Washbthe dishes you use by hand and put them away. Problem solved. Hang out in baby's room during naps if you don't want him to see you not busy.

You don't NEED to wash his dish. He doesn't tell you to wash his dish so if you do that's all on you. It's his house and if he doesn't want to clean his dish and just wants to chill then he can. UNLESS, MB/DB expects it but if they're just being passive agressive then don't clean it. IF you do then that's on you.

I totally understand where you're coming from pp. But I'd feel so awkward if DB came back during his next break and the dishes were still in the sink and I was reading, or watching TV, or on my laptop while my charge napped. I don't want him to think that I'm lazy or anything because I do have the time, despite my feelings about it.

That, and I still have to load the dishwasher with whatever I use. So I can't just leave the dishwasher with all the clean dishes in it and pile what my charge and I use in the sink. That would be unfair on my part.

It's an occasional nuisance, but I'll put up with it since I've got no other real issues with this family.

Hmm, just don't worry about it? I started washing my families dishes just because I had the time. They told me I didn't have to worry about it but I slowly saw more and more dishes in the sink so I just stopped doing it. Now I don't even think about it. If its not in your job description than who cares? I'm not their housekeeper and a lot of the times you give an inch and they take a mile. It's not always on purpose but it happens because they become accustomed to it. He might be trying to pawn it off on you but it doesn't mean you have to do it.

I hate it when DB leaves all his dishes in the sink and a dishwasher full of unloaded items.

The nature of his job allows him to come home 2-3 times/day for breaks, each of which can last anywhere from 1-3 hours. So he was home this morning when I got here, which is 50/50, and MB had just started the dishwasher. He makes his breakfast, eats, places his used items in the sink, and relaxes. Fair enough.

Now the dishwasher finishes long before he heads back out to work. I know he knew that it was done because I heard it go off and, shortly after, he frequented the kitchen several times to make more coffee, empty the coffee machine, and place his glass in the sink. He then hangs out for maybe 30 more minutes before heading back to work.

While my job is strictly limited to childcare and child-related cleaning/laundry, I don't mind occasionally loading/unloading the dishwasher when I see that MB and DB are busy/rushed/not home. But to me, it feels as if DB is trying to be sneaky about it. MB always loads/unloads the dishwasher on her days, so it seems as if he's trying to weasel his way out of doing his part. It's not like he didn't have the time this morning to do it himself. Or, if he really didn't want to he could've asked me to take care of it for him. He probably won't even say thanks when he gets back in. He hasn't said it the last few times I took care of it, so I don't expect it today. It feels as if he expects to just do it because I'm here for the better part of the day.

It took me around 15-20 minutes to dry and put all the dishes away, as well as rinse off the items in the sink and load them in the dishwasher. 15-20 minutes that I could've spent playing with my charge.

Anyway, I won't say anything about it since it only happens 1-3 times/week. As annoying as it may be, it's not such a huge deal. I just wanted to get it out of my system.

Oh, and while I'm here, I absolutely hate seeing DB's poop stains in the toilet. MB uses a separate bathroom, and my charge is an infant, so it couldn't be anyone else. I'll never bring this up because it's his place and, above all else, it will be way to personal, embarrassing, and awkward. But still... YUCK!