"Your rejection is God's protection"

Anonymous wrote:I was interviewing for a new position for the past week. It was so perfect. Adorable kid, very friendly parents, on the books, decent pay, short commute, similar philosophy, and it just felt so right. I wasn't even nervous during the interview. Everything seemed to click. I was honestly sure I was going to get it. I even bought a couple things at Target for a fun first activity.

And then they tell me I was their second choice. I didn't get it.

I need a job so badly. I'm away from family, friends, familiar surroundings. I've been crying since yesterday.

It was probably for the best? I've been a similar situation. In fact I drove to their house, out of state to meet the little boy. MB had assured me that me doing this did not mean I would have the job and I said I understand, but felt like I was going to seal the deal so to speak. The family moved into my state, and we did another trial run and I thought, I for sure had it. I became so attached to this little boy. Looking forward to how life would be I was excited for the job. A few goes after my trial though. Later ht day, MB called and stated she thought I was good with the little boy, but they had gone with another candidate. I cried. An was depressed for weeks, I couldn't possibly see a better job then that one. I kept telling myself, 'if I didn't get it, then it must not be meant, right?' I became depressed and hated life. I had other interviews lined up but thought about canceling. I needed some, 'me' time. I choose to not cancel and well, what do I have to lose. I gave t a shot an saw nothing but darkness and then I saw a tunnel and it jus Thor brighter, and brighter! Now I could not be happier with my current NF. I adore my charge. Precious little one. I am so glad my faith lifted me. I did pray about it-not sayin you should because I don't know if you're religious. BUT it helped. This job, is where I'm suppose to be and I would not have t any other way bat the time, though I could not see that. I've been doing so well. The MB that did not offer me the job, we stayed in touch and now I have play dates with their son and his current nanny. I must say, she's a great fit for them and hey choose well! Good luck. It all worked out for me, I'm sure it will for you! As long as you try, keep your chin up!

Anonymous wrote:This may the the icing on the cake.

I interviewed w/a mother who was a friend of a woman I baby-sat for.
I was a referral and she told me she was so excited to meet me, that her friend just glowed on and on about me. During our interview she said she couldn't believe how well we clicked and that she couldn't wait to have me watch her kids. She even took out her day planner and penciled me in on the days and times I would be needed. She even asked that I write the dates and times in my planner as well to make sure I would be available.

I was excited and told everyone I just was hired on as a new nanny.

Then the night right before I was supposed to start work, the woman emailed me and said I wouldn't be needed. She told me that while I was awesome and all that, she felt she needed to conduct more interviews just to "make sure" I was the right fit.

I hated explaining to everyone how this job wasn't going to be.
I was so embarrassed.
So from now on, unless I have been on a job for a few weeks, I just keep my mouth shut.

This isn't about you. This is about the OP. she needs encouragement. Stop trying to make it a competition!

OP, where do you live/work?

Anonymous wrote:This may the the icing on the cake.

I interviewed w/a mother who was a friend of a woman I baby-sat for.
I was a referral and she told me she was so excited to meet me, that her friend just glowed on and on about me. During our interview she said she couldn't believe how well we clicked and that she couldn't wait to have me watch her kids. She even took out her day planner and penciled me in on the days and times I would be needed. She even asked that I write the dates and times in my planner as well to make sure I would be available.

I was excited and told everyone I just was hired on as a new nanny.

Then the night right before I was supposed to start work, the woman emailed me and said I wouldn't be needed. She told me that while I was awesome and all that, she felt she needed to conduct more interviews just to "make sure" I was the right fit.

I hated explaining to everyone how this job wasn't going to be.
I was so embarrassed.
So from now on, unless I have been on a job for a few weeks, I just keep my mouth shut.

She must have been mentally unstable.
You dodged a bullet.

Don't cry,their doesn't deserve yours tears,this happening one time with me too,but God open a beautiful door for me.

This may the the icing on the cake.

I interviewed w/a mother who was a friend of a woman I baby-sat for.
I was a referral and she told me she was so excited to meet me, that her friend just glowed on and on about me. During our interview she said she couldn't believe how well we clicked and that she couldn't wait to have me watch her kids. She even took out her day planner and penciled me in on the days and times I would be needed. She even asked that I write the dates and times in my planner as well to make sure I would be available.

I was excited and told everyone I just was hired on as a new nanny.

Then the night right before I was supposed to start work, the woman emailed me and said I wouldn't be needed. She told me that while I was awesome and all that, she felt she needed to conduct more interviews just to "make sure" I was the right fit.

I hated explaining to everyone how this job wasn't going to be.
I was so embarrassed.
So from now on, unless I have been on a job for a few weeks, I just keep my mouth shut.

I negotiated a fabulous job offer - right up to the point when the offer was on the table and I was just working out my accomodation - then they pulled it at the very last moment to let me know they were using a family member instead.

It was best offer I have ever managed to negotiate - so annoyed!!

Don't cry OP. You are most definitely not alone on this.

Believe me, I have had interviews where I felt like I nailed them down. I even left excited feeling it was only a matter of time before I got the "You're Hired!!" phone call!! I would even tell my friends and family how sure I was that this family loved me.
I would brag about the great chemistry we had, the wonderful parents, the cute and funny kids, even the dog seemed to like me!!

Then A). I would never hear back from the family. Thinking they were still considering me, I would contact them only to hear, "Oh sorry for not getting back to you...But we already hired someone. However, if things do not work out, we will keep you in mind for the future."
For the record, EVERY rejection message always ends with the family stating they will keep me in mind if things go south. Not ONCE have I ever heard back.
B). I do hear back and they let me know they found someone, but that I am just great and that it will only be a matter of time before I find my dream family!

OP,
The economy is still in the tank, and there is just too much competition out there.
Do not take it personally.

Remember:
When one door closes, another door opens.

My mother used to slam the bathroom door really hard when I was a kid because it would make my bedroom door open. She did that to illustrate to me that this is so true.

*HUGS*

Anonymous wrote:Send them a nice letter telling them you enjoyed meeting their family and thanking them for the interview. They might pass your resume along to someone else or use you as a back up if the first choice doesn't work out.

I agree with this. Of I like the family I'll send an email thanking them for meeting with me and offering date night add hoc work as needed.

Send them a nice letter telling them you enjoyed meeting their family and thanking them for the interview. They might pass your resume along to someone else or use you as a back up if the first choice doesn't work out.

I think we've all be there OP. It sucks and is so disappointing. Hang in there and I'm sure you will find an awesome position soon!

I've had that happen before. Sorry OP. I once did an interview that I knew I killed, the job was perfect, I had everything they said they wanted and more, the baby and I clicked, parents and I clicked, and we were in total agreement on pay/benefits. A couple of days later she tells me their first choice accepted. I was so boggled I asked her why they chose her over me. Because she was older! I later run in to the nanny in the neighborhood. She is old and unenthusiastic, barely speaks English, and is very harsh with the baby and everyone else. My guess is she was cheaper. *Shrug*

Never rely on something just because it seems right.
That being said, I've been someones second choice twice and have gotten a call/email a few days later, from them, saying the first choice declined the job offer, and would I still be interested in the position. Just sayin.
But, keep trudging along.

I was interviewing for a new position for the past week. It was so perfect. Adorable kid, very friendly parents, on the books, decent pay, short commute, similar philosophy, and it just felt so right. I wasn't even nervous during the interview. Everything seemed to click. I was honestly sure I was going to get it. I even bought a couple things at Target for a fun first activity.

And then they tell me I was their second choice. I didn't get it.

I need a job so badly. I'm away from family, friends, familiar surroundings. I've been crying since yesterday.