Hi Everyone! This is the OP here.

I just wanted to clarify I am 100% real and this was not a fake post.

I have to admit I am a bit surprised by some of the negative responses.
I am a newbie on here and didn't think my question would make anyone mad. I just had a little dilemma and wanted some insight from other nannies/families out there.

Honestly, I am not a stalker or anything.
While I am disappointed they found someone else, I would NEVER ever stalk a family.

OP, you really need to work on creating fake scenarios that seem real and something we can care about. Here, you fail.

Answer: They found someone who does a better job than you. Move on. Someone will hire you as a babysitter. It isn't a particularly hard job, especially if you don't do anything extra like the sitter that bested you.

Guess what, drama queen? They're just not that into you. Now move on and stop being the babysitter equivalent of a stalker ex-girlfriend.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An 11 year old knows how much you are both paid? Sure.

That's what I was thinking...

OP is a fake. Her tales go on forever.

Anonymous wrote:An 11 year old knows how much you are both paid? Sure.

That's what I was thinking...

This family already decided FOR YOU about you working for them. They decided that they would rather get more work out of someone which quite a few people do. You were not available for a month which is a long time if you are working weekly for them. They found someone to replace you and unless you had an agreement where you had certain days and hours you worked, and that after the one month (vacation basically) you would be back, then there really isn't anything that can be done. They needed someone and it seems like it was just a "call when we need you" type deal that they had with you. Well, they don't need you as much. If you want more loyalty, then you should find a regular schedule job and take that. If you have car problems and you NEED a car for the job, then find a replacement for during that time or see if there is a work around (taking the bus, a cab, walking, biking). What would you have done if this was a FT position and your car needed repairs? You have to act like this is an important position to be treated in the same way (them holding the work for you instead of someone else).

An 11 year old knows how much you are both paid? Sure.

I would be extremely cautious about the information you are receiving from an 11-year-old. At that age I'm sure I would tell each of my grandmothers that they were my favorite, and can I have another cookie?

I think the mature way to handle this would be to say to the parents - "I feel like you've been calling me less frequently than you used to - is there any issue that I should be aware of, so that I can address it?" See what they have to say.

Anonymous wrote:Isn't this our novelist? Same writing style.

+1

But if this is real you should...look for other families to babysit for? OP it sucks, sure, but that happens sometimes. Don't get bent out of shape, don't offer to become a housekeeper, just let them know you're available if they ever need someone and when they do, enjoy your time with the kids.

Isn't this our novelist? Same writing style.

I don't think there is much you can do here except respect that they found someone else who is doing more for the same money than you are willing to do.

It's ok that you don't want to do housework and it's ok that they value someone who will. With kids of 6 and 11 the position is far more babysitter than nanny so the parent's are likely (and reasonably) evaluating the needs differently than they would with infants or toddlers. That doesn't make them bad people, it just makes their needs and your preferences incompatible.

That's life.

Also, kids are manipulators so the adults judging the parents here, based on third hand knowledge of what an 11 year old said, are ridiculous.

Obviously this family cares about the bottom line more than they do their children's needs/wants, etc.

Parents like this make me sick.

It is obvious the kids like you better. Just for that reason and that reason alone the parents should call you instead of the other nanny.

But to them, it is more important to have clean floors.

Let this family go.
Everyone's true colors emerge sooner or later and this family values money over children.

Don't offer to do more cleaning. Babysitting gigs are a dime a dozen and you don't need to also be a housekeeper to get one. Most people just want someone punctual and responsible that will pay attention to their kids. This family wanted a housekeeper and someone who keeps the kids alive.

You are not a nanny, you are a babysitter. I'm sure it feels horrible to be replaced by a babysitter that fits the parents needs more. Find a new gig, or offer to do more cleaning.

I am a babysitter/nanny for a wonderful family of two girls, ages 6 & 11. I have been working for them for a little over a year and things have always been pretty good. The children are well~behaved and their parents are nice people and very easy to get along w/. I am paid well + they have always told me what a great caregiver I am and that the kids love me a lot.

I actually baby~sat for this family on a 1 to 2x wkly basis as well as a monthly 3 overnight basis.

Well a few months back, my car broke down....and I was out of a car for about a month since it needed major repairs. At the time, I was their only babysitter/nanny and since I was unavailable for a month, they went on CL to find another nanny to help them out in the meantime.

Once I got my car fixed, I told my bosses I was going to be available and they said, "Great!" However I noticed they were calling me to work less + less.

Anyway, the oldest daughter confided something to me.
She told me that the reason I was being called less and less is because the new nanny her parents found actually did housework when she was there. She told me she vacuumed the whole house, mopped the floors, did family laundry and washed the dinner dishes, etc. I laughed + said she probably was being paid more, but the daughter told me her parents said she was being paid the same amount I am. She told me that she and her little sister had told the parents they didn't like the new nanny...they told them they liked me much better, but the parents started calling this new nanny instead of me because they got someone to baby~sit AND clean for the same price they got me just to baby~sit.

Let me clarify that I am a great nanny.
I interact w/my charges and help w/homework. I play cards w/them, read/draw w/them as well as take them outside to the playground, etc.
I cook them dinner and assist the younger one w/bathing.
While I wash whatever dishes I use during my stay as well as pick up the toys/books used, that is the extent of my housework. I do not mop/vacuum nor have the parents ever requested it.

Anyway, now they found someone who will baby~sit & clean for the same price as someone who just "baby~sits." While their kids prefer me to come, their parents choose to take the "better deal."
Also, now they only call me when the other nanny is busy or ill.

This has made me re~think working for them.

On one hand, I can kind of see things from their perspective. I mean...everyone wants the best "deal" right?

But I hate playing second fiddle now and I feel this family is not being loyal to me.

For the record, they knew my car situation would only be temporary and it seems I went from being their main go to girl, to their back~up girl.

What should I do??