Anonymous wrote:That's why you do your due dilegence when reference checking character, which is near impossible to do overseas.
You just can't expect high quality for cheap.

Yup.

That's why you do your due dilegence when reference checking character, which is near impossible to do overseas.
You just can't expect high quality for cheap.

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Anonymous wrote:We require our APs to be home 8 hours before the beginning of her shift. It's in the handbook and discussed during interviews.

How can you think its okay to dictate the sleeping habits of an employee? Like really. How is that okay?

NP here. an employer should not dictate, but an enployee should behave in a responsible manner. getting home from a party two hours before your shift starts is simply irresponsible, because there is no way you can be as reponsive and ready to care for kids as if you had a decent night of sleep.

if you owned a truck company, would you be OK with one of your driver show up in the morning to drive the truck after a night out partying and with almost no sleep?

Are au pairs considered to be employees? It seems like it's legal to treat them like your teenaged children. And some of you are leaving your infants with them? I don't get it.

Anonymous wrote:We require our APs to be home 8 hours before the beginning of her shift. It's in the handbook and discussed during interviews.

How can you think its okay to dictate the sleeping habits of an employee? Like really. How is that okay?

We require our APs to be home 8 hours before the beginning of her shift. It's in the handbook and discussed during interviews.

Anonymous wrote:Can't you take care of your own kids on a Sunday morning?

Yay! I was hoping you'd crawl out from under your bridge today!

Anonymous wrote:Tell her she needs to be home six-eight hours before her shifts start from now on because you think it's impacting the level of care she gives the children.

I disagree. Your concern should be the level of care, not how much sleep she has had. She's an adult. If you feel the level of care isn't what it should be, then talk to her about that and *maybe* suggest going to bed earlier the night before work as a solution. If your employee didn't live with you, you'd have no idea what she does the night before work and it would be totally out of line to dictate her bedtime. I don't think this is any different. Also how many Weekend morning/nights are you having her work? Does she get at least one consecutive night and morning in which she can be out late and sleep it off the next morning? If not, you are setting yourself up for this. She's young. She's going to go out. Sleep is not a priority. If you could give her Friday night/Saturday morning or Saturday night/Sunday morning off each weekend I think that would help.

Tell her she needs to be home six-eight hours before her shifts start from now on because you think it's impacting the level of care she gives the children.

Can't you take care of your own kids on a Sunday morning?

Anonymous wrote:Talk to her.

And say?

Maybe, but it was agreed upon earlier this week...PP.

I feel badly for you, OP. She probably resents having to work on Sunday.

Talk to her.

She's working a 1/2 day tomorrow for me (today, Sat, was her day off).

She's a partier and will probably be up / out pretty late.

Last time I asked her to work on a Sunday, she stayed out nearly all night and only had about 2 hrs sleep before working. That really pissed me off, because you need rest to take care of my children.

So, if the same thing happens tonight...what do I do?

Thanks.