Your follow up posts OP do make it seem like there is an ongoing issue w/ the child. At age 5 this is not malicious behavior. Whatever is going on if your reaction is disgust, rather than compassion, this is the wrong job for you.

Anonymous wrote:

I'm also venting just because honestly it is gross to me. I would not touch it, I would tell him to clean it up himself. However, I was not aware he left the upstairs a mess.

They put their other dirty clothes downstairs to be washed regularly, so it is no different in my opinion.

Please either get another job, or make your employer aware that this position requires skills that you do not possess. It is okay to identify a special need, and discuss how to best address it.

OP he is 5, not 15. He's not doing it on purpose and you SHOULD be helping him clean up - even if it's just by supervising and directing him for what happens next. I understand you're frustrated by this issue but it sounds like you're taking it out on him a bit and he is a very small child. If anything you should be taking it out on your MB for not informing you that this is a regular occurrence.

Anonymous wrote:OP I agree with you. I don't think OP just left shitty clothes on the floor for MB. She wasn't aware the kid left them there, as she was cleaning dinner. If she had gone upstairs, saw them, she'd probably think "ugh", call the kid over to make him pick them up/rinse them off, and help him put them in te laundry.

Is this correct OP?

I really don't think she was saying "oh that's gross I'm going to leave them there for MB because I'm prissy and entitled"

OP here ....yes, this is correct. However, this happens I'd say as often as once a week. Sometimes every two weeks. I don't know if its on purpose or what the problem is. I was was never aware/informed this would be happening as MB never mentioned it. But it does happen way too often! Apparently he was wearing diapers at one point (this is what I overheard from siblings). I'm also venting just because honestly it is gross to me. I would not touch it, I would tell him to clean it up himself. However, I was not aware he left the upstairs a mess.

They put their other dirty clothes downstairs to be washed regularly, so it is no different in my opinion.

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Anonymous wrote:No excuse for a child this age to not be able to hold it till he got to a bathroom. If he does this a lot, he needs to wear a diaper.

A 5 year old does not need an excuse, but does need a reason. Reasons could include:
infection / diarrhea
inflammatory bowel disease
psychological issues
muscular issues affecting the sphincter
food allergy
digestion issue

I assure you, he is embarrassed enough. He needs understanding, compassion, and somebody who cares enough to address the underlying cause. He does not need to be embarrassed or punished. I sincerely hope PP does not work with children.

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PP, do you honestly think this kid is pooping on himself on purpose? To punish the nanny or something? He can't help himself, or he wouldn't do it. Humiliating him by putting him in diapers and treating him with disgust/disapproval is cruel.

Anonymous wrote:No excuse for a child this age to not be able to hold it till he got to a bathroom. If he does this a lot, he needs to wear a diaper.

A 5 year old does not need an excuse, but does need a reason. Reasons could include:
infection / diarrhea
inflammatory bowel disease
psychological issues
muscular issues affecting the sphincter
food allergy
digestion issue

I assure you, he is embarrassed enough. He needs understanding, compassion, and somebody who cares enough to address the underlying cause. He does not need to be embarrassed or punished. I sincerely hope PP does not work with children.

No excuse for a child this age to not be able to hold it till he got to a bathroom. If he does this a lot, he needs to wear a diaper.

Agree with PPs that helping clean up is your job, but more importantly, think of the comfort and dignity of the child, who does not want to be poopy or to be embarrassed by a poopy bathroom. Take care of your charge, don't act disgusted towards him. Think of how you will want to be treated- many of us will become incontinent later in life, and will be much less cute than a 5 year old while doing it.

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Did you have a question we should answer or are you just venting?

Sounds like venting.

*making dinner

OP I agree with you. I don't think OP just left shitty clothes on the floor for MB. She wasn't aware the kid left them there, as she was cleaning dinner. If she had gone upstairs, saw them, she'd probably think "ugh", call the kid over to make him pick them up/rinse them off, and help him put them in te laundry.

Is this correct OP?

I really don't think she was saying "oh that's gross I'm going to leave them there for MB because I'm prissy and entitled"

Anonymous wrote:Ummm If I came home to a shitty bathroom I would be posees. I am a nanny and mom.

I would expect him to shower and you to rinde the clothes and stick them in the laundry.

Kid messes nasty and not hallen it is most certainly your job to deal with them while working.


Can you imagine If you got to work and she yad left you the shitty mesa whats you say

Ok, though this isn't easy to read, I think I basically agree with the poster. You should have made certain the child and the mess was cleaned up. He has a role in that obviously, but if you left it for me (an MB) to deal with I would consider it a breach of your duties. And if I left it for you that would be equally obnoxious.

Ummm If I came home to a shitty bathroom I would be posees. I am a nanny and mom.

I would expect him to shower and you to rinde the clothes and stick them in the laundry.

Kid messes nasty and not hallen it is most certainly your job to deal with them while working.


Can you imagine If you got to work and she yad left you the shitty mesa whats you say

Okay. Did you have a question we should answer or are you just venting?

Edit: Typo in other thread title.

...on himself.

It's getting ridiculous. It happened recently while we were out. The mess got over the car basically everywhere on the child. The problem is MB is upset at me because I didn't clean him up. The kid is school aged and capable of cleaning himself. He took a bath but apparently left clothes all over the bathroom upstairs, while i was preparing dinner! MB came home a few minutes after we got back. Also it's absolutely disgusting for MB to expect me to clean up child shit and touch shitty clothes.