I'm a MB, and when the grandparents are coming I will let you know if they are the ones who are allowed to change the baby or be unsupervised with her.

If it's the set that is allowed unsupervised access to her, then I will tell you if they say you can go home early one day, then it's okay (and you will get paid for the full day). They will probably not ask you to come with them while they take the baby out, but may ask you for directions on how to get places. I would appreciate you giving them directions.

If it's the grandparent not allowed to be alone with the baby, you will have to be firm that I am your boss and I did not say you could go, no matter if that grandparent dismisses you. You will get a tip at the end of the week for dealing with that shit.

I will back you up. You will back me up. The trusted grandparents will respect you and treat you mostly as I do.

Are you live-in or live-out? How big is the house?

I would just ask the parents what they expect when the grandparents are there. Some grandparents will try to run things, and some don't feel like being bothered. It is really up to the parents if they want you to step back while the grandparents are around, or if they give you authority to override the grandparents.

Let us know how it goes.

You are the nanny and you are in charge of your charges. You might want to discuss this in advance with MB.

So, my charges' grandparents will be visiting soon for a month or so. I'm not sure exactly how much they'll be around, but I think probably quite a bit. Any tips? I haven't had this dynamic in the past, as the grandparents of my other families lived nearby and didn't visit during the day unless they were taking the kids somewhere.