Anonymous
05/04/2013 21:01
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
If you want to learn to stand up for yourself, stay away from nanny agencies. Finding a good one is like finding a needle in a haystack. Most of them will encourage you to put up with almost anything. And tell you that's the only job they have for you. They've done a ton of damage to the nanny profession.
Anonymous
05/04/2013 20:45
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would not say I'm a bitter nanny but I would say I lost my passion for working with kids a bit...Im a soft spoken person and at times have trouble speaking my mind. i had a rough start getting in the nanny field a dealt with a lot of drama when all I wanted to do is do what I love and get paided decently in return I got:
-I got dragged into two drama filled custody battle situations which no one informed me about which ended with two crazy dads at my doorstep threatening me.
-Screwed over out of hundreds of dollars because I didn't use contracts at first. One SAHM didn't tell her husband she got up getting a nanny and I ended up assed out with no job.
-A parent who told me her child didn't like me because my skin is too dark.
-Treated like a maid who deserves no Respect.
And the list goes on this is why I'm "bitter"
That's because you're to passive. Remember, no-one can take advantage of you if you don't let them. I've never been treated like a maid and that's because I put my foot down and unless I'm getting paid additional, I don't do 'housecleaning'. If I have free time (child napping) and feel energetic I will go out of my way and clean non child related things but I do NOT make a habit out of it and rarely get a chance.
The contract is your fault but at least you no now so next time you can make sure to have one.
The parent who told you their child doesn't like you because of your skin tone is horrible and I would have walked right then and there.
Taking your bitterness out over an anonymous board isn't going to make you feel better. Putting your foot down and refusing to get involved in family drama, housekeeping, etc, will make you feel better. In order to be professional you need a backbone. It's kinda like how guys don't respect girls who don't respect themselves. Nannying is the same thing. How can you expect someone to respect you if you can't even respect yourself.
Very true in my current position I've taken major steps we have a contract and I speak my mind
Anonymous
05/04/2013 17:13
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
Anonymous wrote:I would not say I'm a bitter nanny but I would say I lost my passion for working with kids a bit...Im a soft spoken person and at times have trouble speaking my mind. i had a rough start getting in the nanny field a dealt with a lot of drama when all I wanted to do is do what I love and get paided decently in return I got:
-I got dragged into two drama filled custody battle situations which no one informed me about which ended with two crazy dads at my doorstep threatening me.
-Screwed over out of hundreds of dollars because I didn't use contracts at first. One SAHM didn't tell her husband she got up getting a nanny and I ended up assed out with no job.
-A parent who told me her child didn't like me because my skin is too dark.
-Treated like a maid who deserves no Respect.
And the list goes on this is why I'm "bitter"
That's because you're to passive. Remember, no-one can take advantage of you if you don't let them. I've never been treated like a maid and that's because I put my foot down and unless I'm getting paid additional, I don't do 'housecleaning'. If I have free time (child napping) and feel energetic I will go out of my way and clean non child related things but I do NOT make a habit out of it and rarely get a chance.
The contract is your fault but at least you no now so next time you can make sure to have one.
The parent who told you their child doesn't like you because of your skin tone is horrible and I would have walked right then and there.
Taking your bitterness out over an anonymous board isn't going to make you feel better. Putting your foot down and refusing to get involved in family drama, housekeeping, etc, will make you feel better. In order to be professional you need a backbone. It's kinda like how guys don't respect girls who don't respect themselves. Nannying is the same thing. How can you expect someone to respect you if you can't even respect yourself.
Anonymous
05/04/2013 08:38
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
I have been a nanny since '07 and truthfully, there have been many many families that have almost ended my career. I have been so close to throwing in the towel more times than I care to remember.
But I try not to let others make me jaded. Because if I get too jaded, I will lose my faith in the good of people and to walk around with that chip on my shoulder would be too heavy for me to bear.
I just focus on the good families instead.
Sure, they are far and few between, but they exist. I know because I work for one now.
I love what I do and I love being around children. I love to play with them and educate them.
I want to play an important and vital part in their childhood and I am confident I will make some type of impact on their lives.
Some imprint that they will still have for many years to come.
But I try not to let others make me jaded. Because if I get too jaded, I will lose my faith in the good of people and to walk around with that chip on my shoulder would be too heavy for me to bear.
I just focus on the good families instead.
Sure, they are far and few between, but they exist. I know because I work for one now.
I love what I do and I love being around children. I love to play with them and educate them.
I want to play an important and vital part in their childhood and I am confident I will make some type of impact on their lives.
Some imprint that they will still have for many years to come.
Anonymous
05/03/2013 17:26
Subject: Re:I am better than MB/DB because....
OP if you are so happy why are you using any of your time to create a thread where people share their unhappiness? That sounds more like schadenfreude than curiosity.
Anonymous
05/03/2013 16:11
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
Being happy doesn't go with being smug fool, having a pompous attitude makes you smug. Keep up the attitude, sooner then later something will knock you down a peg or two!Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Agree with above.
I was a live-in nanny for 5 years and LOVED it! I worked for my second family (live-out) for 8 months and got BURNT OUT. The parents were awful.
Seems like you're a jealous MB if anything.....lol
OP here.
I'm a nanny and happy. A little smug.....maybe but that goes along with happiness I guess.
Another question for the Bitters:
When you meet a happy nanny at the park or story time do you act just as bitter as you do here or do you put on a cloak of happiness?
Anonymous
05/03/2013 16:04
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
Anonymous wrote:Agree with above.
I was a live-in nanny for 5 years and LOVED it! I worked for my second family (live-out) for 8 months and got BURNT OUT. The parents were awful.
Seems like you're a jealous MB if anything.....lol
OP here.
I'm a nanny and happy. A little smug.....maybe but that goes along with happiness I guess.
Another question for the Bitters:
When you meet a happy nanny at the park or story time do you act just as bitter as you do here or do you put on a cloak of happiness?
Anonymous
05/03/2013 15:23
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
Agree with above.
I was a live-in nanny for 5 years and LOVED it! I worked for my second family (live-out) for 8 months and got BURNT OUT. The parents were awful.
Seems like you're a jealous MB if anything.....lol
I was a live-in nanny for 5 years and LOVED it! I worked for my second family (live-out) for 8 months and got BURNT OUT. The parents were awful.
Seems like you're a jealous MB if anything.....lol
Anonymous
05/03/2013 15:13
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
I would not say I'm a bitter nanny but I would say I lost my passion for working with kids a bit...Im a soft spoken person and at times have trouble speaking my mind. i had a rough start getting in the nanny field a dealt with a lot of drama when all I wanted to do is do what I love and get paided decently in return I got:
-I got dragged into two drama filled custody battle situations which no one informed me about which ended with two crazy dads at my doorstep threatening me.
-Screwed over out of hundreds of dollars because I didn't use contracts at first. One SAHM didn't tell her husband she got up getting a nanny and I ended up assed out with no job.
-A parent who told me her child didn't like me because my skin is too dark.
-Treated like a maid who deserves no Respect.
And the list goes on this is why I'm "bitter"
-I got dragged into two drama filled custody battle situations which no one informed me about which ended with two crazy dads at my doorstep threatening me.
-Screwed over out of hundreds of dollars because I didn't use contracts at first. One SAHM didn't tell her husband she got up getting a nanny and I ended up assed out with no job.
-A parent who told me her child didn't like me because my skin is too dark.
-Treated like a maid who deserves no Respect.
And the list goes on this is why I'm "bitter"
Anonymous
05/03/2013 14:55
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
OP,
So you are a genuinely nice person by creating a thread with so much disdain and intent to be malicious for what?
You are just as bad as any other bitter nanny out there.
Brava to you my dear.
So you are a genuinely nice person by creating a thread with so much disdain and intent to be malicious for what?
You are just as bad as any other bitter nanny out there.
Brava to you my dear.
Anonymous
05/03/2013 14:32
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
So smug aren't we?!Anonymous wrote:Hi bitter nannies
I'm a happy nanny. Been a nanny since 2005 (second career choice btw)
I was wondering at what point did you become bitter? Did it happen all at once or incrementally? I just want to know when I should throw in the towel?
Have a great day.
P.S. don't let your bitterness take over your life.
Anonymous
05/03/2013 14:26
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
I am not a bitter nanny, and can not think of any ways I am better than them but can learn several things from them to better myself
Anonymous
05/03/2013 14:20
Subject: I am better than MB/DB because....
Hi bitter nannies
I'm a happy nanny. Been a nanny since 2005 (second career choice btw)
I was wondering at what point did you become bitter? Did it happen all at once or incrementally? I just want to know when I should throw in the towel?
Have a great day.
P.S. don't let your bitterness take over your life.
I'm a happy nanny. Been a nanny since 2005 (second career choice btw)
I was wondering at what point did you become bitter? Did it happen all at once or incrementally? I just want to know when I should throw in the towel?
Have a great day.
P.S. don't let your bitterness take over your life.