Anonymous wrote:
If an MB says to me "We have a Dr appt Wednesday morning so we don't need you until 10am. Could you do 10am-7pm instead of 8am-5pm?" I honestly wouldn't have a problem with this, if it was only an occasional thing. My MB is very flexible with me, and I am with her. It's when either party starts to take advantage that it becomes a problem.
For example, one of my first nanny jobs, I had guaranteed hours. They went away one week and still paid me (as agreed upon). When they returned, they asked me if I could "make up" the 45 hours by spending an entire weekend with the kids (Fri PM until Sun PM). I agreed, because I was still new and thought it made sense. Now I would never agree to that since it is just not reasonable for me.
These are good examples. Both are legitimate examples of what banking hours means. The variation in the examples is in amount and frequency. This is something that can be negotiated as well. For example, you could set guidelines that no more than X hours can be banked in a given week and banked hours must be used within the specified time frames.
I completely agree that a reasonable employer and reasonable nanny can bank hours in way that "feels" fair to everyone. However, there are unreasonable nannies who seek every possible windfall of extra PTO and unreasonable employers who expect banking to mean making up an entire week of work in one weekend.
Nannies do need to remember that the burden is on YOU to negotiate the terms that you want upfront.
If you don't ask for a perk and the employer doesn't offer it in the contract, you have no right to be pissed off when you don't get it! No one is taking advantage of you, you need to be upfront in the beginning. Its also wise to think through compromise solutions and counter offer if your prospective employer turns down a request during the hiring negotiations.