Anonymous
04/12/2013 01:17
Subject: Attached 2 year old
I would squat down and give her a hug/cuddle without picking her up, while reassuring here that you are right here and not going anywhere. Then hold her hand until she is ready to move on, while suggesting things you could do. If saying, 'why don't we ___' and then standing up and walking over together.
I would be careful with saying '___ is here to play with you' because it might add distress or pressure if she is apprehensive about others at the moment and just say 'oh look, there's ____. She's here to play too or do you remember her from ___?'
Good luck.
I would be careful with saying '___ is here to play with you' because it might add distress or pressure if she is apprehensive about others at the moment and just say 'oh look, there's ____. She's here to play too or do you remember her from ___?'
Good luck.
Anonymous
04/11/2013 23:30
Subject: Attached 2 year old
Thank you!
The thought that something might have happened is extremely scary and I really don't want to think about it!!
Any other suggestions? I try distractions and re engaging but she just wont! I love the snuggles and cuddles but I dont want this to be a regular thing.
The thought that something might have happened is extremely scary and I really don't want to think about it!!
Any other suggestions? I try distractions and re engaging but she just wont! I love the snuggles and cuddles but I dont want this to be a regular thing.
Anonymous
04/11/2013 16:29
Subject: Attached 2 year old
Kids go through phases of separation anxiety. I think 16:09's advice is great.
Anonymous
04/11/2013 16:28
Subject: Re:Attached 2 year old
Anonymous wrote:Pick her up! Cuddle her! Reassure her!
This is an okay thing for her developmentally, and I'd only be concerned if it goes on for more than a few weeks. If she starts to cry and reach for you pick her up, give her a cuddle, all the while calmly and cheerfully saying, "Little Susie came over to see you, she wants to play with you. Do you want to show her your red ball?" and re-engage her with a favorite toy. If that doesn't work just let her engage with people from the safety of your arms (unless, of course, you're tending to the other child or something else prevents you from doing so). Don't refuse to reassure her just on principle though, and don't make the reassurance sound like something COULD have been wrong - she really just wants to know she can depend on you to be there when it gets to be too much for her.
What makes you think this is developmently normal behavior?
Anonymous
04/11/2013 16:09
Subject: Re:Attached 2 year old
Pick her up! Cuddle her! Reassure her!
This is an okay thing for her developmentally, and I'd only be concerned if it goes on for more than a few weeks. If she starts to cry and reach for you pick her up, give her a cuddle, all the while calmly and cheerfully saying, "Little Susie came over to see you, she wants to play with you. Do you want to show her your red ball?" and re-engage her with a favorite toy. If that doesn't work just let her engage with people from the safety of your arms (unless, of course, you're tending to the other child or something else prevents you from doing so). Don't refuse to reassure her just on principle though, and don't make the reassurance sound like something COULD have been wrong - she really just wants to know she can depend on you to be there when it gets to be too much for her.
This is an okay thing for her developmentally, and I'd only be concerned if it goes on for more than a few weeks. If she starts to cry and reach for you pick her up, give her a cuddle, all the while calmly and cheerfully saying, "Little Susie came over to see you, she wants to play with you. Do you want to show her your red ball?" and re-engage her with a favorite toy. If that doesn't work just let her engage with people from the safety of your arms (unless, of course, you're tending to the other child or something else prevents you from doing so). Don't refuse to reassure her just on principle though, and don't make the reassurance sound like something COULD have been wrong - she really just wants to know she can depend on you to be there when it gets to be too much for her.
Anonymous
04/11/2013 16:02
Subject: Attached 2 year old
If she's suddenly crying for no apparent reason, I'd be concerned to. Seems to me that something has happened that you don't know about. She might be doing the same thing with her mother when you aren't there. I'd mention it to the parents.
Anonymous
04/11/2013 15:57
Subject: Attached 2 year old
I am a nanny to 2 year old twins. During the past few weeks dc1 has become EXTREAMLY attached to me. Not that she prefers me over mom but its mostly in public places and around other people. She used to go to friends of mine or other moms during play dates. But now when she sees another adult or child (even ones she is VERY familiar with) she starts to cry and reach for me. And will burry her head in my chest. This even happens on her own home. Any suggestions. I try to be firm and not pick her up. But it melts my heart.