BF has been invited. But, don't bring him.

What on earth?!?!

Cray cray

If a DB asks you to sleep with him, would that make it not unprofessional? Just because an employee allows something doesn't mean it doesn't reflect on you to go along with it. Things can quickly go south when appropriate boundaries and decorum are not maintained. This family that okay with the boyfriend may thinks it's no big deal to walk in on you showering or doing whatever else should not be a part of being a professional. You'll quickly realize when your employer is trying to make love to you that you should never have let things turn unprofessional. Be gracious that the BF has been invited. But, don't bring him.

Thanks for the replies. The family has actually said to me that money is not problem (and it is sort of obvious TBH).

Last time we took a trip, it was domestic (NYC). The parents had a suite with 3 bdrooms. They give me a credit card to use for cabs and the like (I could also use it at ATM's for cash).

That arrangement was nice but this time MB and DB said they want more "space".

It's all negotiable, OP. But don't be surprised if insisting on your own hotel room prices your presence on the trip out of the parent's reach. Having you share a room with your charge so the parents can have a little privacy may be a big factor in their decision to ask you along, as well as a way to keep the arrangement affordable to them. I would focus instead on your schedule, to make sure you get some time away from the charge while you are there.

Anonymous wrote:Don't take your boyfriend. It's not professional. If you want to stay an extra three days and they don't need you for the flight home, plus you have vacation time to use and they're okay with it, fly your boyfriend out to Mexico the day they're leaving and spend a long weekend or whatever with him. But it is simply NOT professional to bring your boyfriend to work. To meet for lunch? Fine. Not for a week's vacation.

Yes, it's totally normal for the nanny to share a bedroom with their charge. Ask for cab fare instead of renting a car.

My NF has invited my partner on a couple of vacations with us while I was working. They adore her and shells known them the 3 years I have been in my position. If it is the employers idea, I do not find it unprofessional at all for the boyfriend to join! I would, however want my own room. I have always be provided with my own room while traveling for longer trips with NF. When traveling just a couple night business trip with MB alone, MB, kids and I will share a suite. Our last long trip (their family vacation) was to a resort in Aruba. As my yearly bonus, they flew my partner out with us! I was so grateful! I limited hours which were stated up front and had my own room. A nanny is a very personally job, not professional in the way an office job is! I was thrilled to spend a vacation with my NF and partner together! I am so lucky to have a great NF who sees me like their own family!

Don't take your boyfriend. It's not professional. If you want to stay an extra three days and they don't need you for the flight home, plus you have vacation time to use and they're okay with it, fly your boyfriend out to Mexico the day they're leaving and spend a long weekend or whatever with him. But it is simply NOT professional to bring your boyfriend to work. To meet for lunch? Fine. Not for a week's vacation.

Yes, it's totally normal for the nanny to share a bedroom with their charge. Ask for cab fare instead of renting a car.

I would not want to be the driver on a rental car in Mexico. If you do do this, make sure you have excellent insurance. If you're in an area with easy taxi service, like Cancun, then it's easiest to not have a car.

I thinkyou want to work this out so it's a benefit for both you AND the family. If they're offering to fly your boyfriend out that's very generous, but certainly helps make the case for having your own room.

You should specify the hours each day that you're expected to work, any nights that might be included, etc... and see if you can work something out that gives the parents some free/couple time and you and your boyfriend some nights out, a full day off, etc...

Having a rental car in Mexico would make me nervous (obviously a lot depends on where you'll be) I'd definitely feel more comfortable w/ a car service.

Maybe there is an adjoining room or suite option, rather than sharing w/ kids, but again - be specific about the hours you'll be on duty. You can always relax from what's agreed on but it's hard to get more restrictive once you're there.

Have fun!

I'd need a driver and a body guard in Mexico these days.

My family wants to take me on their vacation. Part of me is excited while part of me knows that I'm only going as the help.

They told me to figure out what I want regarding free time, visiting policy, and hotels arrangements, and to let them know.


So far I know that I want:

at least 3 hrs a day to myself
my own room (is this asking too much?)


The resort is more grown up, so I am looking into activites in an around the area that my charge and I can go to
They were thinking that I could share a room with my charge. Is this the norm?
I know that money is not really an issue for them and they offered to fly my boyfriend to the resort as well. They said that he could "hang out" with the child and I. I think this now complicates things.

Other things to consider:
-BF is familiar with the family, charge adores him and loves when we "do lunch" with him
-I speak the language of the area (resort is in MX)
-they offered to get me a rental car or car service while there (I am not from Mexico so I am not familiar with the driving there)

What do you think? What have other nannies arranged with the family for vacations?