Anonymous wrote:OP,

Why are you insisting on keeping the drama? I am a member of both groups and I saw the first post. The nanny said that she had permission to post the photo. I have been watching both groups after the drama and it seems like the want to leave it behind. Grow up and let it go. There is no need to make a post about something that is false because the girl stated she had permission to post. Move on.

OP here, I wanted to get parents opinions, like I stated. Maybe seeing these opinions this nanny will realize her error. And I did not post anything false, I just included my opinion.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people (parents and nannies) have common sense, but many don't, unfortunately.

OP's example is a gross invasion of the child's privacy.

Let me guess. She's your average "market rate" nanny. You get the stupidity that you pay for.

Why does it always come to this so quickly. So if you're paying market rate, you can expect your nanny to be an idiot. Of course, if you pay in the $20/hour range, you will get supernanny every single time. Obviously.

Must we repeat the obvious for you?

Due dilegence is ALWAYS required.

Just as in every profession, you normally get what you pay for. But you already knew that.

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this: "just as in every profession, you normally get what you pay for" is so amazingly false within the average rates of things, I can't even stand it. A nanny willing to work for $10/hour, sure, I'll bet she's not going to be as great as one who charges $30/hour. A haircut that costs $500? Sure, probably better than haircuttery. A contractor/architect building you a $100,000 deck? Probably going to be better than that guy down the street willing to do it for $10k. Heck, at my job, the higher paid people are typically the old people who are just biding their time until retirement. It's the new 20-somethings making crap that are the go-getters.

Within the standard $15/hour to $20/hour positions, what the nanny charges is NOT going to "normally" be commensurate with more service for more pay.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people (parents and nannies) have common sense, but many don't, unfortunately.

OP's example is a gross invasion of the child's privacy.

Let me guess. She's your average "market rate" nanny. You get the stupidity that you pay for.

Why does it always come to this so quickly. So if you're paying market rate, you can expect your nanny to be an idiot. Of course, if you pay in the $20/hour range, you will get supernanny every single time. Obviously.

Must we repeat the obvious for you?

Due dilegence is ALWAYS required.

Just as in every profession, you normally get what you pay for. But you already knew that.

OP,

Why are you insisting on keeping the drama? I am a member of both groups and I saw the first post. The nanny said that she had permission to post the photo. I have been watching both groups after the drama and it seems like the want to leave it behind. Grow up and let it go. There is no need to make a post about something that is false because the girl stated she had permission to post. Move on.

Its unprofessional, very unprofessional.

Are there any nanny "groups" that are actually supportive?

Anonymous wrote:No, I would never allow my nanny to post pictures of my children on her Facebook page. Good grief, why on earth would someone consider doing this? These are your charges not your own children, friends or relatives. Can you imagine pulling out your iPhone at your next client or board meetings, posting a few pics and tag lining "hanging out with cool CEOs, So awesome!"

Be professional.

Are you really trying to suggest that the relationship a nanny has with the charges she spends 5 days a week caring for, comforting, nurturing, loving is as distant as that between you and your clients or board members? That seems willfully obtuse.

Anonymous wrote:Eh. Have you see that blog "reasons my son is crying" or something like that? It's a whole blog that was viral a while ago with pictures of kids upset about ridiculous things. Now that said, as an MB, I would prefer my nanny be interested in determining why my child was crying and being sympathetic to his needs rather than rushing off to get her camera. And it would probably make me question her judgment that she then went and posted it and laughed at my child in distress. But if she was otherwise fantastic and I had already told her she could post pictures of my kids, I probably wouldn't dwell on it. Sometimes kids do have ridiculous tantrums.

So for example, yesterday my charge had a ten minute tantrum when I offered her water rather than milk. I knew why she was upset, and I was sympathetic to her frustration, but them's the breaks and MB, DB and I are very clear that we don't want to reward her outbursts with attention (and attention does seem to prolong them for her). I removed her from the middle of the kitchen, sat her down in the living room and left the room while she got herself sorted out. Once she did she drank some water and we got right back to playing.

I suspect the nanny in question experienced something similar. Some kids melt down over virtually anything (or nothing) and you really do have to have a sense of humor because kids are absurd little creatures and if you can't laugh, you'll cry. (And I doubt she had to "rush off to get her camera," she probably used her phone that was in her pocket?) But I would never post distressing pictures of my charges online the way I might with my own kids and I could understand how even a down to earth, easy-going MB might not be happy about it. I think this really has to be, like so many things, just a matter of what the parents are comfortable with or not.

No, I would never allow my nanny to post pictures of my children on her Facebook page. Good grief, why on earth would someone consider doing this? These are your charges not your own children, friends or relatives. Can you imagine pulling out your iPhone at your next client or board meetings, posting a few pics and tag lining "hanging out with cool CEOs, So awesome!"

Be professional.

Anonymous wrote:Some people (parents and nannies) have common sense, but many don't, unfortunately.

OP's example is a gross invasion of the child's privacy.

Let me guess. She's your average "market rate" nanny. You get the stupidity that you pay for.

Why does it always come to this so quickly. So if you're paying market rate, you can expect your nanny to be an idiot. Of course, if you pay in the $20/hour range, you will get supernanny every single time. Obviously.

Eh. Have you see that blog "reasons my son is crying" or something like that? It's a whole blog that was viral a while ago with pictures of kids upset about ridiculous things. Now that said, as an MB, I would prefer my nanny be interested in determining why my child was crying and being sympathetic to his needs rather than rushing off to get her camera. And it would probably make me question her judgment that she then went and posted it and laughed at my child in distress. But if she was otherwise fantastic and I had already told her she could post pictures of my kids, I probably wouldn't dwell on it. Sometimes kids do have ridiculous tantrums.

Some people (parents and nannies) have common sense, but many don't, unfortunately.

OP's example is a gross invasion of the child's privacy.

Let me guess. She's your average "market rate" nanny. You get the stupidity that you pay for.

Not a big deal

Just like it stirred up drama on Facebook, this is bound to happen in here. A better way to phrase this would have been to ask how parents feel about nannies posting photos of their children on Facebook.

Every family is different but the majority I've worked for love that I take photos and document their children's days with me. I'm a nanny who does post photos of my charges on my Facebook and my bosses don't mind. I'm curious to see how the MB's in here respond to this.

Yesterday after signing onto my Facebook account I notice several updates in two nanny groups I belong to. A nanny posted a picture of her young charge having a tantrum because she thought it was funny.
Obviously, many nannies thought this was a cruel thing to do.
Apparently, this nanny asked permission to post this picture on Facebook from the parents. Although in my opinion, she probably asked for permission to post pictures of her charge, not for permission to post a picture while the child was in distress.

My questions are;
Would you allow this picture to be online of your child?
Would you allow your nanny to post any picture of your chiild in an online Facebook group, supposedly private? Keep in mind that even though a group is private, it can have hundreds of members who can take that picture and do what they please with.

Nannys feel free to weigh in as well, just save the drama for facebook. Sorry for any typos, I'm on my cell.