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Anonymous wrote:Okay. I have a contract that says I must give 8 weeks notice! Do I need I honour that?

Yes, you need to honor this unless you want to risk both a bad reference and a lawsuit.

The nanny forum stupidity hits a new low.
This family will fire you either immediately or as soon as they can replace you. The eight weeks notice is only for naive nannys who don't know better.

Anonymous wrote:I definitely don't need a reference from them. I would try to give them as much notice as possible! I guess I am wondering if family A is "spoiling" me with the wonderfullness! Are most Nanny family relations so respectful? I would think yes

My last mb/family sounds a lot like your B family. They were nice enough, but I never felt appreciated or respected. I left that family for the family I am with now and it is like a completely different profession. Just yesterday my mb told me I would get a bonus on this weeks check on top of my hourly wage because I was flexible and stayed later for her on a day she was running late from work. My mb tells me multiple times a week how lucky she and her family is to have me, and I remind her how generous and great she is as well. We have a AWESOME relationship and both go out of our ways to help each other because that's how much we respect each other. You deserve to be happy where you are working! There are greener pastures elsewhere for sure.

Anonymous wrote:Find a new job. What's the issue? You're not happy. Start looking!

+1. Life's too short

Family B is just wrong for you...Not a good match at all.

I suggest quitting, but if you need the money now, I would search for a new job and keep the one you have. When you find another amazing family to work for, then leave Family B and start your new job. It is up to you if you want to give notice, depending on how bad things are.

Trust me...After 3.5 mos, if you feel this way about your job, it will only get worse...not better.

I definitely don't need a reference from them. I would try to give them as much notice as possible! I guess I am wondering if family A is "spoiling" me with the wonderfullness! Are most Nanny family relations so respectful? I would think yes

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay. I have a contract that says I must give 8 weeks notice! Do I need I honour that?

Yes, you need to honor this unless you want to risk both a bad reference and a lawsuit.

OP there would/will be no lawsuit.

You would be risking their good reference but I'm not sure 1) how important that is to you and 2) whether or not they're going to give you one anyway (they don't sound the best?).

Again, no lawsuit. Ignore anyone who tries to convince you there would/could be. Not going to happen.

Anonymous wrote:Okay. I have a contract that says I must give 8 weeks notice! Do I need I honour that?

Yes, you need to honor this unless you want to risk both a bad reference and a lawsuit.

Depends if you are relying on their reference. You've already been there for 4 months and want to quit because their "good side" was making you miserable... Imagine another 2 months possibly being on their bad side.

Anonymous wrote:Okay. I have a contract that says I must give 8 weeks notice! Do I need I honour that?

8 weeks is VERY long. You should always do your best to honor the terms of the contract but you shouldn't feel guilty if you can't (or don't want to) give them that much notice.

Okay. I have a contract that says I must give 8 weeks notice! Do I need I honour that?

Anonymous wrote:I am very sensitive to letting people down or becoming an inconvience to them-OP
So I would e nervous to quit... Wouldn't know what to say and would feel guilty

So your conflict is that you want to quit but you have no spine? Yeah, that's a problem.

Seriously, if you aren't happy, find another job, and then tell Family B that you've found a position that you think is a better fit and you'll be starting that new position in two weeks. It's really that simple.

I am very sensitive to letting people down or becoming an inconvience to them-OP
So I would e nervous to quit... Wouldn't know what to say and would feel guilty

Find a new job. What's the issue? You're not happy. Start looking!

find a new job. Either a new "Family B" or a new job altogether that can offer you the hours you need.

Hello lovely nannies!
I have been with this family part time for about 3.5 almost 4 months. The job is 2 days a week. 8 hour days.
The family is nice... But not super friendly.. I think I'm being spoiled by my other MB as I don't feel happy at this current job.

Family A (3 days a week) is absolutely wonderful! Kids love me and I love them! mb is always thankful and our parenting styles are very similar. We have yet to have a disagreement. I've been there for a year and a half. Almost 2 years! This family makes me so happy and As wired as it sounds it feels like we work together as a team! I've met the extended family and also get along very well with them! This job is very close to home. About 5 min drive

Family B (2 days a week) I didn't get that feeling. That excited feeling like this is the right position! I had been looking to fill the other 2 days as I can't survive off just family A! The parent are nice enough but the boy doesn't like me. And I feel like Mb looks down on me and doesn't appreciate me. She says thank you but I'm just not feeling the respect! I can't put it into words bug I feel like she sees me as an accessory almost. Eldest charge is very violent and is not connecting with me. Says he doesn't like me and smirks when I disapline him. I feel wiped out emotionally by the end of the day. I've been here almost 4 months and have yet to feel a closeness with the kids. Extended family is sweet on MB's side but also very bossy! DB's mom is flat out RUDE and thinks I am servent! It's taken me a long time to find a job that dots with my other family and I don't really want to go down that road again but I'm not happy and I dread the work day.
Commute is 30 mins in traffic and requires me to be up at 6. Other job is only up at 7!

Feels good to vent! Any suggestions appreciated