I know everyone has great intentions here, and yes the safety of the child should be paramount, but in reality this is the grandma. Tell DB what happened, but beyond that, I wouldn't say anything-especially do not say she isn't allowed over anymore. This will cause some major conflict within the family and in the end, you are only the nanny, who do you think will be going? Just keep your eye on her and try to get along, it will be awkward and make your job a bit harder, but sometimes those are the breaks.

Anonymous wrote:Should I tell him that she asked me to conceal it?

No. What's to gain by stirring the pot?
How did it go?

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say she tried to get you to hide it UNLESS DB refuses to limit her visits while you're on duty. If he resists that, then I would say something like, "I know she loves DC and wants to be helpful, but when she recognized her mistake today and the danger she'd put the babies in she actually asked me to hide what happened from you. I'm not comfortable with that and I'm not comfortable supervising her visits any more unless you or MB are also here."

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This is a very mature way to deal with it, does grandma drive? Maybe you could suggest meeting at a park for an hour or so, she can push DC in a swing while you push the other one? Just a thought.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say she tried to get you to hide it UNLESS DB refuses to limit her visits while you're on duty. If he resists that, then I would say something like, "I know she loves DC and wants to be helpful, but when she recognized her mistake today and the danger she'd put the babies in she actually asked me to hide what happened from you. I'm not comfortable with that and I'm not comfortable supervising her visits any more unless you or MB are also here."

I agree with this

I wouldn't say she tried to get you to hide it UNLESS DB refuses to limit her visits while you're on duty. If he resists that, then I would say something like, "I know she loves DC and wants to be helpful, but when she recognized her mistake today and the danger she'd put the babies in she actually asked me to hide what happened from you. I'm not comfortable with that and I'm not comfortable supervising her visits any more unless you or MB are also here."

You absolutely should tell your boss about the toy incident.

If you worked just for that family, I wouldn't think requesting no-grandma was reasonable, but given that it is a share and her judgment could put the other baby at risk, I think that is appropriate and how you should frame it. You can't have your eyes on all three of them all the time, and given what you saw today you don't feel confident you can ensure both children's safety while also supervising grandma. If DB doesn't go for that I would tell him you're going to need to tell the other set of parents what happened during her visit so they have enough information to make a decision about whether they want their child in that environment.

She comes 1x per week for 3-4 hours. She really loves DC and tries to be helpful, but she's not. She creates more work for me and completely disrupts the babies' schedule.

Yes I would. That's unfair of her, and if DB is reasonable he will apologize for her as well as confront her about that.

Should I tell him that she asked me to conceal it?

Absolutely tell the parents what happened.
About how often does she come and how long does she stay? Does she try to be helpful?

I would tell mb/db the next time you see them. I would also request grandma did NOT visit when you are caring for charges. The grandma is risking both charges safety. If DB denies request to not allow grandma over, I would tell other Mb/Db of your situation and concern for child's safety.

I would DEFINITELY tell DB and request no visit from grandma while you are there. You have enough to worry about doing your actual job, babysitting a grandmother should not be part of it..

Yes you tell DB. I wouldn't say that you don't want the grandma to visit but I would mention that you feel like her judgement is a bit off and you feel concerned that you have to keep an eye on her while watching both children in the share.

Forget the grandma getting snippy with you. Her grandchild safety is more important, right?

Please excuse typos!

I work in a share with 2-18 month olds.
The grandma of one if the babies came over to see him and gave him a toy that had a small piece.
The baby out it in his mouth and nearly swallowed it. I was watching and leapt in to get it away from him in time.
This grandma is elderly and shows questionable judgement when it comes to DC on occasion.
DC's father is quite (extremely) protective and doesn't trust Grandma alone with baby.
I am expected to be around at all times when she visits, which is weekly.

After a few hours (and after having completely forgetting about the incident), I received a call from Grandma asking me not to tell DB about the toy incident.
I told her that I would never agree to hide anything from my employers.
She got incredibly snippy and disrespectful with me.

I am not going to put up with that sort of BS from a job.
I hate being caught up in this family crap.
I don't feel as though it should be my job to "babysit" Grandma.
I have 2 toddlers to care for.

My question is- do I tell DB about this or no?
Also, is it at all appropriate for me to request no more visits from Grnadma?