Anonymous
02/07/2013 11:52
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
These posts are ridiculous. Are there employers who mistreat their nannies? Sure.
Are their nannies who mistreat their employers and charges? Sure.
One of our beloved nannies ended up stealing from us. We were blind to it, even tho our belongings kept going missing, because we simply couldn't believe that she could do that to us. On the outside, she seemed to adore our child.
Does this mean I think all nannies are liars and cheats? Of course not. We are now a little more careful and a little less trusting probably, but our subsequent nanny is awesome and we love her.
Point being that while these things happen, you just simply move on.
Are their nannies who mistreat their employers and charges? Sure.
One of our beloved nannies ended up stealing from us. We were blind to it, even tho our belongings kept going missing, because we simply couldn't believe that she could do that to us. On the outside, she seemed to adore our child.
Does this mean I think all nannies are liars and cheats? Of course not. We are now a little more careful and a little less trusting probably, but our subsequent nanny is awesome and we love her.
Point being that while these things happen, you just simply move on.
Anonymous
02/07/2013 11:32
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Agreed parents should have back up care in place even on short notice, but even then, the nanny search can take a while and most parents can't rely on their back up care indefinitely. I believe this happens but I am genuinely confused as to why (again, unless there is a reason not to trust the nanny in the interim). The way this story is posted on this board, it sounds like it basically happens every time a nanny gives notice but it really makes no sense.
Anonymous
02/07/2013 00:44
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gosh, maybe the parent did a little parenting?
The mere thought is horrifying, huh?
Actually I was being serious. Nannies post stories like this all the time and they just baffle me. Why would an MB fire a nanny who is quitting anyway (unless for some reason you don't trust her). Doesn't she need to use her notice period to find other care? Don't the parents still have jobs to go to?
And FWIW, the fact that DH and I both work does not mean we don't parent. But apparently the idea that parents who hire nannies may actually be good parents is what is horrifying to you, right?
Maybe they have someone they can use on a temp basis already and so they can fire the nanny right away. Shouldn't all parents have a backup sitter/daycare available anyways for if the nanny is sick/is on vacation etc? Some people might have family nearby that can help out for a couple of weeks.
Anonymous
02/07/2013 00:08
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Anonymous wrote:Gosh, maybe the parent did a little parenting?
The mere thought is horrifying, huh?
Actually I was being serious. Nannies post stories like this all the time and they just baffle me. Why would an MB fire a nanny who is quitting anyway (unless for some reason you don't trust her). Doesn't she need to use her notice period to find other care? Don't the parents still have jobs to go to?
And FWIW, the fact that DH and I both work does not mean we don't parent. But apparently the idea that parents who hire nannies may actually be good parents is what is horrifying to you, right?
Anonymous
02/06/2013 02:18
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Gosh, maybe the parent did a little parenting?
The mere thought is horrifying, huh?
The mere thought is horrifying, huh?
Anonymous
02/05/2013 22:22
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Anonymous wrote:
The nanny gave the family the agreed upon notice.
And the MB fired the nanny in a huff.
The nanny had been with them for five years.
Hmmm. What are we to learn from this all to common occurance??
Advice?
What did the MB do for childcare until she found a replacement?
Anonymous
02/05/2013 21:25
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Anonymous wrote:So many parents suddenly turn into monsters when you tell them you're leaving. They think they own you - like an indentured servant.
It's true! Perfectly nice, warm people you've been working for for YEARS can change on a dime as soon as you say you're leaving. It's a weird experience and you can understand why a nanny would feel burned, having believed that she'd built a trusting relationship with them and was doing everything she could in good faith for them only to be dismissed so callously.
Anonymous
02/05/2013 20:53
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
So many parents suddenly turn into monsters when you tell them you're leaving. They think they own you - like an indentured servant.
Anonymous
02/05/2013 20:49
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Anonymous wrote:As an MB this makes no sense to me. Does this happen frequently? I have no delusions that our nanny will be with us forever, and I would appreciate as much notice as she can give so that I can make other childcare arrangements without being time-crunched. I would imagine most parents feel the same way . . .
Agree. Unless the family had a good reason to think the nanny was going to harm their children based on the way she gave notice or the reasons she gave for leaving, why would this situation occur?
Anonymous
02/05/2013 20:46
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
As an MB this makes no sense to me. Does this happen frequently? I have no delusions that our nanny will be with us forever, and I would appreciate as much notice as she can give so that I can make other childcare arrangements without being time-crunched. I would imagine most parents feel the same way . . .
Anonymous
02/05/2013 20:44
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Always have a job lined up before notice is given. Don't try to give months for them to replace you, it will only bite you in the butt! People don't want you caring for their children if they think you don't want to be there. As soon as notice is given MB will feel very different about you and send you on your way. The only way to avoid this is to say your moving or going to school FT, sometimes even that isn't going to prevent everything from changing.
Anonymous
02/05/2013 20:11
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
People don't give a damn about domestic workers. They think they are better than us. Don't buy that bullshit they try to feed us "you're like a member of the family". That's code for "you should be willing to work for free, do whatever we ask, and never complain or give notice".
Anonymous
02/05/2013 20:08
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
What can you do? Nothing. It sucks yeah but life goes on. Find another job and carry on.
Anonymous
02/05/2013 20:03
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
Please do tell, what is it, that we're missing here?
Anonymous
02/05/2013 19:50
Subject: Another nanny taken advantage of....
The nanny gave the family the agreed upon notice.
And the MB fired the nanny in a huff.
The nanny had been with them for five years.
Hmmm. What are we to learn from this all to common occurance??
Advice?