Are you kidding me? If my bosses tried to limit what I was allowed to eat I would be out of here. I have a credit card under their account and do the family grocery shopping...we eat dinner together every night (that I cook) and there are some things I eat that they don't. MB has ALWAYS made a point to tell me to get whatever I want to get. Your nanny isn't going to have a freaking field day in the grocery store. Relax.

Anonymous wrote:Can you find something mid-range and have a conversation with your nanny about it? For example, offer to buy the staples as you mentioned plus some fruits and vegetables. But any junk food like chips or pop she would have to buy. Personally I like baking but I would rather buy my own flour and baking supplies than use my MB's. Offer the day-to-day foods but anything extraneous is her responsibility.

BS.

A live-in nanny eats freely in the house unless she has her own kitchen. Make sure you are compatible eaters and agree on regular weekly costs before she begins, then stick more or less to it with a little flexibility from each of you.

Can you find something mid-range and have a conversation with your nanny about it? For example, offer to buy the staples as you mentioned plus some fruits and vegetables. But any junk food like chips or pop she would have to buy. Personally I like baking but I would rather buy my own flour and baking supplies than use my MB's. Offer the day-to-day foods but anything extraneous is her responsibility.

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Anonymous wrote:You tell her to put on the shopping list what she needs. Can we please grow up a little?

this is so unnecessary.. OP is looking for advice, likely because this is new for her. I would agree with the other poster on certain limits. I have a p/t nanny and made a huge mistake of telling her to help herself to food in the house and I literally feel like we have a third adult living with us. She eats all of our expensive salad items, deli meats and leftovers. We already pay her very well so it's leaving us in a tough spot because groceries are so expensive. even though she's only p/t she eats enough as if she was here f/t! my DH thinks she is taking food home with her.

you just need to be very clear and forward. maybe provide her with a stipend, although most people who work full time don't receive a stipend for food or have breakfast/lunch/dinner provided so i've always wondered why its different for nannies or sitters!! sorry i'm not trying to offend anyone.

Your experience does not apply here. OP WILL LITERALLY have a third adult living with her. Therefore, she needs to be prepared for that expense.

OP, you really should approach this with generosity. It is entirely possible that you will get a nanny who is inconsiderate in her food consumption. If that is the case, then either she will be incredible in every other way and this will be a small annoyance in the scheme of things (unlikely) or she will be generally inconsiderate and rude and this will be a useful barometer of her overall unsuitability (very likely). But if you are lucky enough to get a nanny who is great with your kids, and is considerate and mature enough to balance sharing a home with her employer, then the fastest way to lose her is to micromanage something as personal as her diet.

If you really feel that you can't approach this with generosity, then you should ask that the nanny maintain her own food, provide her with separate fridge and pantry space, and increase her pay accordingly. Because part of the lower wage paid to live-in nannies is justified by the free room AND BOARD.

As your live-in nanny, I am guessing she is allowed to eat whatever she wants. To limit her food options seems kind of shallow to me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You tell her to put on the shopping list what she needs. Can we please grow up a little?

I did this with my current nanny and she went overboard with her list. There should be limits.

You need to limit her grocery list, but you leave your kid with her?? Are you nuts??

So op should have an unlimited grocery budget for the nanny? Whatever.

OP, I am a live in and get a $75/wk stipend for groceries and I can eat whatever I want from my employers' kitchen.

I think there is a troll on this board with all the negative postings..

Anonymous wrote:You tell her to put on the shopping list what she needs. Can we please grow up a little?

this is so unnecessary.. OP is looking for advice, likely because this is new for her. I would agree with the other poster on certain limits. I have a p/t nanny and made a huge mistake of telling her to help herself to food in the house and I literally feel like we have a third adult living with us. She eats all of our expensive salad items, deli meats and leftovers. We already pay her very well so it's leaving us in a tough spot because groceries are so expensive. even though she's only p/t she eats enough as if she was here f/t! my DH thinks she is taking food home with her.

you just need to be very clear and forward. maybe provide her with a stipend, although most people who work full time don't receive a stipend for food or have breakfast/lunch/dinner provided so i've always wondered why its different for nannies or sitters!! sorry i'm not trying to offend anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:We made sure we were compatible eaters. She's not kosher when we're not, we're not vegan when she's not, etc.

So she eats our food, and we give her $40 a week towards whatever food she wants that we haven't bought. She eats dinner with us about half the time.

Wow! $40.00 a week. Your generosity is underwhelming.

It's $40 a week plus whatever the family eats plus her salary.

Calm down.

Anonymous wrote:We made sure we were compatible eaters. She's not kosher when we're not, we're not vegan when she's not, etc.

So she eats our food, and we give her $40 a week towards whatever food she wants that we haven't bought. She eats dinner with us about half the time.

Wow! $40.00 a week. Your generosity is underwhelming.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You tell her to put on the shopping list what she needs. Can we please grow up a little?

I did this with my current nanny and she went overboard with her list. There should be limits.

You need to limit her grocery list, but you leave your kid with her?? Are you nuts??

We made sure we were compatible eaters. She's not kosher when we're not, we're not vegan when she's not, etc.

So she eats our food, and we give her $40 a week towards whatever food she wants that we haven't bought. She eats dinner with us about half the time.

Anonymous wrote:You tell her to put on the shopping list what she needs. Can we please grow up a little?

I did this with my current nanny and she went overboard with her list. There should be limits.

You tell her to put on the shopping list what she needs. Can we please grow up a little?

We are hiring a live-in nanny, she will have her own room and bathroom, along with a salary. As far as food goes, how does that work?
She will be responsible for cooking her own food, which I can provide the basics, such as bread, eggs, oatmeal, chicken, fish, rice. Do I need to offer any other food items on a regular basis?