Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 21:55     Subject: I LOVE my charges
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that this is an upsetting situation, but I really think you need to get some perspective here. It is your job to be with these children 40 (and for some of us more) hours a week. At the end of the day though, we go home, they are not our children. And there always has to be the knowledge that it is not permanent. Part of the makings of a good nanny is the ability to detach, on some levels, that is why we can approach difficult situations more successful than parents some times.


You don't make up the rules ("Part of being a good nanny is the ability to deatach").. Not that's not part of making a good nanny. I'd rather have OP caring for my children over you ANY day. You don't just choose to care. If you're working full time for years, you will definitely become attached to the children. You watch them grow, you're with them more waking hours then their own parents. It's natural to have emotions, and it's natural to feel sad when you have to end your job. OP's a big girl, she'll get over it.. But stop playing Dr. Phil and stop telling her what makes a good nanny.. Because you obviously don't know..


+1

It should be hard to say goodbye to children you've grown to love! If after two years you don't love the kids you spend 40+ hours a week with, there's something wrong with YOU.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 21:37     Subject: I LOVE my charges
PP again -

**Detach

**Not that it's not

Sorry, I was rushing threw my comment.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 21:35     Subject: I LOVE my charges
Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that this is an upsetting situation, but I really think you need to get some perspective here. It is your job to be with these children 40 (and for some of us more) hours a week. At the end of the day though, we go home, they are not our children. And there always has to be the knowledge that it is not permanent. Part of the makings of a good nanny is the ability to detach, on some levels, that is why we can approach difficult situations more successful than parents some times.


You don't make up the rules ("Part of being a good nanny is the ability to deatach").. Not that's not part of making a good nanny. I'd rather have OP caring for my children over you ANY day. You don't just choose to care. If you're working full time for years, you will definitely become attached to the children. You watch them grow, you're with them more waking hours then their own parents. It's natural to have emotions, and it's natural to feel sad when you have to end your job. OP's a big girl, she'll get over it.. But stop playing Dr. Phil and stop telling her what makes a good nanny.. Because you obviously don't know..
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 21:32     Subject: I LOVE my charges
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So tough Worst/hardest part about being a nanny for me has definitely been leaving each family. Wish you the best and hope you can move on and keep in touch with your family.


OP again.

This is my first longterm/full-time nanny job. I just don't know how people can leave someone that they've known and loved for years? I am probably overly attached, but I just don't want to just stop seeing them..... I mean, I've spent 40 hours a week with these children for years, and then just leave?


If your bosses even have the slightest decency they will let you visit your charges for their childrens sake.. Even if it's just to slowly pull away. They know their children are most definitely attached to you and at two years of age they will definitely notice your absence. Are you close with the family? Have they mentioned you visiting the kids?

Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 12:52     Subject: I LOVE my charges
Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that this is an upsetting situation, but I really think you need to get some perspective here. It is your job to be with these children 40 (and for some of us more) hours a week. At the end of the day though, we go home, they are not our children. And there always has to be the knowledge that it is not permanent. Part of the makings of a good nanny is the ability to detach, on some levels, that is why we can approach difficult situations more successful than parents some times.


If you're a nanny than you should know that this is easier for some than others. Just because OP feels so attached her her charges doesn't make her any less of a 'good nanny'... it actually makes her a great one. What parent wouldn't want that kind of genuine care for their children? OP never said they were hers.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 10:19     Subject: I LOVE my charges
OP, I understand that this is an upsetting situation, but I really think you need to get some perspective here. It is your job to be with these children 40 (and for some of us more) hours a week. At the end of the day though, we go home, they are not our children. And there always has to be the knowledge that it is not permanent. Part of the makings of a good nanny is the ability to detach, on some levels, that is why we can approach difficult situations more successful than parents some times.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 10:11     Subject: Re:I LOVE my charges
I can only imgaine how you must feel. I was only with my last charges for 6 months and I miss them tons! I am going over after lunch to give them a cuddle and spent some time with them before my move
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 07:24     Subject: I LOVE my charges
I hear you OP. I'm probably overly attached as well but it's so hard not to get attached to children you are helping raise for years of their lives. I've been w/ my current family for 2 years (was here for the birth of my charge, and now MB is expecting again). So when the day comes for me to move on I will have been here for the birth of both children. I don't even like to think about it! Makes me too sad.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2013 00:05     Subject: I LOVE my charges
Anonymous wrote:So tough Worst/hardest part about being a nanny for me has definitely been leaving each family. Wish you the best and hope you can move on and keep in touch with your family.


OP again.

This is my first longterm/full-time nanny job. I just don't know how people can leave someone that they've known and loved for years? I am probably overly attached, but I just don't want to just stop seeing them..... I mean, I've spent 40 hours a week with these children for years, and then just leave?
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2013 23:33     Subject: I LOVE my charges
So tough Worst/hardest part about being a nanny for me has definitely been leaving each family. Wish you the best and hope you can move on and keep in touch with your family.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2013 23:29     Subject: I LOVE my charges
Nanny to 3 year old twin girls here my position ends the 24th of march and ive been with them since they were 9 weeks old but thankfully i have them for the entire weekend so i have some fun things planned. but its seriously killing me.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2013 17:36     Subject: I LOVE my charges
I have to leave my family at the end of this year after 4 awesome years. I tear up thinking about it every time even now. I have no idea how I am going to do it in November!
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2013 10:31     Subject: I LOVE my charges
My job is ending soon, I've been with the girls since they were 2 months old, they will be two when i leave. I know I'm going to cry my last day, seeing as i cried when i found out my end date
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2013 10:14     Subject: I LOVE my charges
Aw. I hope my nanny feels that way about our kids. We are military, and leaving in about a year and a half. She's been with DS#2 since he was 2 months old, and she'll be here when DC#3 is born. I'm already sad for them that we'll have to leave her; I hope she's at least a little sad too.

As for how to leave, give lots of notice, and if you can help with the transition so you don't just disappear, that would be great.
Anonymous
Post 03/12/2013 00:16     Subject: I LOVE my charges
Two children.

I've been with the youngest since he was born, and now he's almost 2 and I know I'm going to have to leave the family in a year and I don't know how.