Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The boys are 5-17 and they may be uncomfortable at a gay wedding even if the parents have never said anything negative about being gay. We live in an internationally diverse area and I've been pretty shocked at how how many families openly tell their kids that being gay is unacceptable. Even though we live in a highly educated, liberal area my kids are unique in thinking same sex couples are normal while their friends openly make comments about how it is unacceptable.

If this hasn't been a regular topic of discussion then the kids may have formed other opinions. If this is the case, its not appropriate to make them be in the wedding.

+1

And I don't blame the mom for being shocked if she never had an inclanation her nanny was gay. Anyways, if she doesn't want her kids in the wedding, that's her right and the nanny shouldn't feel offended.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The boys are 5-17 and they may be uncomfortable at a gay wedding even if the parents have never said anything negative about being gay. We live in an internationally diverse area and I've been pretty shocked at how how many families openly tell their kids that being gay is unacceptable. Even though we live in a highly educated, liberal area my kids are unique in thinking same sex couples are normal while their friends openly make comments about how it is unacceptable.

If this hasn't been a regular topic of discussion then the kids may have formed other opinions. If this is the case, its not appropriate to make them be in the wedding.

+1

And I don't blame the mom for being shocked if she never had an inclanation her nanny was gay. Anyways, if she doesn't want her kids in the wedding, that's her right and the nanny shouldn't feel offended.

Anonymous wrote:The boys are 5-17 and they may be uncomfortable at a gay wedding even if the parents have never said anything negative about being gay. We live in an internationally diverse area and I've been pretty shocked at how how many families openly tell their kids that being gay is unacceptable. Even though we live in a highly educated, liberal area my kids are unique in thinking same sex couples are normal while their friends openly make comments about how it is unacceptable.

If this hasn't been a regular topic of discussion then the kids may have formed other opinions. If this is the case, its not appropriate to make them be in the wedding.

Anonymous wrote:The boys are 5-17 and they may be uncomfortable at a gay wedding even if the parents have never said anything negative about being gay. We live in an internationally diverse area and I've been pretty shocked at how how many families openly tell their kids that being gay is unacceptable. Even though we live in a highly educated, liberal area my kids are unique in thinking same sex couples are normal while their friends openly make comments about how it is unacceptable.

If this hasn't been a regular topic of discussion then the kids may have formed other opinions. If this is the case, its not appropriate to make them be in the wedding.

Anonymous wrote:Dumb dumb dumb.

1) Your kids don't give a crap if your nanny is gay or straight or bi or trans or short or tall or dark or fair or fat or thin or Christian or atheist. They will only care if you TEACH them to care, to label people and think of them differently. So don't do that. They should be thrilled to be a part of their beloved nanny's big day, they don't care if it's a "gay" wedding or not (I mean really, "a 'gay' wedding"??).

2) You're pissed that she only "just" told you? Since when is your employee's personal life any of your business? Particularly when the revelation of that personal life might turn you against her? I never told my employers I am an ardent atheist when I lived in the south - do you think they'd have been offended if I invited them to my secular wedding because GASP HOW COULD I NOT HAVE TOLD THEM SOONER? Maybe. Doesn't make it wrong for me to keep it private, though, just like your nanny has every right to decide how much to disclose to you.

This woman needs to get over herself.

Anonymous wrote:I agree, of course a nanny would never be required to share their personal life with their employer. This said, nannying is a very personal job and many nannies, including myself, become very close with their charges and MB/DB. After being with a family for years, I would love to share special events in my life with my nanny family. If, after sharing the invite with my nanny family, I found out they would not be comfortable with their children being involved in my personal life and wedding just because it was a same sex wedding, I would leave my position as their nanny because I would feel their family is no longer a good fit for me. I would not feel comfortable hiding a huge milestone in my life, such as my wedding, with my charges that are old enough to understand that love is love. I would want to be with a family who holds the same values I do.

Anonymous wrote:I would go if the travel is convenient but say no to being in the wedding if my sons really didn't want to do this. My DD lives to be a flower girl but my son hates, hates this stuff.

If you haven't raised your sons to already know that men marry men and women marry women so this is all new, I can see your hesitation. DH and I both have siblings with same sex partners so for my kids it would be no different than attending a hetero wedding.

Anonymous wrote:HYPOCRITES!