Anonymous wrote:Lots of dads are providing primary care for their children these days, especially in the DC area.

These are highly evolved men. My DH is a great dad, but he really starts to come unraveled after two hours alone with the kids. He'd make a lot of other financial sacrifices and probably take just about any job to avoid taking on full time child care. It just stresses him out too much.

OP, you really need to talk to the parents and find out what they are thinking, then give it at least a month and see what happens. If Dad spends a lot of time hovering around the kids and not looking for a job or otherwise keeping himself busy, think about finding a new job. If he does his own thing most of the time, it is safe to assume that he has no intention of taking over the childcare.

It happened to me in the beginning of the year, DB & MB told me up front they were keeping me and that they hoped he would find a new job in six months. He did and went back to not being around (yeah!). The four months he was around sucked for me, but he did spend most of his time in the office looking or work online. It was worth sticking it out, but I work two PT nanny jobs so even if they had let me go I would have had some pay from other job. Feel it out and keep your ears open for info in the home and new possible positions if needed.

Lots of dads are providing primary care for their children these days, especially in the DC area.

I would start looking. Its unlikely that they will let you go for a few weeks or months depending on their savings. Its less common for the dad to decide he wants to stay home so he will be planning on job hunting. It may take him longer than he expected. There are many hiring freezes and layoffs happening right now. At some point, the family will need to conserve money which may mean hiring a much cheaper nanny or having dad watch the kids while he job hunts.

Why would you quit? It might be a modest pain to have DB around the house more, but most DBs are not into providing primary care. He will probably spend most of his time in front of a computer somewhere, letting you do your job as usual.

Sorry, OP. It will be a rough year for many employed by or dependent on the government for their livelihoods.

Thank you! I am hoping this works out for the best!

Talk with the parents. The moment there was ruffling about the sequester, I sat down with MB to discuss what the plan was if something were to happen.
It was not just to cover my own skin (although, yes, that was part of it. I have bills to pay) but it was also because I was happy with the work situation and really didn't want to leave.

I'm only 3 days a week. Db works full time. I have just found another job to fit with what I have. So it would mean quitting both and looking for full time. Took me a year to find something to fit with this job. Didn't want to quit cause I love the family and the kids

Unless DB earns a boatload of money, it might be more economical for him to do the childcare.

In the long run, your family will need to conserve money. In the short term, DB will need a nanny to watch the kids as he looks for a new job.

I would be prepared to ie. resume and profiles updated, let agencies know you may be looking, have an idea what you'd be looking for in a new job or family, and maybe trying to beef up my résumé with a new skill.

Yes, there's another job for you. When dad takes care of his kids, he has a job.

I would. Sorry about your situation.

Which means he will be home... It's so hard on the kids!!
MB said that it shouldn't effect me but should I start job hunting? I REALY LOVE this family...