OP, Would you mind sharing how you valued money-wise that you're living in and not living out? Or, put another way, what percentage of your regular rate you're charging to live in to reflect the benefit you're getting of not paying rent? I've been considering doing a live-in situation and am finding that some candidates place no $$ value on living in and others charge quite a bit less if they plan on living in . Thanks.

I'm not the OP but you don't want to hire a nanny who prefers to be a live out and is only considering the job because she can't find a live out job. These are the candidates looking for the same rate. Frankly, if they are not good enough to find a full time live out job then you shouldn't hire them anyway let alone pay a premium for them.

You really want to find someone who wants to be a live in nanny and is interested in the cost savings from no room and board expense or wants to relocate to an area.

OP here. My situation is unique because I'll be relocating to a different state. When I was approached with the offer I said I would only consider it if it was financially benecial for me. Basically, I will be making the same amount of money I make at my current job but I will not have to pay rent. They are offering a live in position because they are asking me to relocate and it makes it easier on me. If I decide I want to stay long term I will get my own place and move all my stuff down.

I honestly don't know much about what is typical for live in situations because I've never done it and never thought I would even consider it. This opportunity just happened to come along at the right time and I'm going to give it a shot.

Lots of live-ins still maintains their own place elsewhere, and go home on the weekends. Not everyone can live out of some dresser drawers and a closet.

OP, Would you mind sharing how you valued money-wise that you're living in and not living out? Or, put another way, what percentage of your regular rate you're charging to live in to reflect the benefit you're getting of not paying rent? I've been considering doing a live-in situation and am finding that some candidates place no $$ value on living in and others charge quite a bit less if they plan on living in . Thanks.

That is so fortunate, OP. It is always best when you know the family in advance. Plus, they probably want their friends (your former employers) to know that they are treating you well.

OP here. I am in a fortunate position where I already know my future employers. They are friends with my current employers. That alleviates many of the fears about being treated unfairly. I wouldn't consider a live-in position with complete strangers. They know what kind of working relationship I have with my current employers and want to have the same type of arrangement.

Thank you for all the suggestions. It's very helpful!

-in your bedroom, that is.

Yes, like a renter. Make sure there are no secret cameras hidden in the smoke detector. You never know with some people.

See if you can get a feel for if they will respect the fact that you are in fact paying to live there (through a reduced salary) and that your privacy and space will be respected. I can understand requesting to meet guests and even ruling against no overnight male guests, however you live there too and should feel comfortable having friends over. It's their house, but you ARE paying for the space.

Anonymous wrote:What, not bathroom??! I never heard of that.

That's new to me to. There's a first time for everything. I've been here for days and I'm already in search for something else. Unfortunately during interview, everyone is nice. True colors come within days later..

Ask about groceries and if you are to buy your own. Same with use of laundry detergent and facilities. Discuss overtime, sick days, and vacation days. Good luck.

What, not bathroom??! I never heard of that.

Make sure to get the family's last nanny contact, call her and ask for reference. I'm currently having trouble with the family, I never asked for their reference, just like they do with us. The family expect me to work 10 hours STRAIGHT with no bathroom or lunch breaks. It's just ridiculous. I'm out.

1. For room and board, what things will they provide and what should you bring is a good question. For au pairs the family usually buys things like shampoo, toothpaste but for live in nannies they usually take care of this on their own.

2. Guest policies. Its their house and you aren't a renter. Its better to either assume no guests or ask specifically about what the protocols are for having female friends over.

3. Shared areas when you are not working. This really is up to your personality and their personality as well as the living spaces. Do you want to be hanging out in the family room with them after work? Do they want privacy

I've been offered a live-in position and I am almost positive I am going to accept it.

Obviously, being a live-in nanny is much different from the live-out positions I have had in the past. We will be meeting soon to discuss the specifics. I would like to have a list of things to be discussed before the job begins. Can other live-ins or MBs with live-ins please help me brainstorm? I would like the transition to be as seamless as possible but this is new for both me and my employers. There are bound to be hiccups along the way, but I think the more communication we have from the start, the better off we will be.

What did you discuss at the beginning? Are there things that came up that you wish you had addressed from the start?