Also, if MB's work is farther away and OP is going to be driving much less than she could be trying to save miles although that would be extremly petty but just a thought. I also agree that she is most likely looking at this as an opportunity to drive a nicer car. I find it weird. Did she give you any reason as to why she wanted to drive it?

Anonymous wrote:They do have an extra "nanny" car, but the mom said that if we could switch each morning it would be easier. I do not know how could that be easier.

If they have an extra nanny car for you to use it presumably has carseats already installed in it. You driving the nanny car is the simplest solution. That's what the car is there for. I'm with the poster who said it sounds like MB just wants an opportunity to drive your car since it's nicer than hers. She might be trying to live vicariously through you.

The only other reason she might suggest this is if she is trying to cut costs by eliminating the nanny car, but even if this is the case the carseats that are presumably in the nanny car can be transferred to your car. Then they pay you mileage. If they don't have extra carseats then they need to buy another set for your car.

I would approach the conversation something along theses lines...

"MB I'd like to talk about the idea you brought up regarding switching cars during the day. What was your thinking behind switching cars being easier?" See what she gives as her thinking behind this request. Once she's done giving her reasoning (and it doesn't mean listening is going to change you mind...just that you'll have more insight into why she made the request) explain your reasons for not wanting to do this. "I gave your request some thought over the weekend and have come to the conclusion that I not comfortable with the idea of switching cars. Here is why I would prefer to use the nanny car and leave my at the house during the day (or use your car): xyz reasons." Then ask her how she would like to resolve this issue now that she knows switching vehicles is not an option.

Good luck...this is an odd request, but it's also one I've heard of once before. It worked for the nanny and family in that situation, but the MB was just using the nanny's car to drive it to a train station a couple miles away so there really wasn't that much extra wear and tear put on the nanny's car (which wasn't nearly as nice as MB's car to begin with).

If they have the money for a nanny, then they have the funds to install carseats in your car. This is the cost of asking a nanny to transport children as part of her job. Incidentally, they should be reimbursing you for miles, if there are many involved. Offering their car is a way around this, but taking yours is just strange. They might mean well, but it's odd.

I would refuse politely, and give as the simple reason that you are the only person authorized to drive your car by your insurance carrier and aren't comfortable handing your car over another driver for long periods. That way, you can shift the blame to your evil insurance and show that you aren't comfortable bending the rules.

In theory,they should appreciate that their nanny doesn't play fast and loose with rules.

Anonymous wrote:They do have an extra "nanny" car, but the mom said that if we could switch each morning it would be easier. I do not know how could that be easier.

She probably doesn't want the hassle of switching out car seats.

Either they switch the cars eats every day or they buy another set for your car. I would never ask my nanny to use her car - ever.

They do have an extra "nanny" car, but the mom said that if we could switch each morning it would be easier. I do not know how could that be easier.

Not normal at all especially since your car is safer, bigger and I assume newer. I would say because of liability issues with insurance you do not allow anyone to drive your car. Also, you rather not put unnecessary wear and tear, miles on it that wont be reimbursed. If you use your car for the kids they have to pay you gas and mileage. But if your using their car than they wouldn't have to and your car would sit safe and sound until your done with work.

The only logical reason I can assume they would want to switch is if they don't have an extra car so they need to switch inorder to track you with a GPS on their car.

Also note, that they must put you on their insurance if you drive their car.

That is not the norm. I would politely tell her you aren't comfortable with her request.

Anonymous wrote:Oh also, am i supposed to tell my new boss that i cannot let her take my car. Can i get fired?

Your bosses can essentially fire you for anything, just like you can quit over anything.

Politely tell them that for various reasons, including comfort and safety) you would prefer to use your own car. If they flip out and try to bully you into it or fire you over it, then these are not people you want to work for.

Oh also, am i supposed to tell my new boss that i cannot let her take my car. Can i get fired?

Thank you for replying. It is nice to know. To the writer above, i am from the dominican rep.

OP, where are you from originally?

I'll give you points for creativity, this might be an amusing post.

No. MB should never drive your car on a regular basis. No, it is not normal to swap. She's jealous of your Lexus and wants to pretend she's rich and fabulous by driving it.

Don't do it. It's not normal. My DB wanted to take my car once at a previous job and I shut it down. No way. If they crash your car your reaponsible and out a car until it gets fixed or replaced.

Not at all, and I wouldn't agree to it. They can either install seats into your car, or leave their car (and seats) for you to use, taking another car/public transportation/bike/etc to work

Hello,

I have a new job and my MB reccomended that i take her car during the day and she take mine. A friend said that this is certain to be because of my car. I think this is crazy. I have a Lexus suv and mb has a toyota that is a only a four seater. It is not the amount of seats tht is concerning, but the fact that with two large carseats i think it would be easier to put in my suv than into a camry. I am not much familiar with the customs in this country but is this a common arranging between bosses and nanny?