The kids are 7 9 and 12 so i think its a little different then if i were to nanny for a younger child who couldn't just tell the mom about there day.

They are very nice people just horrible to work for. Lesson learned for next job put a strict 3-4 hour Min to come into work for.

It's not your fault, OP. I just can't imagine not seeing my nanny for six months. Never heard of anything like that before.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, make it short and sweet. If you can make her feel like she's an awesome MB, that's usually all they want to hear.

But she isn't even a nice MB to nanny, let alone awesome. E mail is not passi e aggressive (DCUM's buzz name for anything one of them doesn't like) and if thank you notes via email are considered acceptable, resigning by email is also acceptable. There have been nannies who have been fired by email

The mother work untill 11 pm at night and i leave at 6/630 pm with the dad gets home. When i do the morning shift i see the dad due to the mom is already at work. She works 7-11 but only works 1-2 days a week therefore i only see her husband and the kids.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think they are dumb. Unlike you, however, I also don't assume they'd lie. Sure, she can do that, but maybe she isn't that kind of person. Maybe she legit wants advice about how to do this in a responsible way. She sounds reasonable and forthright. No reason for me to assume she plans to or should lie, and if she doesn't lie to her next employer, that doesn't make her dumb, it makes her a good person.

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WTF????!!!!

Thanks for all the advice.

I am going to tell DB in person today after work (pick kids up fom school so don't see him till i'm leaving) and then email MB after i tell him. I haven't seen her in about 6 months or so (We text about kids etc) i would wait till i'm going to see her but doubt i will see her in the next month even if they do keep me on for the full month.

I think this is a terrible job, and they were lucky to have you as long as they did.

If you want to, you could say that your needs have changed, and you can no longer wirk 1-hour shifts. If they can guarantee (2? 3?) hours, you'll be happy to stay on, otherwise you need to look for something new.

You CAN do it over email, but if you do it in person and send an email confirming, she can't claim she never received it.

I don't think they are dumb. Unlike you, however, I also don't assume they'd lie. Sure, she can do that, but maybe she isn't that kind of person. Maybe she legit wants advice about how to do this in a responsible way. She sounds reasonable and forthright. No reason for me to assume she plans to or should lie, and if she doesn't lie to her next employer, that doesn't make her dumb, it makes her a good person.

Do you really think nannies are dumb? You say you were doing something else during that time. Easy to "forget" nightmare jobs, especially since most of them were off the books anyway.

I wouldn't. Why can't you just tell Db in person, and let him know you want to discuss with Mb when she is available. You can then follow up with an email to Mb. Yes they haven't treated you well, but that's no reason for you to lower your own standards to sink to her level. Plus, at some point in the month you will see Mb, and no reason to make it more uncomfortable. And, you never want anyone to say "she quit via email/text" because if you do that, it would be a true statement, and you will always be stuck in the defensive position of saying "we'll, yes, but what happened was..." And that's not a good starting point for the next job.

Yes, make it short and sweet. If you can make her feel like she's an awesome MB, that's usually all they want to hear.

I would say an e-mail is probably ok. In the e-mail I would acknowledge that you are doing this via e-mail because you so rarely have a chance to talk to MB in person. Do you see her in the mornings? If so, you might offer to come in 10 minutes early one day to talk about it more if she wants. If you don't see her in the morning either, I would tell her to feel free to call to discuss it further with you.

As for the why, I would just tell her the schedule is no longer working for you and leave it at that, don't go in to too many details.

You do what you need to do. You can't expect much from them. That goes both ways, duh....

Absolutely not, it's extremely passive aggressive, unprofessional, and immature.

I have worked part time for a Family A for a year and a half. I have been very unhappy recenltly with my schudule changes and feel like i am now being taken advatagne of . I had agreed to work a morning once in a while to help them out , So i go in for 7 am and drop the girls off at 750 for school and am off by 8 till i pick them up again at school at 2.(the mother as a nurse has to go in once a month for a morning shift , which i agreed to but the other shifts she is just picking up bc she wants to) I do only live 5 minutes away , but to get up at 630 am to go in for only an hour of pay isn't worth it due to the fact i sometimes work later night or long days with my other family the night before (which i have made them aware of in the past). I also only work 1-2 days a week with this family and 2-3 days with another family.

I just got my schudule for the upcoming month and a half and she has me down for 12 morning shifts (two of which i agreed to because she is going out of town for work conference). I did have a chat with her around Christmas and explained due to working some late nights i preffered not to work so early for a short period of time. Her DB will go into work a little later on the days she works the mornings (nurse) if she picks up the shift last minute and i'm not able to do it. ( I was smart enough to put a three hour min in for the other family due to the fact they live a little further away , 30 minutes and they never expect morning help just after school and some later nights)

I also am unhappy they have cancelled shifts very last minute (night before) and haven't paid or offered me to make the time up. (sometimes sick kid , once she just wanted a day off to run errands and was going to take kids with her) In a year and a half i have called out once and gave 5 hours notice like required because i was really sick. Also my end time is "whenever my husband gets home" typically its 615 or so but sometimes it can be 630 or as early as 530 and i am only paid till he gets home yet can't make personal plans till after 630 due to not knowing.

I don't see MB at all because DB gets home a few hours before her. I occasionally will call her , leave a voice mail and she will text me back even if i mentioned giving me a quick call back. So it seems as she prefers texting.

I am giving a month notice like required by MB (I was her first nanny hired so no idea if she will keep me the full month or not) Either way i have Family B i work for who i am going to be picking up extra hours with.

Can i email / text to her letting her know that i am no longer able to do more then one morning a month so think its a better fit if she looks for someone who will better suit her needs ? (shes going to have a hard time finding someone else due to cancelling a lot last minute and not paying , not paying for gas , etc ) Should i in my email mention to her in the future so she might have better luck with the next nanny ? They are a very nice family just not great to work for and its half my fault for not bringing things up to her its just hard when you never see MB and shes in charge of your hours etc.