MB here. Yes, the critical error was giving her access to your purse. But she is way out of line. Way.

I would let it go unless she brings it up again. If she does you could simply say "I'm sorry you were upset by something you saw in my purse but I'm sure you can understand that I'd ask you to respect my privacy, just as I respect yours." And, or "As you know, I am engaged. I'm not sure what sort of assumptions you're making but my personal life is private."

I hope it goes away. If she has serious religious convictions that make her judgmental or difficult to work for you might need to find a better fit. I would find it very difficult to reconcile my personal feelings with that kind of approach in an employer.

Good luck.

Your mistake was letting her into your purse. I would never ever let my MB do that.

Anonymous wrote:condom wrappers? why on earth do you save the wrappers?

Who cares. It's very disturbing that some MBs think they are entitled to know everything about you. This needs to stop.

Anonymous wrote:Since they were wrappers,is it possible she thought you'd had a boyfriend or someone over during the day while watching the charges?

She didnt allude to that or anything, she just said that it was concerning to her. I assumed she was talking about the fact that I was having sex at all. I feel like if she thought it was someone in her house, then she would have gotten more upset.

Since they were wrappers,is it possible she thought you'd had a boyfriend or someone over during the day while watching the charges?

Anonymous wrote:condom wrappers? why on earth do you save the wrappers?

didn't "save" them. I just shoved em in my bag and didn't think twice about it.

condom wrappers? why on earth do you save the wrappers?

Anonymous wrote:Run...this woman has major boundary issues. Btw, shame on you for letting her go into your purse. Keep your private life private.

-A nanny

Lol, yes i suppose. I guess I kinda thought, "I doubt she'll steal anything, theres nothing in there besides my phone, wallet, keys, a waterbottle, and oh yeah, condom wrappers" but it never crossed my mind that she would care let alone take them out and confront me. Told DF about it, he laughed and said that she's probably jealous (thats why I love that man haha)

Run...this woman has major boundary issues. Btw, shame on you for letting her go into your purse. Keep your private life private.

-A nanny

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to fuck off and use her own damn condom. Your MB is an idiot. Seriously, you should tell her that what you and your fiance do is your personl business and ASK HER WHY SHE WAS RUMAGING in your purse as all you gave her permission to do was take your phone out. I would also start looking for a new job. Good luck.

Well i did respond with "yes theyre mine" (obviously, they were in my bag). So she said her whole "i expected better" speel and I was like.. okay "did you get my phone?" she didnt. My main problem was that they were in my purse. I know she's a devout religious woman and asked before if my fiance and i were "co habitating before marriage". I told her "sometimes" as we have separate homes but I sometimes spend the night at his house and vice versa. I guess i just feel like she assumed I was as devout as her. We are the same religion and she did ask during the interview but, honestly I didn't know she would scrutinize things like this. And now that I think about it, maybe she's also upset because we use contraception and that we "co-habitate" because of her staunch beliefs.

They think they own you. How dare you do something like that, without first seeking mb's approval.

Unbelieveable. Don't these MBs know their boundaries?

Tell her to fuck off and use her own damn condom. Your MB is an idiot. Seriously, you should tell her that what you and your fiance do is your personl business and ASK HER WHY SHE WAS RUMAGING in your purse as all you gave her permission to do was take your phone out. I would also start looking for a new job. Good luck.

Wtf,..Go threw her purse and ask her what she uses!!

This is going to sound "trolly" and I wish it was. this is how my day went,
Came to work at 7 like normal said hello to MB and we talked an had coffee. charges are 8 mon twins. They sleep till about 8ish in the am. Mb left at about 7:30. So the rest of the day was normal until she came home. She asked me about how the day was with the twins. Their cousins came over with their nanny and played for a while. Cousins are 1 and 2 so the twins couldnt "play" but the other ones like to look at the babies. Anyway, I told her I took some cute pics of them all together on my phone. So since I was giving one baby a bottle, I told MB that she could check for my phone still in my purse. So she goes to get it, and comes back into the family room liek 10 seconds later looking like she saw a ghost and says to me "____are these yours?" And she was holding condom wrappers that she got from my purse. so i was kinda confused like how hard is it to get a phone out of a bag without going through it?! She told me that she "expected for me to behave in a more mature and responsible manner" and didn't know that "i was like this". So needless to say I was really shocked that 1. she went thru my bag, 2. that she cares so much about condom wrappers. Have any other nannies had MBs too "involved" in their personal life? MBs would you do this?

Also, MB knows I have a fiance so i guess i assumed that she could presume that we are intimate. It wasn't like I had done anything in her house or while on the clock. Am i wrong to feel a little annoyed by this?