OP here. Great advice peeps! Thanks!

23:19, it is difficult because I am her employee and this is her house and her guest. It's not always cut and dry when emotions come into play. Also, MB doesn't handle confrontation well, so the issue as well as the discussion of the issue are apt to make her uncomfortable.

Update: I talked to MB and she said she appreciated the conversation in advance and that of course it would not be a problem. I hope that is the case. Things sometimes play out differently in the heat of the moment.

16:14, why is it difficult for the nanny to tell her MB that she will not take care of additional child? Her MB is a wuss and needs to be set straight.

MB here. What happened sounds pretty inappropriate but you have to walk a careful line in handling it.

My suggestion would be to ask for a few minutes to talk w/ the MB and say that it was very difficult for you to manage a 5th child, especially one that doesn't know you and has different patterns, disciplinary rules, behavioral standards etc... Tell the MB that you do not feel able to care for a 5th child, but that you felt unable to refuse when put on the spot last time. This time however, given that you have advance notice, you'd like to plan accordingly. You could ask to take your charges elsewhere (some fun activity out of the house), you could ask that guest mom be in charge of guest child, etc...

Or, you could say that you are very uncomfortable caring for that many kids when one doesn't know you and is resistant, and when you felt disrespected by the guest so you would like to use a vacation day when they are there.

That would send a message!

As I said, it's a tough line but it shouldn't be assumed that you will not only care for another child but also be treated rudely. MB needs to manage that and if she doesn't then you are going to request the time off. Maybe she'll handle it better then!

Also, you can ask to be paid for the additional work. If you end up just being stuck dealing with it perhaps some additional money will help offset the aggravation.

It needs or needed to be brought up as soon as she left! I feel for you, because as we all know, schedules are ruined when there is anyone in the household to disrupt the day! As far as the guest situation-baby, toddler, however old the child, MB should have never let it get to that point! Your responsibility is her children and hers only unless otherwise stated in contract(which I'm sure wasn't). As soon as guest asked, she should have been speaking up at that point and should have never continued with any rude comments!

Just tell MB how you felt and that you really didn't appreciate the rude comments-it's not your job, that's all there is to it!

Hi all- I'm a nanny of 4. One or both parents are often home while I'm caring for their children. Children are better behaved when neither parent is home. Recently, DB was out of town and MB had a girlfriend over, who also brought her child. MB told me 1 day prior that the guest + "baby" would be there, so I knew to expect chaos due to MB being home but also chaos due to guest. "Baby" was a toddler not an infant. MB does not do confrontation well and did not say/do anything when guest mother expected me to take care of her child.

I keep kids on tight schedule and didn't really allow for time to take care of guest child, so I did not. Guest mom rubbed me the wrong way with rude comments and by expecting that I would take care of her child (including bathing and bedtime - neither happened, child did not know me and wailed as soon as I engaged). The guests are planning a return overnight stay later this month and I'm not sure how to broach the topic with MB but I have no intention of taking care of a 5th child.

Advice please??